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Sex Play With Vampires and Furries? How a Little Imagination Can Give Your Sex Life a Boost

Sexual role-play can provide a creative adventure that liberates people from real-world stress and gives their real sex lives a boost.
It was early in the millennium that I first heard about “furries” and their sometimes-sexual fetishizing of anthropomorphized animals, but it wasn’t until a year ago that I realized it didn’t necessarily mean having a moving experience with a plush paramour.

“It’s about being in cat consciousness,” a girl at a furry event told me; In six words, she conveyed what six years of squinting at it hadn’t brought across. It wasn’t necessarily about a threesome with Hello Kitty and Pokémon. It was about leaving your human stress … traffic, bills, family, work, body issues … and becoming a something else, in her case a kitteh, a creature born to cuddle. It was about fantasy.

We all give reality the heave-ho almost every chance we get via TV, drugs, sports, shopping or whatever our version of “cat consciousness” is. Sexual role-play can do the same by providing a creative adventure that liberates couples from real-world stress and gives their real sex lives a boost. Plus, it has the word “play” in it. Between trying to look perfect and “achieve” orgasm, as though there’s a sales quota, people sometimes forget that sex is supposed to be fun.

Love at First Bite
Take the vogue of vampirism. It’s popular to be a bloodsucker right now (actually it has been for about 30 years) and part of the reason is that the creatures’ ancient allure makes them perfect stars for a sexual fantasy.

“We all love those moments when we can feel larger than we are, more expansive, and the vampire image invites this, because it appears to be an extension of what human beings can be,” explains Dr. Katherine Ramsland, associate professor of forensic psychology and criminal justice at DeSales University, and the author several vampire books, including The Vampire Companion: The Official Guide to Anne Rice’s The Vampire Chronicles, (written with Anne Rice).

“Vampires are mysterious, sexy, dominating, transcendent, powerful,” she says, “yet seem to have knowledge about things that mere mortals cannot yet know. In a role-play, we can give ourselves up to this in total surrender and absorption; we can hunt it down and conquer it with human weapons; or we can step into the vampire’s skin and see through its eyes, creating reality in whatever way we see fit.”

“Role-playing today’s vampire enables people to express outrageous and exaggerated behavior, from sex to power to manipulation to control,” says Rosemary Ellen Guiley, paranormal investigator and author of three books on vampires, who sees vampire role playing as improving on the skills of our ancestors. “[It’s] a more direct way to experience life through the ‘skin’ of another personality. It is the ultimate escapism,” she says. “Vampires rule. They have it all. In a world where people feel increasingly oppressed from all directions, vampire role-playing can provide an adrenalin rush of freedom and excitement.”

Your Second Life

There’s a difference, of course, between a little light game playing and setting up a more elaborate scenario with characters, costumes and motives—aside from having great sex—and even locations. Online role-playing, whether it’s adult or general audience, can be another way to get into the spirit of the thing.


“Krsna” is a Guardian of Darkrose, a time-traveling island in

Second Life

with an underlying vampire theme (

The Kingdom of Darkrose blog

will give you an idea of their fine literary sensibilities). Darkrose is not a sex “sim” (simulation), so don’t come in bringing your custom-designed demon wang and expect a warm reception. (No kidding, you can buy custom genitals in Second Life, human or otherwise, at a shop like

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