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What I Learned Working as a Phone Sex Operator -- 16 Surprising Secrets of the Trade

What it's like on the other side of the line.
 
 
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Despite the proliferation of Internet porn,  phone sex continues to be a multimillion dollar industry. And having been a phone sex operator for more than eight years, I can tell you from experience that phone sex can be a fun, sexy, lucrative gig. But I also learned that it can be frustrating, shocking, confounding, exasperating and unexpectedly hilarious. Here are 16 things you'd probably never suspect about phone sex.

They Dress the Part

Most phone sex operators wear comfy clothes, especially if they're working from home, but a handful of phone actresses say that dressing to the nines helps them get into character. They wear fancy business suits, slinky peignoirs and thigh-high stockings while they sit - all alone - and chat it up. So fellas, if she says she's wearing a silk kimono and four-inch heels, she just may be telling the truth!

There Are Limits

And for good reason. I didn't want to get into a phone sex gig with a bunch of rules. After all, I was proving how fearless and open-minded I was. Unfortunately, some people's idea of  kink is just plain horrifying. That's why most phone sex operators decide upfront what subjects are off limits, and stick to them. I've been asked for bestiality, incest, pedophilia, Satanism and snuff (trust me, you don't want to know). That's why most phone sex operators reserve the right to say no and end a call. It's as simple as that.

Guys Do It Too

While the majority of phone sex ops are women, men can and do get in on the action. But don't get too excited, ladies. Male phone sex operators are also there just for men. What about women callers? Personally, I've never spoken to a woman caller who wasn't on the extension with her male friend. I guess they just aren't that into it.

It Can Be Boring

I expected many things when I started doing phone sex, but being bored out of my mind? Never! In the beginning, once you've taken out some ads and are waiting for the phone to ring ... well, it's a big snore. The first few weeks, you might only get one or two calls a day. Down time is research time though, which means you get to put your feet up and read some  Anais Nin. (Want to do some erotic "research" of your own? Check out  5 Books That Will Make You Forget About "50 Shades of Grey.")

Bathroom Breaks

No cords in phone sex. Cordless and cellphones only, and not just for your own mobility. Sooner or later, someone will want you to take your call into the bathroom. As it turns out, LOTS of men delight in listening to women pee. Which brings us to …

So Many Kinks

Phone sex operators need to be well acquainted with all the mainstream  fetishes - and a few more. Until my affair with phone sex, I had no idea how many men were really into feet. Other noteworthy fetishes include forced cross-dressing, tickling and paddling, vampirism, and *shudder* necrophilia.

There's Treachery Afoot

Some clients will try crazy things to keep from paying for their calls. I've had preteen boys try to call collect, phone company employees hack my line, and neighbors listen on my line with a police scanner.

His Wife? Really?

The first time I got a call from an enraged wife, I thought it was my friend playing a joke. After all, who is really going to think that an adult conversation specialist wants to steal their husband? Turns out, there are many wives who think exactly that - and they sure know a lot of not-very-nice euphemisms for sexual availability.

 
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