Darn, I Forgot to Have Babies!

Here it is: fertility panic number 47. This latest round of official consternation over when women should have babies was sparked by Newsweek's "Science Can't Beat the Biological Clock" story -- complete with a taut, pregnant belly featured on the cover. Or was it the American Society for Reproductive Medicine that started it all with the announcement of its "public service" ad campaign, which will soon bring images of hourglass-shaped baby bottles to buses and subways near you? "Advancing age decreases your ability to have children," the fertility doctors' group warns, in case women haven't gathered as much from the visual -- or perhaps just from living on earth.

The politically charged question of when women should have babies is always in the air -- inextricably entwined, as it is, with the ongoing struggles over birth control, abortion, and women's position in the workplace. But with fertility specialists hitting the talk-show circuit and the hourglass campaign poised to launch in New York, Chicago and Seattle next month, the early-procreation push is once again moving into high gear.

Perhaps not surprisingly, the social pressure over pregnancy timing is tightening just as anxiety-provoking reproductive issues are swirling out of Washington's control. Earlier this month, after Congress had already voted overwhelmingly to outlaw the cloning of humans, several rogue scientists stepped forward to announce their intentions to defy the ban and do just that. (The fact that the person leading the pro-cloning pack believes in aliens and claims to have seen a UFO probably does little to assuage fears of Frankenbabies.) Meanwhile, policy makers have been grappling with the related question of research on stem cells, the primal building blocks that, when taken from embryos, can grow into brains, hearts, kidneys and other body parts.

The whole thing is enough to make a legislator long for the good old days, when organs were just organs and Mom stayed at home and made cookies (and, of course, babies). But, while elected officials remain unable to stave off the Brave New World, nostalgia for our bygone social order seems to be bubbling up through the popular culture.

It's as if collective fear is taking over where laws leave off, as it mysteriously seems to at times. Remember the 1986 "news" that college-educated women over 35 were more likely to be killed by a terrorist than to find a husband, which also ended up on the cover of Newsweek? As Susan Faludi pointed out in Backlash, that study had a closer relationship to political battles over equal pay and rights than it did to the truth. Well, this time, reproduction is the trigger -- though, once again, women are getting the squeeze.

Even TV's usually carefree Sex and the City characters are feeling it. In the latest episode, Miranda reluctantly decides to go forward with an unplanned pregnancy by her ex, Steve. While the show's hardboiled, thirtysomething lawyer continues to balk at marriage for marriage's sake, she recognizes pregnancy as a limited-time offer. ("I'm still not ready, but when am I ever going to be ready?" she asks Steve.) So, as her baby-obsessed friend, Charlotte, submits to hormone shots in her butt -- and brings the show's fertility-oriented plot score to 50 percent -- Miranda resignedly starts throwing up in the toilet and preparing for motherhood.

None of their decisions is simple. While Miranda stares down the barrel of single-motherhood, Charlotte tries to get pregnant despite her antagonistic mother-in-law, her ambivalence about her husband, her husband's ambivalence about having children, her own fertility limitations, and perhaps those of her husband. (This last possibility is not unlikely, since male infertility actually accounts for some 40 percents of couples' difficulties conceiving, though the issue never seems to come up much on talk shows or magazine covers.)