Feminism 3.0: Women and Media

Women working for social change have consistently looked to media as a powerful way to bring female voices and struggles forth, whether through billboard "liberation," appearances on national news or feminist video art. With today's expansion into mobile, shareable media, female filmmakers especially use the internet as one big "indie TV channel" where they can speak out to a large public, skipping over the years of festival circuitry and involvement in the commercial film industry otherwise necessary to being highly recognized.

Independent media supposedly eschews this world of profit values in order to communicate in a more free, honest, and genuine manner. But, as a female indie filmmaker/feminist activist, I have experienced sexism, aversion to "the f-word" -- usually predicated on assumptions that feminists are either mean-spirited men-haters or naïve pot-smokers -- and bureaucratic coldness like that found within the commercial film industry amongst colleagues and independent media makers. And what upsets me most is that the majority of these experiences have happened with other women. Why?

The Western mindset of individualism as the road to power, as the path to getting one's voice heard -- even to the culturally-classic "maternal" goal of bettering the world, which requires power and getting one's voice heard -- leads to isolation and tremendous amounts of singular work and struggle. As we each strive to make "my project" the one that "makes a difference," we reject feminist group identity for individual "success" and push our quests for respect, confidence and legitimacy into private and internal realms where they become impossible one-woman efforts.

Whether a grip, CEO or teen playing with a camera, the effects of our media will be greater with collaboration. Since combined efforts of individuals can change society if we cooperate on the social change work we are currently attempting separately society will be forced to respect and value our messages. First, we must respect and value each other.

Where Feminism Has Gone (Wrong)

Many people believe that feminism is over because the Vice President of Google* is a woman -- that gender equality has been reached -- and that by harping on women's rights, activists are actually hindering the chance for women to simply be treated as human beings. However, in my experiences from offices to conferences, my colleagues' experiences from the catwalk to the cutting-room, I say that feminism should not call victory so easily. (Watch Google's Vice President, Sheryl Sandberg, speak on today's incomplete "equity" and her confidence in user-generated content.)

The sexual, financial, and social freedoms women may enjoy today are the outcome of two generations of feminism. But ironically, in realizing the beginnings of the power and autonomy past feminists fought for, we have gained autonomy from each other and a distaste for feminism, losing community. (Hear author Deborah Siegel talk about feminism's rifts and universal hopes over the generations.) Women lash out against feminism, asking, "Why can't I like lipstick and sports? Why can't I be a mother and a CEO?" We want it all. And why shouldn't we?

While the prior generations' feminists may have found strength in sisterhood as they rallied politically, today's woman struggles to enact her empowerment individually, trying to seize every avenue open to her. "Wanting it all" has transformed into a tacit social understanding that we must be and do it all. We want to be pretty and smart. Powerful but not a bitch. Sexy but respected. But this conflation of "empowerment" with "being and doing it all" is harmful.

When I think of all the women I know and have crossed paths with, I see how we exhaust and even physically injure ourselves trying to reach this near impossible goal of existing as opposites, and incredulously (and in some cases, jealously) wonder how on earth the women around us seem to be pulling it all off. (Read Courtney E. Martin's book, Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters.) Whether shying away from the "feminist" label or not, we women are constantly comparing ourselves to each other; increasing competition. Instead of finding inspiration in fellow females' achievements, we add them to our own lists of things to accomplish. Where is the empowerment to be one's self, to speak out frankly, in all this pressure? Where is the camaraderie and partnership building that can result in social change?