Make Love, Not Debt: A Guide to Budget-Friendly Dating

By Molly Mann, Divine Caroline. Posted March 31, 2009.

After reading a recent report from the BBC stating that the current recession may have more negative than positive effects on our dating life, I started thinking about whether this was really true. Yes, money worries can be a huge obstacle to relationship building, but as the author of the report, relationship psychologist Susan Quillam, points out, surely animal attraction offers the most reliable and least expensive source of comfort when times get rough, right?

Not necessarily. The problem with dating during a recession, of course, is the high cost of going out these days. We’ve been bombarded with advice on how to save money by staying in, eating at home, and checking out library books instead of catching the latest flick, without much concern for what effect these shifts in behavior will have on our social lives. How do you convince the cute guy from work that library books make a hot date?

Thinking back over my dating experiences and those of other women I know, however, I realize that some of the best dates I’ve had have also been the cheapest (money-wise, of course!). Although a three-course meal at the city’s finest restaurant followed by a night of dancing has its own merits, the best way to get to know someone is often to spend time in each other’s elements, participating in activities you both enjoy on a daily basis. After all, if you’re looking for a possible long-term relationship, it’s nice to know that you can enjoy each other’s company without all the trimmings we typically associate with dating. These ideas may help get you on your way.

Cheap Thrills

Fly kites
This how-to guide and video shows you how to make your own using newsprint and other craft items. You’ll both have a lot of fun working together and you’ll feel like kids again.

Plan a scavenger hunt with other couples
One couple can scope out a museum, park, or even a busy part of town and plan a list of items for the others to find. Competition is a great way for you and your date to bond. This could also make a great first date if you’re being set up by friends and are feeling awkward about too much solo time right away.

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