Can Men Really Have It All? How a Quest for Perfectionism is Stressing Out Dads
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Instead of supporting the more nurturing and equitable family model, the message from our day jobs remains: when it comes to balancing family and work, if you can’t manage on your own, it’s your comeuppance for wanting to Have It All. By definition “mystiques” reflect models that no one ever lived up to but everyone feels they ought to. Humanizing the model could reveal a collective, societal solution to the work-family “balancing act,” allowing what life cycle pioneer Erik Erikson called the “cornerstone of our humanness”—a healthy combination of work and love.
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Suzanne Braun Levine is the author of Inventing the Rest of Our Lives: Women in Second Adulthood and 50 Is the New 50: Ten Life Lessons for Women in Second Adulthood , and co-author, with Mary Thom, of Bella Abzug: How One Tough Broad from the Bronx Fought Jim Crow and Joe McCarthy, Pissed Off Jimmy Carter, Battled for the Rights of Women and Workers, Rallied Against War and for the Planet, and Shook Up Politics Along the Way. She was the first editor of Ms. magazine and the only woman editor of the Columbia Journalism Review . She is at work on a forthcoming book, How We Love Now: Sex and the New Intimacy in Second Adulthood . She was the first editor of Ms. magazine and the only woman editor of the Columbia Journalism Review . Levine blogs at Women in Second Adulthood .