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"We're at the bottom of the pile, right along with black women," said the young Taiwanese-American, his face red with frustration. He was speaking out at a local dinner/discussion event titled "Mating and Dating in the Asian American Community." The rage among the men in that room was palpable as they spoke of a lifetime of sexual invisibility in a culture that constructs them as either effeminate or repulsive.
The sexual marketplace is a minefield for people of color. Our choice of bed partners is defined by a racial hierarchy that places Anglos squarely at the top. They determine who's hot and who's not for the rest of us. Asian men, unfortunately, just don't cut it. Like the geeky Long Duck Dong who chases after a horrified Molly Ringwald in "Sixteen Candles," popular culture regards them as sexual untouchables. No wonder then that so many of my Asian girlfriends grew up lusting after white guys.
"I wanted to be blonde and beautiful. And this was the closest I was going to get," says Meena, an Indian-American. The thought of being further "raced" by going out with fellow Indians was intolerable.
Hollywood reinforces this desire for assimilation by consistently pairing Asian women with Anglo men. While the very sexy Jet Li is not allowed to kiss Bridget Fonda in "Kiss of the Dragon," celluloid Asian babes can't wait to get their clothes off for the dashing white hero. In "Shanghai Knights," actress Fann Wong is matched up with Owen Wilson instead of Jackie Chang, who is conveniently cast as her brother. Hollywood's message is unmistakable: No women for the Asian guy.
Henry, who is part Chinese and part-white, points out that the stereotypes have real-life consequences for the sexual life of an Asian American male. "It means a lot of loneliness. A lot of Friday nights without a date," he says. But Asian men are no less Anglo-centric in their sexual preferences. Author David Mura writes openly of his "rampant promiscuity with white women and an obsession with pornography." Like my friends, he was running as far away as he could from his Asian-ness.
The difference, however, is that Asian women have a much better shot at getting some white booty. Sexual objectification has its benefits. Henry calls it "cultural leverage." In other words, thanks to our exotic status, women like me can choose from a broad palette of sexual options. The men in my community want the right to do the same. Therefore their desire for more movies like the newly released, "The Guru," in which Indian actor Jimi Mistry has both Marisa Tomei and Heather Graham fawning over him. The logic is simple: If an Anglo finds you hot, the rest will follow.
Sounds like a great plan, except that sexual seal of approval may get you more dates, but often comes with a price tag. My Thai friend Susan still fumes over an ad looking for Asian women, which said, "American-born feminists need not apply." The situation within the gay community isn't much better. "Rice queens" (white men with a taste for the Oriental) expect Asian men to play the role of the submissive "bottom." Asians, both male and female, have social capital in our culture, but mostly as docile sex objects.
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