7 Things I Wish I Knew at 18
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Whoa! I can't believe I wrote this back when I was journaling during my freshman year of college to the effect of self-reflection rather than outward inspiration. But, luckily they've become one in the same with this platform here. So here are just some of my greatest insights that I wish I knew when I was 18-years-old. Looking back, they could've really been helpful. But that's the beautiful thing about life - you live and you learn.
1. Friendships take time. - Before coming to college, I certainly wasn't under the pretense that making friends was going to be easy (especially since I don't party), but what I didn't realize was how hard it was going to be to find the ones who were really going to be consistent in their behavior and stick around. While it seems to be that everyone is seeking for new friendships, it's important to know your self-worth and identify with the people who make you a better person. That doesn't necessarily mean disregard those who aren't, but it just means to not be so quick to label. Once you give someone the label of 'friend', you give them power in your life. But, when that day comes that something goes awry in the friendship, you may find yourself saying the usual, "But I thought you were my friend." It takes a crazy amount of time to make friends in the real world. This isn't like high school where you see the same strangers, in the same class, at the same hour, of everyday and then they become less of strangers and more of friends. This is a time for you to figure out who you are and then apply that identity to other people. Listen to the signs (as small and quiet as they may be) that tell you if someone is not going to be a friend for you. We live in a time where everyone thinks that we should have hundreds of friends, when in reality after every stage in our life, we're only left with a couple (and we pray that they're the same ones as before).
2. You are lucky to have someone in your life that cares about you. - Although my roommate and I weren't necessarily friends during my freshman year of college, we were instantly very friendly to one another and cared about one another's well-being. This is an anomaly in the real world and the lesson is to embrace it when it happens. Unless you go to school back home, expect to be alone for a couple of weeks until you find someone else who's alone to. Now alone doesn't necessarily mean that you're a recluse or a loser. It happens to everyone. Just beware of the people who say they care for you, but don't necessarily show that they do. The old adage, "Actions speak louder than words" applies here more than ever.
3. Your parents are always your best friends at the end of the day. - Although I have great parents, we never grew to be as close as we are now. My mom seemed to be like my interactive daily diary in my first-year of college as we exchanged stories and lessons to one another. Now, they say that the calls happen less frequent as the years go on, but mine have only increased because important to have your parents as involved in your life as possible. For the most part, they're going to be the only thing that's consistent in your life. You don't see it now, but your relationships with your parents will be so incredibly awesome as life goes. You can't go through it without them. You're just not big enough to live it alone.