On AlterNet: relationships

Stories, blog posts, and videos tagged as "relationships"

Sex Therapist Shares the Secret to Hot Sex (Hint: It Has More to Do With the Mind Than the Body)

Tracy Clark-Flory, Salon. February 7, 2012.

Sex therapist Marty Klein's message is antithetical to the sex advice found everywhere from self-help books to the supermarket checkout line.

Dirty Minds: How the Brain Evolved to Glorify Monogamy Yet Make Screwing Around Irresistible

Kayt Sukel, Free Press. January 9, 2012.

With so many of these same cultures putting a premium on monogamy, why do huge numbers of people around the world still cheat?

How to Deal With the Horrors of Dating

Liz Langley, SeXis Magazine. December 28, 2011.

Both rejection and over-the-top attention from an interested party are tough. Here's how to pick up on important social cues.

Sex or Love? New Study Shows Women AND Men Prefer Romance to Sex

Jennifer Moss, The Good Men Project. December 16, 2011.

We should jettison the myth that most men care more about sex than deep relationships.

"Mind-Mapping": How We Manipulate the People We Love

David Schnarch, Psychotherapy Networker. December 7, 2011.

All too often, people do hurtful things with impunity and entitlement in relationships simply to gratify their own needs.

Pop Dating Advice Has Almost Ruined Romance -- Here's How to Take it Back

Noelle de la Paz, Samhita Mukhopadhyay, ColorLines. November 17, 2011.

Want to know how to undo the damage done by traditional dating advice, challenge gender expectations and deepen our understanding of radical love?

What Does the Recession Mean for Our Sex Lives?

Tracy Clark-Flory, Salon. October 23, 2011.

As a new report predicts a rise in infidelity, we take a look at contradictory economy-related sexual predictions.

Not All Men Are Sex Crazed Horn Dogs, Not All Woman Are Prudes -- Yet Sexual Double Standards Rule Our Relationships

Maria Pawlowska, The Good Men Project. October 7, 2011.

The sexual standard is something that creeps into our relationships and deteriorates our sex lives every time we double-check ourselves.

When Monogamy Is a Cop-Out: Why Follow Society's Rules About Sex?

Robert Levithan, The Good Men Project. September 18, 2011.

Monogamy is valuable as a choice, not a requirement. Opt to be with only one partner in order to explore the depths of that relationship.

Is Internet Dating Destroying Love?

John Walters, Comment Is Free. July 27, 2011.

Dating websites distort the very core of interpersonal relations and turn love into a consumer product.

Is This the Last Generation That Will Face Opposition to Interracial Marriage?

Elissa Strauss, AlterNet. July 15, 2011.

In her memoir, “Kissing Outside the Lines” actress and writer Diane Farr unveils the xenophobia and racism that continues to persist in, of all things, the realm of love.

Can Angry Sex Save Your Relationship?

Anna Pulley, AlterNet. June 2, 2011.

The place of anger in sex has been widely debated. Is it a great release of tension, or just a way to avoid actual resolution?

The Screwed-Up Ideas Underpinning Modern Marriage

Nicole Rodgers, Role Reboot. May 25, 2011.

We are still burdened with antiquated ideas about what men and women are supposed to look for and expect in a spouse.

Why Get Married? More and More Couples Choose to Have Kids Out of Wedlock

Ellen Friedrichs, AlterNet. April 25, 2011.

In America, once you have kids, not being married still isn't the norm -- but is that finally changing?

Traditional Marriage Is Dead -- Let's Celebrate

Jill Filipovic, Comment Is Free. March 10, 2011.

It's finally time to ring the death knell for traditional marriage.

Why Do We Vilify Male Sexuality? 3 Myths About Men and Sex Debunked

Jessi Fischer, The Sexademic. January 17, 2011.

The falsehood that men are brutes who can't control their sex drive is harmful to everyone.

Dear John, I Love Jane: When Women Leave Their Husbands for Other Women

Libbie Miller, Seal Press. December 16, 2010.

Coming out to her husband of 10 years, Libbie Miller discovers that the truth is a big relief.

Why Are Men Always Expected to Make the First Move in Sex and Relationships?

Clarisse Thorn, AlterNet. November 24, 2010.

Everything we do romantically is shaped by gendered scripts; in American scripts, men are usually handed the responsibility of initiating dates or sexual encounters.

How Porn Can Help Your Relationship

Joe Kort, Psychotherapy Networker. August 13, 2010.

The argument that porn takes away from a relationship and encourages emotional distance doesn't do justice to the trust that can be created though honest discussions about porn.

Father's Day Special: A Man Struggling to Be a Good Father After Divorce

Don Hazen, AlterNet. June 14, 2010.

Jeff Gillenkirk's new novel 'Home, Away' makes clear that as much as we want to focus on the game on the field, the game of life takes precedence.

101 Sex Positions That Won't Spice Up Your Sex Life

Greta Christina, The Blowfish Blog. February 19, 2010.

If your relationship sucks and you don't communicate with your sexual partner, the Double Reverse Astronaut is unlikely to help your sex life.

Sexy Mormons, the Joy of Vibrators and Sticking it to Puritans: 10 of Liz Langley's Best Pieces

AlterNet Staff, AlterNet. December 21, 2009.

Sex and relationships writer Liz Langley wrote some of the sexiest -- and smartest -- stories about the politics and culture of sex this year.

Instant Sex: Has the Digital Age Destroyed Relationships or Made Them Better?

Vanessa Richmond, AlterNet. November 7, 2009.

Digitally-enabled mating culture has opened up the mate-finding process while also generating a whole new set of dating anxieties.

6 Marriage Myths Shattered: How Barack and Michelle Shun Fairy Tale Romance

Vanessa Richmond, AlterNet. October 31, 2009.

The first couple's imperfect union helps shed light on the reality of marriage.

Can Drugs Make You Love Someone You Don't?

Josey Vogels, My Messy Bedroom. October 22, 2009.

Research into the chemicals that control love, lust and attachment could eventually result in drugs that would make you fall in love and bond with another person.