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21 and bi: Should I marry?

Hi Cary,

I'm a 21-year-old woman, and I've been engaged since 18. (We're not really religious or anything, so that's not a factor.) When we decided to get married, for me it was kind of on a whim. I was young and didn't really get what it means to make a lifetime commitment. So now we live together and plan to get married later this year. I love him more than anything. He's my best friend and knows me better than anyone else. We get along great and rarely fight. He would make an incredible husband. But at the same time, I don't feel ready to make a lifetime commitment.

I feel I haven't had enough time to experience life independently and develop myself. I know that he doesn't feel the same way. He's very serious about getting married and seems to have no second thoughts. We're the same age. To make things more complicated, he recently lost a parent and lost his job, and he's going through a hard time, and I love him and want to support him, not make things worse. I don't know what to do.

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