Is Sex Addiction B.S.?
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All week long I've had emails with a variation of the following:
"Am I a slut or do I have a sex addiction?"
Rather that give you just my opinion, I gathered some friends and colleagues -- experts in the field of sex in one way or another -- to get their takes to see if we could come to some consensus.
I certainly do not view sex addiction as a "disease" that requires 12 steps to cure. Apparently, I fit all the criteria for having a bona fide sex addiction to a T, except for one crucial element: shame. It is this one little horrific emotion that drives millions of so-called sex addicts to spend exponential amounts of money in therapy every year, and just as many to seek support in groups and addiction programs. This shame stems from the fact that many so-called sexual deviants are slapped with the label "sex addict" when there is, in fact, absolutely nothing wrong with liking porn, or anal sex, or spending an evening with a call girl. I don't even think there is anything wrong with using sex to deal with your emotions -- after all, there is some truth to the saying, "let's work it out in bed." Maybe what we need are groups to heal our shame around sex, rather than programs that only serve to reinforce our neuroses.
-- Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D. prostitute/porn star turned sexologist & educator