Are Male Fantasies of "Girl-on-Girl" Action Messing with Women's Sexuality?

By Simcha , The Frisky. Posted January 25, 2009.

With the proliferation of straight girl-on-girl action being popularized in the media -- from "Girls Gone Wild" and Miley Cyrus' sleepover kiss, to Katy Perry's hit "I Kissed A Girl" and super-babe Megan Fox admitting she had a girlfriend -- there has been a great change in the way female sexual orientation is perceived. It has become more of an open spectrum than a box. There is a clear upside to straight women making out with another woman without anyone batting an eyelash -- we should all be free to do what and who we feel without judgment. However, Details magazine has tried to explain the downside. In the article, "Flirting With Disaster," men recount how their lesbian fantasies became an obsession that turned into a variety of devastating scenarios.  From the guy who pressured his girlfriend to the point that she felt violated, to a guy whose threesome dirty talk made his wife realize she was gay, sometimes taking a chance that seems irresistible can bring about the downfall of a relationship. However, the real problem here is that men often feel like they are responsible for and therefore dominate the desires and sexual expression of both people in a relationship.

Both critics and supporters of bisexual antics find something inherently wrong with it being a performance for a male audience. Sure, we straight gals would love to give the men in our lives the boner of a lifetime, but there comes a point where our sexuality becomes a mere extension of our partner's dreams.  What about our own fantasies?  Almost 60% of our Frisky readers said that two men going at it is sexy. As a woman who loves gay male porn and has dated bisexual men, I get off on my homosexual dreams, but I rarely get the chance to gawk at two straight men going at it to get female attention. However, the number of women I've seen making out merely to make an impression on the men around is too high for me to have kept count.  I don't want to rain on anyone's alcohol-induced parade, but there's a difference between pushing your sexual boundaries and crossing a line. It's one thing if your partner naturally toes that line and is aroused by same sex sexytimes and it's another if you're the only one getting off. It's unfair and creepy, but also a tricky situation. It's a completely natural desire to have a gay fantasy and it's nice to have a partner who is so eager to please your whims in the sack, but it might be hard to realize the consequences of something that just seems so fun and sexy. However, make no mistake, there can be penalties for everyone involved.

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