Sex & Relationships

Hey Guys, Having Problems Achieving a Prostate Orgasm? These Techniques Can Get You Over the Hump

For one reason or another, a lot of guys just can’t reach that climax they’ve been pining for.

Gentlemen, are you having difficulty achieving prostate orgasm?

Prostate pleasure is a topic that I’m passionate about. I love prostate play.  I enjoy all the tingly sensations. And I always look forward to my next super-O.

Unfortunately, there are lots of guys who just can’t seem to reach orgasm via prostate stimulation.  They’ve been playing with anal toys and butt plugs, using their fingers, and a whole host of other things, but they just can’t seem to reach the elusive prostate orgasm. They’ve tried massage with a partner, and while solo.  But nothing happens.  They might almost get there, but, for one reason or another, they just can’t reach that climax they’ve been pining for.

Even I was skeptical at first

Ironically, the very first time I received a prostate massage, I had the orgasm of the century. However, I think it had more to do with my state of mind at the time, than anything else. On that particular day, my girlfriend really put the sexy moves on me, and I probably could have orgasmed from anything at that point.

But the next time I tried for it, nothing. So I kept trying. And trying. It always felt good, but I just couldn’t hit the big O again. I experimented with anal plugs, dildos and fingers, but I still couldn’t get there. In fact, it would be another three months and at least 20 sessions before I had another one. I wasn’t with that sexy girlfriend anymore, so she wasn’t able to help me out…bummer.

Thank goodness I persisted, because after the second month, I was almost ready to toss in the towel and give up on prostate play. It was just too much work, for no return.

Here is what changed things for me

I decided to educate myself and stop flying by the seat of my pants. So, I hopped online and did some research. Imagine that; a man asking for directions! I wanted to understand the physiology of the male body, particularly the rectal area and prostate. Surely a more scientific approach would help me get things going.

So I read a few blogs, and some Wiki articles. I stopped by some of the popular men’s sex toy sites and researched some more. After grabbing some bits and pieces of information from all over the place, I was able to formulate a plan that would hopefully get me back on track.

The number one thing that helped me get the most from prostate play? Relaxation. I found that planning ahead, and allowing time for myself, was the key.  A preparation routine including a hot shower and some light masturbation became a part of my process. This allowed me to relax my mind and body, in preparation for the mind-numbing orgasms that were soon to come.

I’ve also accumulated the results of my findings into a detailed guide.

Every guy is unique

Men are as varied as the stars and planets in the sky. A vibrating prostate toy sends me to the ropes every time I use it. That same toy might not even make you tingle.

Pro tip: if standard massagers aren’t working for you, consider a vibrating toy, or even a dildo. Sometimes a longer device, or a vibrator can work wonders for a stubborn prostate that won’t give you an orgasm.

This is why it’s important to practice. If one technique doesn’t work, try another.  If a certain toy doesn’t work for you, don’t be afraid to try something different. If you’re really stuck in a rut and don’t know what to do next, you can see what’s working for other guys, or just ask me!

It’s frustrating when prostate massage doesn’t seem to be working. Remember: practice makes perfect. Keep trying and don't give up!

If all else fails…

Here are some things to consider:

Some men will NEVER experience prostate orgasm

Yes, it’s a fact.

Why do I say that? Well, lots of guys aren’t really dedicated to the art of prostate pleasure…and yes, it is an art.  It takes practice and patience, neither of which are easy. I believe this is why so many guys just give up, or don’t even give it a try.  In a nutshell, how bad do you want it?

Are some men unable to have these orgasms?

That’s a tricky question.  I personally believe that all men are capable of experiencing this exotic pleasure, barring a physical or emotional condition that prevents it.  For the remaining disbelievers, I think they just haven’t found the right technique or toy to get them off.  As I said above, it might take some practice.  Some guys naturally are able to have those earth shattering, bucket filling orgasms. It’s easy for them. For others…not so much.

Preparation and massage techniques are important

There is lots of great information on the web about how to choose a prostate massager. But, when it comes to using one, there isn’t a lot of good info. So I decided to write a guide of my own!  If you’re new to prostate massage, then you’ve landed on the right page!  Even if you’re an advanced user, you might still find something useful.

For me, the most exciting thing about male P-spot massage is the chance to have...multiple orgasms.

Yes, you read that right. I’m in it for the multiples. 

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