Long live feminism...

I’m so, so tired of reading about the death of feminism, the death of equality, the long slow death of what’s Right and Good. Tired of reading about men not wanting to marry smart, ambitious women. Tired of the BS statistics about female childlessness after age 35, and how most men will end up marrying their secretaries but would never even imagine smooching their boss.

Maureen Dowd’s recent and controversial New York Times magazine piece, What’s A Modern Girl to Do? didn’t answer any of feminism’s Big, Important questions. It was a personal essay — an op-ed with a few very debatable stats thrown in. Dowd mainly conceded that not a whole helluva lot has changed for American women since the inception of "women’s lib" — despite feminism's best intentions:

Despite the best efforts of philosophers, politicians, historians, novelists, screenwriters, linguists, therapists, anthropologists and facilitators, men and women are still in a muddle in the boardroom, the bedroom and the Situation Room.
And when I read horrifying news stories like this, I'm shocked into reluctantly agreeing with her.

Here’s the short version of that Washington Post story: A female victim of domestic abuse -- Yvette Cade, 31, of Maryland -- receives an "order of protection" (also dubbed a "stay-away order") against her threatening, estranged husband. It's meant to prevent any sort of contact from her husband; but he breaks the protective order by calling and "intimidating" Cade's daughter, so she calls the judge back and explains that she needs a divorce. The judge essentially laughs in her face, says he’s "not a divorce lawyer" and he's not 6'4 and that if she wants a divorce, too bad -- look elsewhere.

Cade's order of protection is dropped — allegedly because of a "clerical error" — and her estranged husband tracks her down in a cell phone store, douses her with gasoline, and sets her on fire. Cade is now recovering -- "breathing through a tube and blinking her eyes to communicate" -- in a Maryland hospital, with third-degree burns covering most of her face and upper body.

It makes me feel sick, literally, each time I realize — again — that no matter how far we've come, no matter how far women have advanced in the workplace and in the world, we haven't gained much at all when it comes to relationships with the people, partners, men who are supposed to love us as their equals. Feminism's job won’t be finished until men stop denying their role — and their responsibility — to prevent and fight this type of violence.

As one of my personal heroes, Kathleen Hanna, once wrote/sang (as alter-ego Julie Ruin):
How many girls stay awake all night
Too scared to sleep and too scared to fight back
I know you know what I'm talking about
Another woman killed and hardly a pout about it
Green River killer my fucking ass
The cops have gotta be deaf, dumb, and spastic
To not catch the killer of a hundred women
I guess it'd be different if they thought we were human...

Understand the importance of honest news ?

So do we.

The past year has been the most arduous of our lives. The Covid-19 pandemic continues to be catastrophic not only to our health - mental and physical - but also to the stability of millions of people. For all of us independent news organizations, it’s no exception.

We’ve covered everything thrown at us this past year and will continue to do so with your support. We’ve always understood the importance of calling out corruption, regardless of political affiliation.

We need your support in this difficult time. Every reader contribution, no matter the amount, makes a difference in allowing our newsroom to bring you the stories that matter, at a time when being informed is more important than ever. Invest with us.

Make a one-time contribution to Alternet All Access, or click here to become a subscriber. Thank you.

Click to donate by check.

DonateDonate by credit card
Donate by Paypal
{{ post.roar_specific_data.api_data.analytics }}

Don't Sit on the Sidelines of History. Join Alternet All Access and Go Ad-Free. Support Honest Journalism.