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Adult Breast Feeding, Anyone? Inside the World of Breast Fetishism

The more time goes by, the more eroticized the breast becomes.

We see images of them plastered across shop windows and magazine covers, flashing across television screens. If you get stuck on a crowded subway, you’re likely to bump into a few pairs. Breasts are everywhere, and they come in all different shapes, sizes and colors. You can play with them. You can drink from them. You can make them bigger and you can make them smaller. But as versatile as breasts are, one simple truth remains: the more time goes by, the more eroticized the breast becomes.

Feminist writer Elizabeth Gould Davis argues it wasn’t always this way. She insists that the ancient women of Çatalhöyük decorated shrine walls with images of disembodied breasts, allowing them to exist all on their own and revering them as “instruments of motherhood.” It wasn’t until what she terms the “patriarchal revolution” took place that the breast was assigned a sexual significance.

Others aren’t so sure. In The Naked Ape Desmond Morris explains that in apes, the female’s round, padded buttock operates as a sex-signaling device, letting the male know when to approach. As humans evolved toward bipedalism and began engaging in face-to-face copulation, we needed a similar way to signal sex. It’s for this purpose that breasts took on the round fleshy shape they are characterized by today. 

Lately, it seems that signaling has gotten a little out of hand. Adult model Mayra Hills (aka Beshine) sports size ZZZ breasts, which weigh a total of 42 pounds. She claims to have the largest pair of augmented breasts in the world. Busty Heart made headlines when she used her 40H cup breasts to smash a series of objects on America’s Got Talent.

According to a report released by the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, there were 286,254 breast-augmentation procedures performed in the United States in 2014. Take those stats, shake in the state of pop culture and it seems our fascination with breasts is here to stay. But for those who think there’s no new territory left to explore, dig deeper. There’s always something lurking in the far corners of the web.

The Fetish Community

Breast fetishism is clinically known as “mazophilia.” It falls under the DSM category of partialism, meaning an exclusive focus on one part of the body. Dr. Anil Aggrawal refers to breast partialists as those with, “an exclusive or almost exclusive reliance on breasts as a stimulus for sexual arousal.” There are a number of categories breast partialists can fall into. A simple Google search demonstrates just how wide the community spans.

Erotic Lactation

Also known as milk fetishism or lactophilia. Those with this fetish derive pleasure from watching women lactate, suckling on lactating breasts, or being lactated on. Breast-bearing lactophiliacs similarly enjoy providing such services. In fact, there’s entire school of lactation porn out there. PornHub reports that “milking” is one of the most commonly used adjectives people use when searching for the term “tits.”

The acronym ANR stands for “adult nursing relationship.” The term is often used interchangeably with ABF, or, “adult breast feeding.” There are websites and online forums and blog after blog after blog designed specifically for people seeking this kind of connection. One website provides instructions on how to induce lactation. There’s even a “Christian adult nursing relationships” group that enjoys partaking in ANR (so long as it’s practiced within the confines of marriage).   

One blogger writes, “For me, being able to nurse someone is almost unexplainable, but the best way I know how to describe it is: yes, there's eroticism involved because breastfeeding an adult is still primarily taboo in mainstream society... But really, the biggest thing for me (being the altruist that I am) is the idea of caring for someone and nurturing them in a way that no one else in their life does or could. The idea that they're gaining sustenance from something I'm providing from my body as nature intended breasts to be used for.” 

Proponents of the fetish often point to the fact that breastfeeding releases oxytocin, the same hormone that is released when a person falls in love. Some women claim the act can result in orgasm, or “breastgasms,” as they’ve been termed.

Breast Expansion

This one is a particular hit among breast partialists. The kink revolves around rapid and often unrealistic breast growth. Dr. Mark Griffiths describes the fetish in his blog post “Bosom Buddies.” Some like seeing A cups turn into D cups. Some like when things get a little more cartoonish. And others like to see completely outlandish depictions of breast expansionism. On the Reddit thread “So I’m A Girl And I LOVE Breast Expansion” the term “house-sized breasts” appears several times.

One user explains, “I love breast expansion for a few reasons. I've always been a die-hard tit man ever since I could like girls (the bigger the better). The thought of big breasts getting bigger, especially when it brings immense pleasure to the girl, is a huge turn on to me." 

Another writes, “I love it because I enjoy the 'fantasy' aspect of it, the fact that it is unreal and an exaggerated and could not exist normally. I love imagining unreal and fantastic things, and if we're going to have something be unreal and fantastic, why not breasts, I find them arousing enough as they are!"

The "Breast Expansion Story Club” site is where you can go to see the fetish demonstrated in comic form. You can read stories like “Dungeons and D Cups,” “Fun Bags” and “Seins au Chocolat” (the last one translates to “chocolate breasts” in English). BustArtist’s Studios offers similar depictions. The description for a story titled “Milking the Plot” reads, “The Hollarin’ Huskies cheerleader team sought shelter from a storm in a remote barn… Setting in until the roads were clear, they began a drinking contest. However, unexpectedly, most of the girls’ breasts start to grow, shocking everyone (and titillating a few).”

Breast Smothering

Former masseuse Kristy Love claims she can make upwards of $1,300 a day by squashing men with her 48NN breasts. She told Barcroft Media, “I have to keep an eye out when I’m squashing someone. I look at their feet and their fingers to make sure there is still movement there and they’re still breathing."

It is possible for things to be taken too far. In 2012, Franziska Hansen was charged with “attempted murder with a weapon” after her boyfriend claimed she tried to smother him with her breasts. But it’s not always so sinister. Some people really do get off on the idea of using the breast as a means of domination. In a breast forum thread, one user writes, “I think [breast smothering] is a highly effective wrestling move… The combination of struggling for a breath, and the physiological aspect if being trapped in that place, cause real panic and disorientation, not to mention severe humiliation.” Another writes, “If breast smothers are applied perfectly, they can be very effective & devastating. Personally, I would love to get breast smothered, for real, and not just as a fantasy/fetish option. The one session I have had… was great, despite being unable to breathe”

All the Rest

Breast fetishism can also lend itself to the BDSM crowd. Sexual gratification from the mutilation of female breasts is called “mazoperosis.” The term “tit torture” yields over a million hits on a Google search. The act often involves placing clothespins on nipples, tying the breasts, and even cutting off the blood flow to the point of discoloration. Those who practice electrosex use an extensive selection of breast cups, nipple clamps and breast shields. There are also things like whipping, piercing and wax play. It’s not exactly for everyone.

Mammary intercourse involves the rubbing of the penis between the breasts. It’s more formally known as “coitus a mammilla,” but the average porn-viewer will best recognize this as good old fashioned “tit fucking.”

Then there’s the voyeuristic crowd. “Downblousing” refers to looking down a woman’s blouse to get a better look at her breasts. It’s a little like the northern equivalent to the “upskirt.” There are a number of sites out there exclusively dedicated to the trend.

Can the Breast be Phallic? A Rivalry Begins

In Hemingway’s The Garden Of Eden, the title character refers to his lover’s breasts as “hard” and “erect.” Science holds that the nipples do indeed become erect during arousal. During climax, the breasts actually swell and the areolae engorge.

Breasts are innately feminine. But there is a school of thought that maintains the breast – especially a lactating breast – can function in a particularly phallic way. The idea is that the milk takes the place of semen, while the flow mimics the act of ejaculation.

In her book, Fresh Milk: The Secret Life of Breasts, Fiona Giles argues that the ongoing obsession with acquiring larger breasts, whether through cosmetic surgery or padded bras, is proof that the breast has become the new phallus. She writes, “The breast is the caring erection, proving once and for all that women make the most important contributions to our culture. And were we to acknowledge the female phallus’s power to give forth a stream of life-giving fluid from within, its old adversary, the male phallus, would have to seriously consider an amicable détente, or risk being crushed forever.”

Giles appears in the 2014 documentary Breastmilk. There she explains, “Part of the fear culturally around breastfeeding is that the mother’s body does have a phallic potential, that the man can also be receptive sexually, not only the dominant party.”

She adds, “Perhaps an even more interesting way would be to think of the penis as breastly. That might be more fun.”

Carrie Weisman is a writer focusing on sex, relationships and culture.