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Confessions Of a Video Vixen
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Although Steffans -- whose tell-all remains on The New York Times bestseller list -- bills her story as a cautionary tale to young girls aspiring to be the next hottie in a hip-hop video, she lacks the necessary introspection and self-criticism, and she has an inflated view of herself and the goldilocks weave she sports.
So what if Steffans drank and did lots of drugs with A-list rappers and athletes? Her sexual diary includes romps with Jay-Z, Ja Rule, Damon Dash, DMX, Dr. Dre, Shaquille O'Neal, Irv Gotti, P. Diddy, Ice-T, and Fred Durst. Rappers passed her along to friends like bottom-shelf champagne.
Still, there is something to her story. Women's voices in hip-hop are muted, and Steffans' book comes along at a curious time. Essence magazine is attempting a campaign to take back the music, protesting vile video images degrading black women. Hip-hop feminist conferences are sprouting up across the country.
Meanwhile, the "video vixens" subculture is a be-seen-and-not-heard paradigm. Indeed, though Steffans' voice shouldn't be elevated as an emblematic one, in a fair critique of the video industry, accounts like hers need to be included. While Steffans has bought into the hegemony of her fate, she is offering a narrative in a genre that essentially relegates women to visual eye candy. Despite her poor choices, Steffans' tale has the potential to at least advance the debate.
"You would like to think [that] maybe these men who are exploiting women in hip-hop videos…will think twice, because you could be named or called out," says Gwendolyn Pough, a professor at Syracuse University and author of Check It While I Wreck It: Black Womanhood, Hip-Hop Culture, and the Public Sphere.
Pough says young girls who read Confessions need to understand how Steffans was objectified. "The story she ends up sharing, for people who want to help younger black women, knowing about those kinds of pitfalls and traps out there is helpful on that level."
Steffans, a former stripper, would sidle up to rappers on the set. After working a day on Jay-Z's "Hey Papi" video, the two took a beach drive that ended with him whipping out a condom and placing his hand on the back of her neck. When Irv Gotti wanted to kick her off the set of Ja Rule's "Between Me and You," Steffans, um, convinced him orally.
"She's very smart when it came to thinking about something to market. That, to me, is genius," says Whyte Chocolate, the Atlanta video dancer who stirred controversy last year by having her rear end swiped with a credit card by Nelly in "Tip Drill." But the veteran of 30 videos adds that Steffans is more groupie than video dancer, given that her portfolio is only a handful. "If she's a video vixen, then what the hell am I -- a video queen? This book was a disappointment. It could've been more exciting. What she said was true -- the artists wanting to fuck and get their dicks sucked. But it's not for everybody. She portrayed herself as a ho…You are only as good as your reputation. I built mine. Don't stereotype me. You earn the respect you demand."
Steffans is promoting herself with the aplomb of an ex-reality television star, appearing on urban radio shows, giving book signings and interviews. Her book caused so much stir in New York that she had to hire a bodyguard, and endure the wrath of emcees' wives calling radio stations, incensed at her accusations and pluck.
And some wonder if her narrative is giving ammunition to feminists -- or setting back women in hip-hop. "She's clearly an opportunist, and her perspective is sort of delusional. Her take on a lot of her 'relationships' are romantic when it's obvious to me…that the [rappers] really didn't see her as a romance. They saw her as sex. She sort of glamorizes this idea that she's having sex with these people. I don't see where there was a relationship or a bond there," says Tunesia Turner, of the Detroit-based hip-hop/soul group Black Bottom Collective.
Steffans tries to justify her reasoning -- she grew up in a household rife with emotional and physical abuse. Her baby-daddy is rap pioneer Kool G Rap, a man she hooked up with at age 17 and whom she claims beat her and forced her to perform oral sex until her nose bled.
She escaped his thumb, venturing to Los Angeles and immersing herself in the glamorous hip-hop world of parties, VIPs, and decadence. "The top reason a woman finds herself in a rap video, sprawled undressed over a luxury car while a rapper is saying lewd things about her, is a lack of self-esteem. I know it sounds like a cliché, but no one who values, loves, or knows herself would allow herself to be placed in such a degrading position," Steffans writes in the introduction.
But after she finishes her underbelly tour and learns that people like Shaq won't break her off any significant loot after she crumbles, Steffans veers back into her old ways. She trademarks the name "Superhead," a sexual nickname that stuck like ear wax. Steffans also writes that she can't wait for her son to read the book, and concludes by saying that she would do it all again.
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So let me get this straight. Is Karrine Steffans’ whole purpose behind this book to expose all the appalling things that happen in the world of Hip-Hop, so that other girls trying to make it in the industry can learn from her mistakes? It seems pretty obvious to me that all of this is no more than dirty little publicity stunt. Clearly she is glorifying her actions. Not only that, but it would seem that this book would provide a road map for any misguided young girl trying to make it in the Hip-Hop industry. Talk about having something blow-up in your face.
My purpose for posting this comment is to denounce people like Karrine Steffans. I have been a successful entity in the world of Hip-Hop for years now, so I see people every day who’s accomplishments are rivaled only by their sense of determination. These people, both women & men, made it without whores like you, or being whores themselves.
To Karrine Steffans: Hip-Hop is beautiful. It has the capacity to offer a positive message. You chose to provide a message that is unconstructive and detrimental, not only to the listener or reader, but destructive to Hip-Hop all together. Hip-Hop is a home & a sanctuary to many people. You are a stranger in our home, and you have overstayed your welcome. Please leave our home. You are not welcome here.
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While I wholeheartedly disapprove of her past behavior and her blatant marketing to promote this book, we need to take a deep breath and admit that Steffens was never hired, paid or rewarded for being a scholar. She was paid, hired, and passed around for being a sexually accessible female.
Don't just put down the whore, put down her customers (rappers) as well.
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So how long before this book winds up on the markdown table at bookstores, to be purchased as jerkoff material?
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Honestly, you can't be mad at a person for "getting it how they live". As far as her wanting her kid to read it... now that's strange, sick, and sort of perverse. But hey she isn't aiming for Mother of the Year.
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Then you have the audacity to make a very unsubtle slur against Oprah Winfrey. I would think that her INTELLIGENCE AND WEALTH is far above that of your's. Based on a brief psychological analysis of your posting the general consensus would be that you are jealous of wealthy, famous, and popular AA and mixed race persons. You seem to be the one who has the perverted interest in sex and not very different in intent than those people of whom you are vilifying.
The majority of AA people do not care about the "white man" because they know that he generally does not even have enough effect to make a problem for people. You need to get out of your small minded community, apparently, and meet real African American persons of substance who are family, job, and education oriented. Perhaps one day you will learn this. Maybe one day somebody in your family will marry or have children with an AA person so you will find out. I hope, for your sake, that you do because you sound like a very unhappy and mean-spirited person at this point in your life.
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Hip hop this hip hop that. Individuals of other races would have hitttttttttttt also and would have also passed her around to friends. Not only that she wanted to be past around.
Women get on tv and put individuals of all races on blast all the time.
This is not something new among our society and is a judgement of character not race and culture.
There are thousands of women from all races who could have wrote a book just like hers and filled it with names of wealthy individuals from all races and all types of different cultures.
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This is her biography, these things happened to her, she went through all this. so she has the right to write about herself. I commend her for writing the book but on the other hand Duhhhhhh! this isn't news, who can honestly say that they have no idea that this crap is going on in the music industry. and as of her dedicating the book to her son, I say so what? he will read it one day if he wants to.
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Whether sex goes on behind the scenes is really beside the point, because women like yourself will always be around to argue that is does not (and for many, I'm sure it doesn't). The central issue that no one can deny is that a majority of the images in our hiphop videos that are put up front and blasted across satellite dishes for the WORLD to see, are negative because, they are explicitly sexual.
Booties shaking, breasts hoisted, belittling lyrics--where's the art in that? What's the message for the youth? Entertainment defines their lives--otherwise, celebs like Michael Jordan wouldn't be able to sell those shoes: Kids wanna "be like Mike,"--so what is it that keeps us from admitting, that our kids wanna be like the images in our hiphop videos?
I don't care how much we as a community and as successful people like perhaps yourself have profited from it--this is affecting our black community in ways that I hope you simply just don't understand and are not just refusing to admit. We still are the village that is raising our children. Nothing has changed about that. It's just that now village is divided, and divided, we are are falling.
I am a high school teacher--a leader for our future generation--and I teach in a primarily African American school district--working with 14 and 15 year olds everyday---many of these children do actually come from stable homes, but like any other teenagers their age, they are looking for an identity--a place to fit in amongst not only their peers but within the black community and within mainstream society. Television programming does a large part in providing identities. Children grow up on television more so now than we ever have before--partly because the technology is more readily available and partly because of the general breakdown of traditional family presets across the board. My little girls (and by that, I mean my black students) are looking for where they fit in, trying to define themselves, looking for popular people to "be like" and in the process, they make self-reducing bold attempts to sexualize and serve up their little bodies like the adult ones that get all the attention in our BET videos, that, by the way, are always on at 3pm--targeted at getting them to buy into the hype.--And successfully so. Music is all they talk about. Today, you can barely get a black child to sit still at at desk and focus on his classwork, unless he is listening to his CD player! They inhale hiphop today--You and I both know that, and many of us (black and white alike) are cashing in on it, without regard to the ripple effects. But, I think as long as your primary vision is of making tons of money for yourself, it makes sense not to see the larger issues--which of course would bring a sense of larger responsiblity. But nobody wants to feel responsible for anyone but themselves--we've no sense to give back to the community in ways that are larger than the ways we disservice ourselves. Not anymore. We are a broken down community with a lost sense of what our struggle is and has always been--a fight for freedom, for self worth, and for dignity in a country that made big bucks by dehumanizing our ancestoral pasts. But we don't want to look in that direction anymore, because as long as we can buy the expensive watch, appear on lucrative programming, and establish the latest clothing line--who cares about what we still need to look out for: Each other.
You and I are raising little girls, Carsonvaudrin.
We just are.
At this point, it's just sad to know that your voice, as a media message, is much louder than mine, and we're not even standing on the same side of the line.
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So let me get this straight. Is Karrine Steffans’ whole purpose behind this book to expose all the appalling things that happen in the world of Hip-Hop, so that other girls trying to make it in the industry can learn from her mistakes? It seems pretty obvious to me that all of this is no more than dirty little publicity stunt. Clearly she is glorifying her actions. Not only that, but it would seem that this book would provide a road map for any misguided young girl trying to make it in the Hip-Hop industry. Talk about having something blow-up in your face.
My purpose for posting this comment is to denounce people like Karrine Steffans. I have been a successful entity in the world of Hip-Hop for years now, so I see people every day who’s accomplishments are rivaled only by their sense of determination. These people, both women & men, made it without whores like you, or being whores themselves.
To Karrine Steffans: Hip-Hop is beautiful. It has the capacity to offer a positive message. You chose to provide a message that is unconstructive and detrimental, not only to the listener or reader, but destructive to Hip-Hop all together. Hip-Hop is a home & a sanctuary to many people. You are a stranger in our home, and you have overstayed your welcome. Please leave our home. You are not welcome here.
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While I wholeheartedly disapprove of her past behavior and her blatant marketing to promote this book, we need to take a deep breath and admit that Steffens was never hired, paid or rewarded for being a scholar. She was paid, hired, and passed around for being a sexually accessible female.
Don't just put down the whore, put down her customers (rappers) as well.
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So how long before this book winds up on the markdown table at bookstores, to be purchased as jerkoff material?
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Honestly, you can't be mad at a person for "getting it how they live". As far as her wanting her kid to read it... now that's strange, sick, and sort of perverse. But hey she isn't aiming for Mother of the Year.
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Then you have the audacity to make a very unsubtle slur against Oprah Winfrey. I would think that her INTELLIGENCE AND WEALTH is far above that of your's. Based on a brief psychological analysis of your posting the general consensus would be that you are jealous of wealthy, famous, and popular AA and mixed race persons. You seem to be the one who has the perverted interest in sex and not very different in intent than those people of whom you are vilifying.
The majority of AA people do not care about the "white man" because they know that he generally does not even have enough effect to make a problem for people. You need to get out of your small minded community, apparently, and meet real African American persons of substance who are family, job, and education oriented. Perhaps one day you will learn this. Maybe one day somebody in your family will marry or have children with an AA person so you will find out. I hope, for your sake, that you do because you sound like a very unhappy and mean-spirited person at this point in your life.
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Hip hop this hip hop that. Individuals of other races would have hitttttttttttt also and would have also passed her around to friends. Not only that she wanted to be past around.
Women get on tv and put individuals of all races on blast all the time.
This is not something new among our society and is a judgement of character not race and culture.
There are thousands of women from all races who could have wrote a book just like hers and filled it with names of wealthy individuals from all races and all types of different cultures.
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This is her biography, these things happened to her, she went through all this. so she has the right to write about herself. I commend her for writing the book but on the other hand Duhhhhhh! this isn't news, who can honestly say that they have no idea that this crap is going on in the music industry. and as of her dedicating the book to her son, I say so what? he will read it one day if he wants to.
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Whether sex goes on behind the scenes is really beside the point, because women like yourself will always be around to argue that is does not (and for many, I'm sure it doesn't). The central issue that no one can deny is that a majority of the images in our hiphop videos that are put up front and blasted across satellite dishes for the WORLD to see, are negative because, they are explicitly sexual.
Booties shaking, breasts hoisted, belittling lyrics--where's the art in that? What's the message for the youth? Entertainment defines their lives--otherwise, celebs like Michael Jordan wouldn't be able to sell those shoes: Kids wanna "be like Mike,"--so what is it that keeps us from admitting, that our kids wanna be like the images in our hiphop videos?
I don't care how much we as a community and as successful people like perhaps yourself have profited from it--this is affecting our black community in ways that I hope you simply just don't understand and are not just refusing to admit. We still are the village that is raising our children. Nothing has changed about that. It's just that now village is divided, and divided, we are are falling.
I am a high school teacher--a leader for our future generation--and I teach in a primarily African American school district--working with 14 and 15 year olds everyday---many of these children do actually come from stable homes, but like any other teenagers their age, they are looking for an identity--a place to fit in amongst not only their peers but within the black community and within mainstream society. Television programming does a large part in providing identities. Children grow up on television more so now than we ever have before--partly because the technology is more readily available and partly because of the general breakdown of traditional family presets across the board. My little girls (and by that, I mean my black students) are looking for where they fit in, trying to define themselves, looking for popular people to "be like" and in the process, they make self-reducing bold attempts to sexualize and serve up their little bodies like the adult ones that get all the attention in our BET videos, that, by the way, are always on at 3pm--targeted at getting them to buy into the hype.--And successfully so. Music is all they talk about. Today, you can barely get a black child to sit still at at desk and focus on his classwork, unless he is listening to his CD player! They inhale hiphop today--You and I both know that, and many of us (black and white alike) are cashing in on it, without regard to the ripple effects. But, I think as long as your primary vision is of making tons of money for yourself, it makes sense not to see the larger issues--which of course would bring a sense of larger responsiblity. But nobody wants to feel responsible for anyone but themselves--we've no sense to give back to the community in ways that are larger than the ways we disservice ourselves. Not anymore. We are a broken down community with a lost sense of what our struggle is and has always been--a fight for freedom, for self worth, and for dignity in a country that made big bucks by dehumanizing our ancestoral pasts. But we don't want to look in that direction anymore, because as long as we can buy the expensive watch, appear on lucrative programming, and establish the latest clothing line--who cares about what we still need to look out for: Each other.
You and I are raising little girls, Carsonvaudrin.
We just are.
At this point, it's just sad to know that your voice, as a media message, is much louder than mine, and we're not even standing on the same side of the line.
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