Dear Dreamer 12

CHOKINGDEAR SUZ: I had a dream about this guy at work. I should not be dating him because I am his manager. In addition, the day I dreamed this, we had kissed for the first time. Everyone from work was in the dream, and we were on the campus of the university I attend. We were escaping from a jail, through a window, but we were underground. When we got out, everything was vividly green, all the grass and leaves, but everything else was dull. Several of us got out through the window, and we were running up this huge hill, away from the jailers. I heard somebody scream a name. I looked, and he was choking. He collapsed. I looked around, frantic, and I saw my brother, who is my manager, standing on top of the hill. I ran up to him and was screaming and crying for him to help. He just stood there, staring at me, like a mannequin. I ran to the other manager, who has a mothering personality, crying and very upset that my brother would not help. I heard some cheering in the background, then everyone was around me, and they told me he was okay. I ran over to him. I began to cry because I was so happy. He put his arm around me. His shirt was a bright purple color, which is the color of his work shirt that he usually wears. Then I was on a futuristic highway, with bright neon purple lights everywhere. When I woke up I was confused, and I had a pain in my heart, not a literal pain, but I was scared that he had really gotten hurt. It was as if I felt like I could not live without him, I felt awkward.DEAR DREAMER: Your dream is very interesting because it sheds light on your feelings regarding the man you love at work as well as hidden emotions of resentment towards your brother. When I read this dream, I wondered if you make mental connections between your brother and this man from work. The essence of your dream is your feeling the need to protect the man you love from scandal. You mention you "should not" be seeing him because you work together. In your dream, you do everything in your power to save him from choking. Choking is a metaphor for suffocation, or lack of freedom. Since you are not open about your relationship and you are his boss, this obviously has caused you concern. The portion of your dream that refers to your brother indicates you have pent up frustration towards him. Do you feel he has let you down in some way? Has he been a distant figure in your life? Once you determine how you feel about your brother, and put aside your fears for your coworker, your dream will make sense. A new view on relationships will be yours.Keep Dreaming! SUZPLAYING GAMESDEAR SUZ: I had this dream the other night, and I have debated about putting it up here. It was confusing. I am out with a woman. I do not know who she is. We go back to her home at the end of the evening and we are sitting in her kitchen. I remember standing in one corner of the kitchen close to the door (leading out of the house) and she was sitting at the table.As we are talking, this guy walks in. Apparently, he lives there. He walks by me as if I am not there and walks over to the table and sits down. I continue to talk to the woman, and attempt to make conversation with this new character. He does not speak. He just leans on the table and stares at me very intently ... looking mildly amused. He looks angry. He wants to start a fight. After several minutes of this, and realizing that the woman is actually enjoying the situation, I decide to leave, because I am getting angry. As I walk out, he begins to shout insults, and she says, "No, don't." This guy's car is blocking my truck, so I walk back to the door and very calmly say, "You might want to move your car before I drive over it." At this point, I wake up, and I can only remember wondering what brought that on. I am not currently dating anyone, so I wonder who this woman is.DEAR DREAMER: Your dream lady is the persona of you! Your dream is about anger. You are angry with the other man, and fed up with his behavior. In the dream, the woman remains passive. In the end, you tell the man you will drive over his car, because you are so enraged.I suggest you examine the dream in terms of pent up emotions of hostility and rage. Do you feel you let things pass when you should make your anger more clear? Have you had a recent incident with a friend or co-worker that frustrated you? Perhaps you are angry at life. These are the issues that need to be addressed. If you look at your life and ask yourself where your anger lies, you will surely find the deeper meaning to your dream.Keep Dreaming! SUZWhat have you been dreaming lately? Email Suz at dearsuz @themindsite.com and be part of her column! Suz Andreasen is an internationally syndicated columnist. Her insights and bedrock advice have aided millions in the pursuit of healing and innovative living. Learn more about Suz by visiting her at www.themindsite.com.