“White men in the white supremacist movement want women who are fertile. That's their most important function,” Reaves said.”They are, you know, breeders who can create the next generation of white warrior babies. And then after that, they're supposed to be supporting their husbands. They're supposed to be building and keeping a beautiful home. And then, of course, raising all these many white children. So that's the set of demands that are placed on women in the white supremacist movement.”
Meanwhile, the incel and online misogynist movements, broadly known as the “manosphere,” want women to go back to their “places.”
“They say they have their own views of how women should behave, but it's all very retrograde,” Reaves said. “Like it's 1950 all over again. Women need to know their place. Women need to understand that men are in charge, women are taking too many liberties with the way they dress, the way they speak, the way they run for public office. So there's very much a need to contain women and that's true across the board. There are just different ways of expressing it in the white supremacist community versus the misogynist manosphere.”
Ultimately, Reaves wants people to see that misogyny is a dangerous element of extremist violence that has been long overlooked and needs to be reckoned with.
“We just need to elevate misogyny into this space where people are taking it seriously, where people are calling it out for what it is and where people are recognizing that it has a real-life impact,” said Reaves. “It has impact on women's bodily autonomy in terms of domestic violence. It has an effect on women's ability to go to a hot yoga class or walk down the street in Toronto or to belong to a sorority in you know, Southern California, these are all places where men have attacked women because they have felt that women were not treating them the way they deserve to be treated. Specifically, that they were not having sex to the extent that they felt they deserved.”
For Reaves and the ADL, extremism is a product not of hate but of the refusal of our society to face our own history of institutionalized violence against women and people of color.
“We are a country founded on white supremacy. We are a country founded on misogyny,” said Reaves. “There are so many things that are formed, the backbone of this country — in our society— that we have to deal with. And we have never dealt with any of these things.”
Hear more of my conversation with Jessica Reaves, Editorial Director of The Center on Extremism at ADL, in the latest episode of "Inflection Point."
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