My First Abortion Party
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But a success with a question mark. As Ali and I walked home, we wondered together what exactly the relationship between abortion and "maleness" is supposed to look like. What is a man’s role in the decision? Does including a male partner’s perspective necessarily compromise a woman’s agency, as Maggie’s friends seemed to believe? It’s not that much of a stretch -- after all, male perspectives have suffocated debate around the issue for way too long.
Moreover, what are the inherent emotional features of being "male" or "female?" Is compassion/reactionary aggression the only set of qualifiers? If so, does that mean women can be "male," too?
Walking home, Ali and I agreed that dealing with the issue of abortion means dealing with a world’s worth of expectations, conflicts and limitations. It means accepting a frustratingly imperfect role in a frustratingly imperfect discussion.
Perhaps most importantly, it means allowing space for rightful, understandable (and possibly even productive) anger to take place.