9 Stupid Things that Cops, Nurses, Lawyers and Friends Should Never Say to Rape Survivors — But, Alas, Have

A handy meme guide, with photos from Project Unbreakable, about what not to say.

Launched in October 2011 by then-19-year-old Grace Brown, Project Unbreakable uses art to increase awareness of issues surrounding sexual assault and encourages the act of healing.

Want a quick, nine-step tutorial on what not to say to a survivor? Lucky for you, we created this handy list — based on photographs from sexual assault survivors sent in to the Project Unbreakable Tumblr blog — in easy-to-read meme form:

Step One:No.

Step Two:Uh-uh.


Step Three:Cut It Out.


Step Four:Hey, cop, when you say, "Daughter" ... I don't think it means "femicide." Or, as Inigo Montoya said, "You [use] that word. I do not think it means what you think it means."


Step Five: Really?


Step Six: Yeah, no.


Step Seven: Okay. FAIL.


Step Eight: ...


Step Nine: This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things.


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Original images courtesy of the Project Unbreakable Tumblr blog. Original memes by AlterNet.

Note: If you are struggling, RAINN has a free, confidential, 24/7 sexual assault hotline: 1.800.656.HOPE(4673). RAINN also has an online hotline:

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