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The kids were fascinated by the way Ayo's hair maintained its texture in the pool. Even after she deliberately dunked her head in the water, they were convinced that black hair doesn't get wet.
This experience stuck with her as she launched her art career in the predominantly white city of Portland, Oregon. Ayo often felt she was the token black person relied upon for opinions and advice precisely because of her skin color.
"I know you're going to be interested in this," people would say whenever an exhibit or play depicting racial issues passed through town. Even when it came to Ayo's own multimedia artistic creations, she often felt like her audience judged her work as that of a "black artist," rather than evaluating the artistic merit on its own.
Ayo's mother recognized her daughter's dilemma as one that black people have consistently faced in postslavery America. Recalling an old comedy routine by '70s-era comedian Godfrey Cambridge, she said, "Damali, you can't be everybody's rent-a-negro." Mother and daughter laughed at the allusion, but Ayo recalls that moment as a flash of entrepreneurial inspiration: "I just thought, What happens if I actually do this?"
It was thus that, two years ago, the now 33-year-old Ayo launched the website Rent-a-Negro.com, offering "state-of-the-arts" services that provide customers with a "creative, articulate, friendly, attractive, and pleasing African-American person" on a pay-per-service basis.
In white-dominated American culture, Ayo suggests, white people, knowingly or not, tend to "rent" black people -- to informally yet routinely expect black people to educate them on black culture and to stand as a symbol of diversity. Ayo's website simply commodifies this service, making it a product like any other.
"When I started [Rent-a-Negro], I thought it was as real as anybody else did. I thought it would be a great way to make a buck," Ayo says.
She wrote up an introduction to the concept of the service, came up with a pricing scheme ($35 to touch her skin, $150 to call her "sista," $500 to challenge racist family members, and a $10,000 annual package including 12 events, 15 phone calls, 10 appearances, and 3 consultations), set up a payment system through PayPal, and waited for the orders to come in.
Ayo insists that providing casual education on race is no different from any other service out there. "I'm neither suggesting nor inventing renting -- this is something that exists. I'm just ascribing a name and fee scale to it, in the spirit of capitalism."
Ayo believes that the practice of renting is the very real, socially acceptable legacy of slavery. "We continue to look at black people in a service mentality, whether it's bringing somebody their evening meal or serving up their education on racism," she says. "And this, as we know, is not the role of black people in our society anymore. I was really interested in the way white people would get offended when I was reluctant to let them touch my hair or explain rap music to them. I realized that they had an expectation of me as a black person to do as they asked."
Not long after Rent-a-Negro.com hit cyberspace, Ayo began receiving applications. "I didn't anticipate it being such a huge hit, or [inspiring] such an intense reaction," she says.
Some applicants caught on to the satire, while others submitted genuine requests for services they just couldn't find elsewhere. Applicants offered various reasons for seeking to rent Ayo: Simon Gray of Los Angeles, the director of multicultural affairs for his company, needed a black spokeswoman "to help me show the black people at my Company [sic] that I can relate to them"; 65-year-old Gloria Roberts of Aberdeen, South Dakota, wanted to prove to her friends that she loves black people ("They are almost as good as white people," she explained).
Ayo estimates that about a third of the several thousand rental requests and employment inquiries she received were real. E-mail messages arrived from all over the country asking about franchising opportunities. "After all," one letter said, "you can't be everywhere at once, and I'm sure that I'm as serviceable a Negro as any for rental purposes."
Rent-a-Negro.com has served as a successful tool for generating dialogue: "People have told me that they've directed white people to the site in lieu of explaining race relations to them," says Ayo. While fans who understand the satire praise her for illuminating an under-discussed issue, many reactions fall somewhere between confusion ("Is this a joke?") and outrage ("This is so racist").
What ultimately kept Ayo from actually going out on rental appointments were the applications inviting her to lynching and gang-rape events. Threats included vulgar e-mails from black and white people alike. "The first one did send a shiver down my spine, but after four or five, I got used to it," she recalls. While there was no way of knowing whether the threats were serious ("How does one gauge a 'real' threat? This seems to be a question the whole world is contemplating lately," she muses), Ayo decided that it wasn't worth the risk. "I'm not one for spontaneous, unfounded paranoia, but I did decide not to test my hunches. One of these requests came from my area code," she explains, "and I realized it wasn't very safe."
Still, for Ayo, who is a conceptual artist -- someone who reframes aspects of society and presents them creatively to the public -- Rent-a-Negro.com is first and foremost a piece of art. "My medium is ideas, and that means I can use any material to create those ideas," she says.
Her other creations include panhandling for reparations on the streets of New York, Chicago, Portland, and Boston; selling t-shirts with "Hello, my race is…" tags; and various explorations of skin color, femininity, politics, society, and sexuality using everything from paintings to performances to nail clippings, blood, condoms, wax, and dirty underwear.
One of her newest art pieces is the recently published book How to Rent a Negro, a satirical, step-by-step instructional guide to renters and rentees, based largely on the website.
"I don't create fiction, ever," Ayo states. Indeed, each rental service outlined in How to Rent a Negro -- from dancing lessons to a primer on genocide in Africa -- is drawn from an actual request from someone at some point in her life. She views the book as a tool for inciting dialogue about what she calls "social junk" -- issues that are "felt but not always heard."
And despite, or perhaps because of, its bluntly provocative language and concepts, she anticipates that it will work as a mirror of society. "I believe that all art is a radical form of social activism. In the art world and in our society, we've made the grave mistake of separating the two -- sometimes, when we look at socially minded art, we think it's less artistic, when it's actually the height of art."
How to Rent a Negro includes first-person accounts of Ayo's rental experiences, as well as such "tools" as a checklist for the prospective renter (among the criteria: "an unflappable faith in your respect for black people," "a sense of entitlement," and "an unwillingness to educate yourself"); a quiz to determine whether you are being rented ("People ask you for your fried chicken recipe"); and guidelines on how to show that the customer is always right. ("You want your renters feeling good about themselves after your interactions with them. You're not there to further political issues or start the second wave of the civil rights movement. Forget about the debate team awards and learn to smile and nod.")
"The book is way more fleshed out, playful, involved [than the site]," Ayo explains. "It allowed me to tell my experiences in detail and really dive into the nuances of life as a rental."
At its heart, Ayo considers her book an absurdist text. "It is absurd the way white people continue to treat black people with a service mentality," she explains. "It is absurd the things I have had to learn about white culture in order to hold a simple conversation in this 'pluralistic society,' while white people remain ignorant about people of color. It is absurd that we continue to have a 'dominant culture' in the United States. The book, in order to illuminate this, proposes the absurd notion that we pay people for these interactions."
The book allowed Ayo to dive into the challenge of using satire gracefully and accurately to depict a very real problem. "Satire cannot exist without reality," she insists, "and only reality can be absurd enough to build solid satire. I find reality to be far more provocative than anything I could ever make up, and this couldn't be further from the idea of 'making fun,' which people often shorthand this book as. They can't be more wrong."
Ayo believes that some folks have a problem with her depiction of racism in part because of their unfamiliarity with her art form. She also believes that people who write her off as racist are either unable or unwilling to deal with their own biases. But How to Rent a Negro neither solely intellectualizes nor laughs at the ingrained racism in American society. "Intellectualizing and comedy both create an atmosphere where action becomes an option. This is in between those two extremes -- it is at once really funny and really not funny."
Following the modest proposal once made by Jonathan Swift, Ayo believes in the need for startling provocation in order to instigate meaningful change. "We need to throw the pepper in the sauce [in order] for people to start tasting things. When you intersect the radical with the mundane, the socially weighted with the everyday occurrences, that's when things get really fascinating."
Find out more about Damali Ayo's projects at her website.
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Posted by: FedUp on Dec 22, 2005 1:36 AM
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As a Latíno, I can relate to the concept. I've lost count of the times I've been "invited" to spice up a get-together!
Of course it falls flat when they discover I'm more articulate in English than they are, and my ability to speak both English & Spanish without a trace of an accent tends to dismay them, but I do try to leave them with a little food for thought:
No, we're not a monolithic culture.
No, we're not all the same race, or religion; you can be Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Animist, etc. You can be of any race on this planet.
No, "raza" doesn't refer to race as you define it.
No, I don't take drugs.
No, I didn't walk to this country - I flew (1st class)
No, I don't handle hot weather better than you.
No, I won't teach you to dance.
No, I won't teach you profanity in Spanish.
No, I won't mis-pronounce Spanish, just so you can understand, and I won't smile when you do it.
No, I am not a minority simply because your world ends at the border; there are 365 million of us on the South American continent alone. Add in the rest of us in the Western Hemisphere and the numbers look different, don't they?
No, I don't care what the sock-puppets you call "experts" say. It doesn't alter the facts.
No, there aren't as many "different" kinds of Spanish spoken as there are nations in Latin America; you're confusing regional dialect with language (Texas & Maine).
No, dating you would not be good for "north/south relations", and I'm totally fascinated with the variety my own Latíno choices offer me.
Your nanny was Latína? How amazing; so was mine! What a small world!
Get outta here; mine spoke to me in Spanish too!!
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On the other hand, my main culture is "geek", and if asked nicely, I don't mind explaining what happens at science fiction conventions, why people wear costumes, how D &D really influences developing minds, etc. Better a good explanation from me than disinformation from society at large.
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But, whites HAVE figured it out except the sonsofbitches that won't.
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Posted by: longcipher on Dec 22, 2005 8:19 AM
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Everyone in this country has a chip on their shoulders about something - it's quite a strange place to be.
Don't blame your fellow citizen or try to make them feel bad - blame the school systems for teaching a myopic form of history. Try to affect change at the root, not the top branches.
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Posted by: kurtinvancouver on Dec 22, 2005 10:57 AM
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I believe the point of Ms. Ayo's works is that there are these misconceptions and people should stop ignoring them and be aware of the issue. Bragging about how great you are and how ignorant ethnic group X is only adds to the problem. Dropping this American need to separate, classify, and rank everyone and accepting people as people would go along way to opening our eyes.
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Posted by: mayita1usa on Dec 22, 2005 11:58 AM
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If I wanted to know more about you, including your Argentinian background and your experiences here, how would I start? Or should I bother?
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Posted by: ravengrrrl on Dec 22, 2005 12:02 PM
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I agree with kurtinvancouver and NYRugby. Accept our curious nature and ask questions. Understand when people show interest in you and don’t be so danged offended.
Of course, I’m a lily white American female of scandinavian descent. Must I now must assume that any non-white friend I have thinks I am just using them? Are they waiting for instances where I will eventually offend them with some random statement or question?
I believe that Damalia is trying to remove the fear from someone to innocently ask any question. At the same time, she’s also doing the opposite – asking people to please think about their question before they actually speak it. I KNOW I ask non-caucasian people silly questions sometimes. But you know, I’ve asked tons of even more ridiculous questions to my other white female friends. Just as you have all asked stupid questions to those who are of the same race and gender as you. So freaking what?!?
The world is at a new reality of racial intermixing. Viewing ourselves through the minor visual difference of skin color is becoming irrelevant these days. Maybe 2,000 years ago, when we were tribal folk, there was a significance of culture associated with different skin colors. Not anymore! We’re in a paradigm shift, my friends, and lets embrace it. Skin color and body structure among everyone is different. Life experiences are different. Everyone has something good to teach everyone else. That’s the beauty of the melting pot. That was my experience when I lived in the San Francisco/Bay Area. Something great from different cultures from around the world. And oh, the beautiful women! Every look you could ever want. As a white female, I was often a minority in some situations – as I truly am in the world population. I say, embrace the differences and enjoy it.
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*evil grin*
Having a momentary lapse of political correctness here.. don't mind me.
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So what if some kids thought your hair didn't get wet, what about the boy with pointy ears who no one ever wanted to play with?
Short of your right to have people arrested for the crimes of harrassment and bullying, you can't expect special treatment because you think your differences are more worthy or important than other people's.
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So what if some kids thought your hair didn't get wet, what about the boy with sticky out ears who no one ever wanted to play with?
Short of your right to have people arrested for the crimes of harrassment and bullying, you can't expect special treatment because you think your differences are more worthy or important than other people's.
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There are those--most of us most of the time, in fact--who focus so much and so exclusively on "me" that their tight grip tends to produce conflict. And we all seem to like (or, at least, tend to persist in) conflict to one degree or another.
But one can also make use of conflict to deepen and heighten our experience. For instance, it's the DIFFERENCE between men and women that evokes the passionate charge between them, not the similarities.
In a similar way, the differences between races or religions can be shared creatively instead of fought over. It's a moment to moment choice.
Ms. Ayo's website is a creative, humorous way of approaching difference in race. If we can laugh together about our collective idiocies, we've matured a little bit beyond basic armed conflict between each other.
Each of us simply has to decide what we want. Do we want conflict? If so, then about the only way humankind will unite is if a non-human foe appears. Think about it: if an extra-terrestrial race attacked earth, how long do you think black/white, man/woman, Christian/Muslim conflicts would last? Maybe a while, but eventually the conflict would resolve into human vs. non-human.
The other choice is the more difficult one (even in the case of rowdy extra-terrestrials): to allow our firm grips on "me" to loosen until we can feel the artificiality of the separations we so firmly clench onto.
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We are all different, but the culturally curious among us are always interested in those cultures that are not familiar to them.
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I'm a covered Muslimah and tell you all truthfully, I never turn away in disgust from a person who is genuinely curious. Shame on members of any minority who become so hypersensitive their attitude quashes all curiosity and kills the opportunity to truly educate people.
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The idea spread among the hip community. I remember seeing ads in the New Orleans underground press for a service called "Rent A Hippie," which gave longhairs similar employment opportunities in the Crescent City in the late 60s and early 70s.
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As a Latíno, I can relate to the concept. I've lost count of the times I've been "invited" to spice up a get-together!
Of course it falls flat when they discover I'm more articulate in English than they are, and my ability to speak both English & Spanish without a trace of an accent tends to dismay them, but I do try to leave them with a little food for thought:
No, we're not a monolithic culture.
No, we're not all the same race, or religion; you can be Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Animist, etc. You can be of any race on this planet.
No, "raza" doesn't refer to race as you define it.
No, I don't take drugs.
No, I didn't walk to this country - I flew (1st class)
No, I don't handle hot weather better than you.
No, I won't teach you to dance.
No, I won't teach you profanity in Spanish.
No, I won't mis-pronounce Spanish, just so you can understand, and I won't smile when you do it.
No, I am not a minority simply because your world ends at the border; there are 365 million of us on the South American continent alone. Add in the rest of us in the Western Hemisphere and the numbers look different, don't they?
No, I don't care what the sock-puppets you call "experts" say. It doesn't alter the facts.
No, there aren't as many "different" kinds of Spanish spoken as there are nations in Latin America; you're confusing regional dialect with language (Texas & Maine).
No, dating you would not be good for "north/south relations", and I'm totally fascinated with the variety my own Latíno choices offer me.
Your nanny was Latína? How amazing; so was mine! What a small world!
Get outta here; mine spoke to me in Spanish too!!
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Posted by: Samantha Vimes on Dec 22, 2005 6:11 AM
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On the other hand, my main culture is "geek", and if asked nicely, I don't mind explaining what happens at science fiction conventions, why people wear costumes, how D &D really influences developing minds, etc. Better a good explanation from me than disinformation from society at large.
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Posted by: tedbohne on Dec 22, 2005 8:06 AM
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But, whites HAVE figured it out except the sonsofbitches that won't.
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Everyone in this country has a chip on their shoulders about something - it's quite a strange place to be.
Don't blame your fellow citizen or try to make them feel bad - blame the school systems for teaching a myopic form of history. Try to affect change at the root, not the top branches.
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Posted by: kurtinvancouver on Dec 22, 2005 10:57 AM
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I believe the point of Ms. Ayo's works is that there are these misconceptions and people should stop ignoring them and be aware of the issue. Bragging about how great you are and how ignorant ethnic group X is only adds to the problem. Dropping this American need to separate, classify, and rank everyone and accepting people as people would go along way to opening our eyes.
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Posted by: mayita1usa on Dec 22, 2005 11:58 AM
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If I wanted to know more about you, including your Argentinian background and your experiences here, how would I start? Or should I bother?
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Posted by: ravengrrrl on Dec 22, 2005 12:02 PM
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I agree with kurtinvancouver and NYRugby. Accept our curious nature and ask questions. Understand when people show interest in you and don’t be so danged offended.
Of course, I’m a lily white American female of scandinavian descent. Must I now must assume that any non-white friend I have thinks I am just using them? Are they waiting for instances where I will eventually offend them with some random statement or question?
I believe that Damalia is trying to remove the fear from someone to innocently ask any question. At the same time, she’s also doing the opposite – asking people to please think about their question before they actually speak it. I KNOW I ask non-caucasian people silly questions sometimes. But you know, I’ve asked tons of even more ridiculous questions to my other white female friends. Just as you have all asked stupid questions to those who are of the same race and gender as you. So freaking what?!?
The world is at a new reality of racial intermixing. Viewing ourselves through the minor visual difference of skin color is becoming irrelevant these days. Maybe 2,000 years ago, when we were tribal folk, there was a significance of culture associated with different skin colors. Not anymore! We’re in a paradigm shift, my friends, and lets embrace it. Skin color and body structure among everyone is different. Life experiences are different. Everyone has something good to teach everyone else. That’s the beauty of the melting pot. That was my experience when I lived in the San Francisco/Bay Area. Something great from different cultures from around the world. And oh, the beautiful women! Every look you could ever want. As a white female, I was often a minority in some situations – as I truly am in the world population. I say, embrace the differences and enjoy it.
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Posted by: tcx2 on Dec 22, 2005 12:19 PM
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*evil grin*
Having a momentary lapse of political correctness here.. don't mind me.
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Posted by: eocilian on Dec 22, 2005 1:14 PM
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So what if some kids thought your hair didn't get wet, what about the boy with pointy ears who no one ever wanted to play with?
Short of your right to have people arrested for the crimes of harrassment and bullying, you can't expect special treatment because you think your differences are more worthy or important than other people's.
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Posted by: eocilian on Dec 22, 2005 1:16 PM
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So what if some kids thought your hair didn't get wet, what about the boy with sticky out ears who no one ever wanted to play with?
Short of your right to have people arrested for the crimes of harrassment and bullying, you can't expect special treatment because you think your differences are more worthy or important than other people's.
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There are those--most of us most of the time, in fact--who focus so much and so exclusively on "me" that their tight grip tends to produce conflict. And we all seem to like (or, at least, tend to persist in) conflict to one degree or another.
But one can also make use of conflict to deepen and heighten our experience. For instance, it's the DIFFERENCE between men and women that evokes the passionate charge between them, not the similarities.
In a similar way, the differences between races or religions can be shared creatively instead of fought over. It's a moment to moment choice.
Ms. Ayo's website is a creative, humorous way of approaching difference in race. If we can laugh together about our collective idiocies, we've matured a little bit beyond basic armed conflict between each other.
Each of us simply has to decide what we want. Do we want conflict? If so, then about the only way humankind will unite is if a non-human foe appears. Think about it: if an extra-terrestrial race attacked earth, how long do you think black/white, man/woman, Christian/Muslim conflicts would last? Maybe a while, but eventually the conflict would resolve into human vs. non-human.
The other choice is the more difficult one (even in the case of rowdy extra-terrestrials): to allow our firm grips on "me" to loosen until we can feel the artificiality of the separations we so firmly clench onto.
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We are all different, but the culturally curious among us are always interested in those cultures that are not familiar to them.
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I'm a covered Muslimah and tell you all truthfully, I never turn away in disgust from a person who is genuinely curious. Shame on members of any minority who become so hypersensitive their attitude quashes all curiosity and kills the opportunity to truly educate people.
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Posted by: mesechabe on Dec 24, 2005 12:08 AM
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The idea spread among the hip community. I remember seeing ads in the New Orleans underground press for a service called "Rent A Hippie," which gave longhairs similar employment opportunities in the Crescent City in the late 60s and early 70s.
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