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Several bloggers have weighed in on Rachel Kramer Bussel Village Voice piece on paying for dates.

I confess, I stopped reading Bussel after this paragraph:


Most women claim the guy should pay, regardless of who asked whom out or who makes more money. Like it or not, the tradition's a stubborn holdover from past eras when women couldn't afford to go halfsies.
How does Bussel know what most women say? Well, she assures us that the author of "Jane Austen's Guide to Dating" agrees that men should pay. (A modern dating manual based on 18th century fiction by a lifelong celibate. What a great idea!)

So, let's set aside the empirical question and focus on the normative issue: "Who should pay?"

Amanda of Pandagon writes, "I’m suspicious of the tradition of guys paying for dates, even though it’s not a super big thing, because it strikes me as more of what I’d call the front-loaded incentive structure for women in the mating dance."

Jessica of Feministing says that, "[Except in certain exceptional cases] I can’t really imagine not paying. It seems so weird. I also find it kind of insulting--I’m not a child, I can manage to feed and entertain myself."

I tend to agree with The Happy Feminist who says that, all other things being equal, the person who iniated a first date should pay.

[Pandagon, Feministing, The Happy Feminist]

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