Dear Dreamer 8

BLACK WEDDING DRESSDEAR SUZ: A few nights ago, I dreamed that I was getting married to my boyfriend, who on the wedding day, said he had a business trip and wasn't going to be able to make it. For some reason, the wedding still went on but none of my family or friends showed up, except for my grandmother who kept saying everything would be all right overtime I started to cry. His entire family was there and when I tried to be friendly to them, they were mean to me. My wedding dress was black lace, which freaked me out. I was scared to death to get up in front of all the guests who obviously didn't like me at all, when my boyfriend showed up in casual clothes like nothing ever happened. Then, I woke up.DEAR DREAMER: Your dream illustrates the supreme and sometimes complex paradox of the dreaming world. In your dream, you find yourself experiencing the "anti-wedding." Everything in your dream-story tells a tale of opposition. The dress is black, your family does not show up, you are crying and your boyfriend does not seem to be aware of what is going on. Yours is a dream of staggering doubt and confusion. I wondered what was happening in your waking world to create such an extreme vision of sleep. Are you having trouble in your relationship? Do you doubt your boyfriend's love? Further, do you doubt yourself? I suggest you take some time and ponder how you view love and commitment. Look at the bonds you have forged and contemplate personal fulfillment. Remember that love is not only about giving, but receiving as well. Once you understand what motivates you to embrace love, your dream will lead you to higher vistas of self- empowerment.Keep Dreaming! SUZBACK TO MAUIDEAR DREAMER: I keep dreaming that I move back to Maui. I used to live out there and I wake up completely scared and then I start to remember why I left in the first place. This is probably like the fourth time I had the same dream. I'm there in Hawaii and the feeling is not good I'm scared and wonder why I am back there.DEAR DREAMER: Your dream illustrates how vital association is in dreaming. I have spent a great deal of time in Hawaii. While most people would equate Hawaii with paradise and tranquility, you obviously carry feelings of negativity and doubt in relation to your former home. Your return to Maui is not one filled with joy. Since you make no mention of why you left, it is hard for me to gage the best way for you to use your dream to further your future. Yet, your dream is asking you to react and reflect on the changes you have made in life. How far have you come since you lived there? Are you proud of your accomplishments in your new life? Seek out greater appreciation for the world you live in. Embrace the courage you have shown! Once you know the person you have become instead of the person you once were, you will be able to put this dream in the proper perspective.Keep Dreaming! SUZWhat have you been dreaming lately? Email Suz at dearsuz @themindsite.com and be part of her column! Suz Andreasen is an internationally syndicated columnist. Her insights and bedrock advice have aided millions in the pursuit of healing and innovative living. Learn more about Suz by visiting her at www.themindsite.com.