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Misogyny Is America's True National Pastime

By Bob Herbert, The New York Times. Posted January 17, 2008.


Even baseball can't compete with misogyny.
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With Senator Hillary Rodham Clinton's win in New Hampshire, gender issues are suddenly in the news. Where has everybody been?

If there was ever a story that deserved more coverage by the news media, it's the dark persistence of misogyny in America. Sexism in its myriad destructive forms permeates nearly every aspect of American life. For many men, it's the true national pastime, much bigger than baseball or football.

Little attention is being paid to the toll that misogyny takes on society in general, and women and girls in particular.

Its forms are limitless. Hard-core pornography is a multibillion-dollar business, having spread far beyond the stereotyped raincoat crowd to anyone with a laptop and a password. Crowds of crazed photographers risk life and limb to get shots of Paris Hilton or Britney Spears without their underwear. At New York Jets home games, men regularly gather at Gate D to urge female fans to expose themselves.

In its grimmest aspects, misogyny manifests itself in hideous violence -- from brutal beatings and rape to outright torture and murder. Fifteen months ago, a gunman invaded an Amish schoolhouse in rural Pennsylvania, separated the girls from the boys, and then shot 10 of the girls, killing five.

The cable news channels revel in stories about women (almost always young and attractive) who come to a gruesome end at the hands of violent men. The stories seldom, if ever, raise the issue of misogyny, which permeates not just the crimes themselves, but the coverage as well.

The latest of these obsessively covered stories concerned a pregnant marine, Maria Frances Lauterbach, who had complained to authorities that she had been raped by a fellow marine. Her body was found last week buried in a backyard fire pit in North Carolina.

It just so happens that the Democratic presidential candidates are campaigning this week in the misogyny capital of America: Nevada. It's a perfect place to bring up the way women are viewed and treated in this society, but don't hold your breath. Presidential wannabes are hardly in the habit of insulting the locals.

Prostitution is legal in much of Nevada and heavily promoted even where it's not. In Las Vegas, where prostitution is illegal but flourishes nevertheless, Mayor Oscar Goodman has said that creating a series of legal, "magnificent" brothels would be a great development tool for his city.

The fundamental problem in all of this is that women and girls are dehumanized, opening the floodgates to every kind of mistreatment. "Once you dehumanize somebody, everything else is possible," said Taina Bien-Aimé, executive director of the women's advocacy group Equality Now.

A grotesque exercise in the dehumanization of women is carried out routinely at Sheri's Ranch, a legal brothel about an hour's ride outside of Vegas. There the women have to respond like Pavlov's dog to an electronic bell that might ring at any hour of the day or night. At the sound of the bell, the prostitutes have five minutes to get to an assembly area where they line up, virtually naked, and submit to a humiliating inspection by any prospective customer who has happened to drop by.

If you don't think this is an issue worthy of a presidential campaign, consider the scandalous way that women are treated in the military and the fact that the winner of this election will become the commander in chief.

The sexual mistreatment of women in the military is widespread. The Defense Department financed a study in 2003 of female veterans seeking health assistance from the Department of Veterans Affairs. Nearly a third of those surveyed said they had been the victim of a rape or attempted rape during their service.

The Associated Press reported in 2006 that more than 80 military recruiters had been disciplined over the course of a year because of sexual misconduct with young women and girls who had considered joining the military.

There continue to be widespread complaints from women about rape and other forms of sexual attacks in the military, and about a culture that tends to protect the attackers.

To what extent are the candidates of either party concerned about these matters? Do they have any sense of how extensive and debilitating the mistreatment of women and girls really is?

We've become so used to the disrespectful, degrading, contemptuous and even violent treatment of women that we hardly notice it. Staggering amounts of violence are unleashed against women and girls every day. Fashionable ads in mainstream publications play off of that violence, exploiting themes of death and dismemberment, female submissiveness and child pornography.

If we've opened the door to the issue of sexism in the presidential campaign, then let's have at it. It's a big and important issue that deserves much more than lip service.

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Bob Herbert joined The New York Times as an Op-Ed columnist in 1993. His twice a week column comments on politics, urban affairs and social trends.

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Misogyny starts at (Christian) home!
Posted by: pklammer on Jan 17, 2008 12:54 AM   
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I would suggest that a critical examination of the rootedness of misogyny in American culture should begin with the fundamentalist Christian precepts of wives' subordination and unconditional obedience to husbands. I withdrew my son -- in HORROR -- from attending Baptist "AWANAS" (cubscouts churchalike club) with one of his schoolmates, after I picked him up and noticed the highlighted Bible quotes pasted around the room, including admonitions of women's subservience in the world.

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Pornography is not misogynism.
Posted by: LordFoom on Jan 17, 2008 1:16 AM   
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While I agree that misogynism and sexism remain a problem and that feminism's work is not yet done,
and while I also agree that pornography CAN be degrading, I fundamentally disagree that pornography is by definition misogynistic. It can, and often is, sex-positive, depicting women in as sexual equals to men, wanting sex, and choosing sex.

Similarly, I see no problem with prostitution beyond the exploitation of women - the inability to unionize or seek police protection, or escape their physically abusive pimps. But I see nothing inherently immoral about selling and buying sex.

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» Gay Pornography is not misogynism. Posted by: jnelson4765
» Identity Politics Sucks Posted by: timemachinist
Misogyny
Posted by: kepstein7777 on Jan 17, 2008 4:34 AM   
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It's one of the most abused words, as if every guy who's been to a go-go bar, read a girlie mag, or ogled women from a construction site, at Mardi Gras, or Gate D is Ted Bundy or Jack the Ripper.

Boys will be boys. And girls will also be girls, sometimes using their sexuality to make money, get attention, or get their way. It's been going on for millions of years, but the feminists and the Religious Right love to delcare a moral crisis, as if they were born last week.

If you consider sex slavery, that's a human rights issue, just like any other kind of slavery. If you consider crime, that's crime, just like any other crime where men get killed. Once again, nothing new.

But hey. It's always a fun discussion, right?

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» RE: Misogyny Posted by: illit
» RE: Misogyny Posted by: Bibsi
I'm not a feminist....
Posted by: SBK on Jan 17, 2008 4:48 AM   
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if I had a dime for every time I hear that from the women around me. If a plea like this is coming from a columnist in the NYT maybe the liberals, progressives, and the left wing can reconsider the fact that we need a women's movement, we need people to be feminists again. Just because white women can work outside the home and maybe run a company or two (or even the country) doesn't mean we can all turn our backs on the daily reports of women dying at the hands of men they know and gang rapes by Haliburton employees. We gawk at these stories the way we stare at the skank brigade when they get their DUIs or 83 minute prison terms. Stop shaking your head and do something, I ask, what DOES a feminist look like these days and what does it take to see some movement on these issues? We are sliding backward if womens' daily lives remain in danger!

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» Educating young people on feminism Posted by: FriendlyFeminist
» Proud to be a humanist.... Posted by: timemachinist
Amish tragedy
Posted by: realgem63 on Jan 17, 2008 5:04 AM   
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The Amish tragedy was no example of misogyny.The attacker was angry at God for the death of his baby daughter.There was nothing sexist about what he did.He was angry at God not women.

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» RE: Because his daughter died Posted by: SavageDissension
» RE: Because his daughter died Posted by: SavageDissension
» Here's my comment... Posted by: mjabele
» RE: Amish tragedy Posted by: Bibsi
Sorry, racism trumps misogyny every single possible way
Posted by: xbj on Jan 17, 2008 5:25 AM   
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The kind of secret racism that only ocurrs in the ballot box, where you vote for anyone BUT a black man, while telling the exit poller something completely different.

The kind of secret racism that only ocurrs in the ballot box, behind the cloth, instead of standing up to be counted with your entire neighborhood all watching in a small caucus room.

The kind of secret racism, even among Democrats, who will insure that Obama, should he win the nomination, will never get close to the White House.

Racism runs deep in Amerikkka, especially red state Amerikkka and even in rural blue state Amerikkka. Even a glance at rant and raves in Craiglist in ANY MAJOR CITY shows that communities will not band together to flag down horrifically obscene racist posts against all sorts of minorities.

Misogyny runs deep too, but it's a joke compared to racism of all kinds; against Latinos, Blacks, Arabs, European Moslems, and yeah, even "the Jews" who as you know, are the evil conspiracy behind everything from 9-11 to why entertainment is so bad in this country.

(For racists reading this, that last phrase was sarcasm.)

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» Out of curiosity Posted by: Q30
» RE: Out of curiosity Posted by: illit
» RE: What Garbage... Posted by: rfrancis@godisdead.com
» RE: What Garbage... Posted by: naryaquid
» RE: Actions count, words only count if you let them Posted by: rfrancis@godisdead.com
» not a horse race Posted by: sweet_byrd
Saltwater Jim
Posted by: Saltwater Jim on Jan 17, 2008 5:45 AM   
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I read this to see what the word "Misogyny" means. I am still not sure. People are taken advantage of constantly in our society, and for many reasons. Women are definetally wanted, needed, and enjoyed by men. Is Misogyny the wanting of women? Is it the physical abuse of women? Am I misogynous if I have a tit fixation? Is it possible for a man to not be misogynous?

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» RE: Saltwater Jim Posted by: illit
Just a bit of a question, Bob...
Posted by: Q30 on Jan 17, 2008 5:52 AM   
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When in US history has it EVER been better to be a black man than a white woman?

Just curious.

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» Yup... Posted by: Q30
» RE: Hope Posted by: boydranchitos
» RE: Yup... Posted by: Bibsi
» Good points! Posted by: LeeAnnG
» Suffrage Posted by: BlueTigress
» During gang rape Posted by: Bic Pentameter
» RE: During gang rape Posted by: Lauren
Hillary lets herself down, not mysogyny
Posted by: Bobsays on Jan 17, 2008 5:59 AM   
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Condi never has a problem with that, Margaret Thatcher didn't either. And Angela Merkel is a solid leader who has responded the right way to the small number of times men have crossed the line: she has reamed them out for it. Hillary needs to stop making excuses and look to herself for problems. Clean up her act and then she would judged in a nicer way.

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» RE: Buy-buy, Karl Posted by: dockboy
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Bob Herbert is right and I congratulate him on having
Posted by: naryaquid on Jan 17, 2008 6:01 AM   
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the guts and the insight to stand up to an issue which is LONG overdue for serious, open discussion in the progressive community....Based on the history of similar articles on AlterNet, however, I'm expecting a shit-storm of denial and anger from many males here who, for some reason, seem to radically "regress" when the issue of mysogyny is raised....Let's see if i'm right..I hope I'm not.

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» misogyny on alternet Posted by: off-the-radar 2
» RE: misogyny on alternet Posted by: Afban
» RE: misogyny on alternet Posted by: Lauren
» RE: misogyny on alternet Posted by: maribelle
» RE: misogyny on alternet Posted by: Catherine7755
» RE: misogyny on alternet Posted by: odanu
» RE:MISOGYNY HELPS NOONE Posted by: maribelle
» P.S. Posted by: mjabele
The silent side of Hillary
Posted by: peacelf on Jan 17, 2008 6:27 AM   
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Thanks Bob Herbert for pointing out that Hillary's silence demonstrates she's fit to join the white patriarchal club.

To be a member of the rich and powerful club, one does not have to be white and male. Women and people of color can join simply by keeping their mouths shut about issues of race and gender discrimination.

Hillary is part of the club, and so is Obama. They play by the "rules."

peace

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» RE: Have a God Complex much? Posted by: rfrancis@godisdead.com
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MYSOGYNY or whatever we're calling it this week
Posted by: VZEQICVA on Jan 17, 2008 7:28 AM   
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Rather than demand that people behave in a certain way toward women, we should address the money problem. Equal wages are at the root of it. Big deal it's not as bad as it used to be. That doesn't say much. When a job pays what it pays no matter who gets it, male or female, the ground rules will change. Dollar signs speak volumes. Money is the great equalizer. It adjusts alot of attitudes. We've danced around this for too long. Thanks, ANNA

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» Thank you. Posted by: kepstein7777
Look, here's the CRUCIAL deal Folks
Posted by: xbj on Jan 17, 2008 7:37 AM   
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Karl Rove's strategy is to position misogyny as far more rampant and far greater and far more universal than racism. Karl Rove's and the GOP's own private polls show that any white woman, EVEN Hillary, has a greater chance of winning than any black man, EVEN Obama, who would bring out every closet racist in this country IN BOTH PARTIES to hand the Presidency to WHOEVER the GOP candidate ends up to be. ALL their polls show this. My own polls of my own FAMILY show this. MY black friends know this. My latin friends know this.

Misogynists don't turn out in droves to vote their hate; they have their women and daughters right at hand to do that to every single day. Sure they might be many, but they just don't vote, not when there's a castle to rule and womenfolk to ride herd over, whether that be emotional or physcial abuse. Oh sure, they'll talk about hating Hillary and how much they hate her and post all sorts of obscence crap on craigslist about her, but will they actually get out of their houses and vote?

Not on your life.

For racists, on the other hand, it's a life and death matter as they see it, and they will go to ANY lengths necessary to insure Obama never gets even close to the White House. And ask ANY black friend you might have, there aren't enough black voters in the entire country to combat that kind of racism.

THAT's my point. I'm not belittling mysogyny. How about the condescending palpable hate and imperiousness Obama treats Hillary with? In the debate before the last one, his attitude practically said "Now go get me a cup of coffee" after he said begrudgingly, not even bothering to look up at her, "Ah, Hillary, you're likeable enough."

Want a misogynist? Look at Obama, when it comes to Hillary. NOW you know what the secret stuff he talks about his wife putting him in his place is all about. Sometimes he might as well BE GOP.

DO NOT fall for Rove's tricks. Rove wants Obama to win the nomination. Misogyny will not keep Hillary out of the White House, because they just don't vote in large numbers. Racism will, because racists DO vote, by the millions, in numbers NEVER BEFORE SEEN JUST to keep him out of the White House.

To beat Rove you have to know how he thinks.

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Progressive name-calling
Posted by: zooeyhall on Jan 17, 2008 7:44 AM   
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First I want to say that I am a Progressive. However, I am dismayed by the tendency of some progressives to resort to name calling and negative associations when confronting people who disagree with them.

I oppose Hilary Clinton because she is basically in bed with the corporate interests. Her collusion with WalMart, Free Trade and Globalization, the Health Care lobby, and others are well documented. So if I don't support her that makes me a "misogynist"? And by implication a woman hating sexist?

Another example is if you oppose illegal aliens. Immediately you are a "racist"--obviously I am someone who puts on a white hood on weekends to attend the local rally.

If you are a meat eater, then you are a cruel person who hates animals.

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» Quite frankly, yes. Posted by: ABetterFuture
» RE: Quite frankly, yes. Posted by: Lauren
» "The Death of Nuance".... Posted by: mjabele
» RE: Progressive name-calling Posted by: desidid
false duality: racism vs sexism?
Posted by: off-the-radar 2 on Jan 17, 2008 8:11 AM   
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interesting to see some of the comments making the argument that racism is worse than sexism. When, as others have noted, we need to work on both issues. Btw, the author of the article, Bob Herbert, is a man of colour.

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Equal Concerns
Posted by: Southern Gal on Jan 17, 2008 8:14 AM   
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Misogyny and racism are both issues in this and other countries. I don't understand the need to prioritize these issues. If you are among the group impacted that is important to you and the others in your group. I believe that as a woman I can relate to and understand racism and I expect that those who experience racism can understand misogyny towards women. We are all human beings and we deserve respect. I don't recognize any one's right to hate women or people of any color or their right to do them harm.

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MOMof3
Posted by: MOMof3 on Jan 17, 2008 8:35 AM   
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Your discussion was a good one. I would have liked to have seen you go further and discuss more about the prevalence of misogyny in the music/ video/ TV/ etc world as it touches our youth. My children do not see the dehumanizing of the female, in the music in particular. The only females valued are the 'sexy' ones, with tiny, perfect bodies, looks, makeup, and clothes (lack thereof), who please their 'men'. And who are easily replaced by the next 'shorty'. We are training our youth to become a culture of misogynists.

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» RE: MOMof3 Posted by: Lauren
» Perfect example Posted by: kepstein7777
» RE: Perfect example Posted by: odanu
» RE: Perfect example Posted by: MOMof3
The argument so far:
Posted by: Q30 on Jan 17, 2008 9:15 AM   
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A: I don't think it's honest or productive to pretend that white women are in a similar class of victims as black men are.

B: MISOGYNIST!

A: How?

B: MISOGYNIST!

A: How am I a misogynist?

B: MISOGYNIST!

A: Do you even know what that word means?

B: MISOGYNIST!

Etc.

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Get real.
Posted by: Krotos on Jan 17, 2008 9:36 AM   
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It's disappointing to see someone as intelligent and perceptive as Bob Herbert is normally toss out this kind of kneejerk, cliché-laden, perspective-free screed. If you want to see authentic, no-holds-barred misogyny, you need to look in places like Sudan or Pashtunistan or the slums of Gaza. Rare, I suspect, is the native-born American woman who has ever had to fear the prospect of being held down by her mother and grandmother while the local medicine-man uses a bone knife to saw her clitoris off without anaesthesia, or having her skull bashed in by her own father because she had an unapproved romance with a boy from the wrong religious sect. Even in more civilized parts of the world, women still face all kinds of social and legal discrimination that America (and, more generally, the Western world) abandoned decades if not centuries ago. It is safe to say that there has never in recorded history been a population of women as free, equal, and undiscriminated-against as the women of 21st-century First World countries. And the fact that our "feminist" movement spends so much time whining about pop-culture trivialities and imagined slights while basically ignoring the real and horrible plight of women in less-enlightened locales makes me question its very integrity.

Yes, we have prostitution a