Sex & Relationships

8 Unusual Ways Male Sexual Adventurers Are Getting Off

There’s always room for experimentation.

We have so many cultures, and so much sexual history to draw from for inspiration and apply to this incredible technological revolution we are all living through. While common sex techniques can be a delight in and of themselves, the opportunities for experimentation are immense. Here are eight eye-catching ways guys are getting off in more unusual ways these days.

1. Ball Stretching

This one is for the guys who enjoy the sensation of having their balls tugged on. Ball stretchers offer a hands-free way of doing this. As Marelize Swart explains, ball stretchers come in two basic varieties: cuffs and parachutes. Cuffs come in sleeves of leather or metal that the wearer fastens or slides his balls through. They come in different sizes and lengths, and help elongate the ball sac by stretching it. Parachute ball stretchers, on the other hand, are usually made from leather and “snap” around the sac. Metal weights, connected by chains hanging below, pull the scrotum downward. Some guys wear ball stretchers during CBT (cock and ball torture) sessions. Others say it helps alleviate the pain from being “too tight.” And many are in it for the aesthetics alone.

In “The Art of Ball Stretching,” Jarod Johansen writes, “An impressive genital package always includes the testicles hanging relaxed, dangling below the tip of the penis. This is guaranteed to impress in the locker room and sauna! Manhood, virility, sexuality, potency, and the true essence of being male are all brought to the forefront of the mind with a large-appearing low-hanging genital package.” He goes on to list the two “results” wearing a ball stretcher will achieve. The first reads, “It is in itself pleasurable and erotic as the sensation of the weight hanging on the balls is a great feeling (it also looks good!).” The second, “The weight hanging on the ball sac will, if used sufficiently, lengthen the ball sac giving more to play with, and increases the potential for pleasurable sensations.”

Warning: make sure to start with lighter weights. Going too heavy too fast can be painful and potentially damaging.   

2. Post-Orgasm Torture (POT)

This one isn’t exactly mainstream, but it does provide an alternative way for guys to achieve sexual satisfaction. POT applies to when one’s partner continues to stimulate, or “jerk” the penis after ejaculation. The blog “Give Me Gay Porn” writes, “What started out as a pleasurable tingle pulls a bait and switch and rapidly escalates into an unbearable wave of over-stimulation that centers on the end of your dick—and every subsequent touch leaves you a quivering, twitching mess.” After a man ejaculates, the glands in the head of the penis are very sensitive. When touched, it can be uncomfortable. And it seems that’s exactly what those into POT are going for. One porn industry insider writes, “It’s a blissful state between pleasure and pain.” A forum user writes, “I love this done to me—but being tied (down) helps otherwise I would always back out.”

3. Figging

What was once a Victorian-era form of punishment now has a place in the modern-day sexual playground. “Figging” is a name for a practice involving the use of ginger root for sexual stimulation. Participants take an intact ginger root, remove the skin and carve it into the shape of a butt plug. Once inserted, the “figger” will feel an intense stinging/burning sensation, which for them, translates into sexual pleasure and arousal. This act is big in the BDSM scene. While the majority of figgers opt to insert the ginger into the anus, we should note that female figgers do exist, and prefer inserting the ginger into their vaginas. One post on an online forum dedicated to figging details one man’s first experience getting “figged.” He writes, “I’m a 20 year old male (and) after reading everything I could find about figging on here I became very interested. One night I went to the local supermarket and purchased some ginger, peeled it, and went to town. And how satisfying it was.” “Another user even suggests putting the ginger “down the pee hole.” The site’s official Twitter profile reads, “Documenting the pleasures of ginger up the butt since 2003.” They have 52 followers.  

4. Sounding

If this term doesn’t sound familiar, you’re not alone. Sounding is a relatively under-discussed method of achieving sexual gratification. If you run on the squeamish side, you may want to look away, because this one involves urethral insertion. “Sounding rods” are usually long, thin metal (sometimes rubber) objects that can be inserted into the urethra. Some are big, some are small. Some are smooth, some are ridged. If the rod is long enough, two men can actually insert the same rod into their respective urethras and… take it from there. The porn site Gay Sounding has over 60 videos dedicated to sounding. The blog Give Me Gay Porn insists that sounding can “derive a different sensation than any other method of genital stimulation.” It even offers a relatively detailed how-to guide for those willing to give it a go. Gay porn star Element Eclipse specializes in the act. His Twitter profile reads, “Professional with an interesting take on being outrageous and spontaneous.” Skeptics may be interested to know that deep sounding has the ability to stimulate the prostate, but “from the other end,” which can help deliver powerful orgasms. Sounding kits can be found online at various body jewelry sites. Urethral dilator sets are even sold to help inexperienced sounders starting out. They are available in up to 12 sizes. The biggest risk: infection. The chief necessity: lube. In short, it’s about penetrating the impenetrable. And that idea can get a lot of guys going.

5. Cock Rings

What do we do with these? Kidding… the name kind of gives it away. Cock rings should be placed on erect or semi-erect penises, usually around the base of the shaft (though some prefer placing the toy directly underneath the head). The idea is for the ring to slow the flow of blood into the erectile tissues in the penis, which is a fancy way of saying “cock rings can give you a huge, long-lasting hard-on.” When describing the sensation cock rings have on wearers, Persephone Magazine explains, “Think of it like anytime you have ever gotten your blood-pressure taken. You know when you are sitting there and the cuff around your arm tightens? …Pressure has a way of setting our nerves on fire, and keeping blood flow in one particular area, thus, when there is finally that release, when the cuff comes off, there is a stronger feeling of relief.”

An interesting tidbit about cock rings: they’ve been around forever. Well, okay, not forever, but it’s rumored the first cock rings were found at ancient Greek sites. They were also big during China’s Jin Dynasty. And like any hot product, variation is key. Cock rings now come in vibrating form, with spikes, and with a dildo attached, so you can you and your partner can “enjoy 3-year D.P. fantasy just for the two of you!”

6. Frotting

This one is most aptly applied to the gay community. Also known as “cock to cock” pleasure, frotting is a non-penetrative form of sexual activity among men. Some like to engage in frotting as an alternative to anal sex. Others find it to be an enjoyable form of foreplay. Websites like Man 2 Man Alliance and Frot Frat have popped up in celebration of the act, the former defining it as, “Two men going head to head, heart to heart, cock to cock. No tops or bottoms, no butches or femmes, no doms or subs—just two budz united in passion, love, or both.” The term was first popularized by gay rights activist Bill Weintraub in his article “Frot: The Next Sexual Revolution.” Weintraub later became known as the “Cockrub Warrior.” The most popular frotting-related video on Porn Hub is titled Frot Funnnn! and has been viewed over 150,000 times. While related, the term shouldn’t be confused with frotteurism, a paraphilia that involves the non-consensual rubbing of another person to achieve sexual satisfaction.  

7. Prostate Play

The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that surrounds the urethra. It can be stimulated externally via the perineum (the diamond-shaped area between the scrotum and the anus), but the more popular approach seems to be with penetration. The prostate can be located about two inches below the rectum toward the scrotum. Inserting a finger (or more) and moving it in a “come hither” motion toward his naval can stimulate the prostate to the point of orgasm. But those who aren’t into finger play are in luck, because there are many toys designed to help users achieve prostate-assisted orgasms. Leading the way is the Aneros. Also called the “progasm,” the Aneros is a relatively small toy (3.5 inches) designed to make contact with the prostate (also known as the “p-spot”). Users pivot the device forward by clenching their butt cheeks together. When the muscles relax, the device reverts back to its stationary position. This kind of stroking motion stimulates the prostate and delivers those hands-free orgasms so many like to boast about.

8. Subincision

Body modification isn’t for the faint of heart. That’s why we saved this one for last. Penile subincision involves making an incision from the urethral opening to the base of the shaft. The idea is that sex becomes more pleasurable because the nerves can be stimulated directly. The surgery also makes the penis wider and more textured, so one’s partner gets to reap the benefits, too. One Reddit user agreed to participate in an AMA (ask me anything) about his own subincision. He wrote, “Oral sex was an entirely new experience. A tongue working down the urethra is absolute ecstasy. The subincision exposes new areas that respond well to sexual stimulation.” He explained, “Exposing the nerves and receptors in the urethra to external stimulation can be very pleasurable. Normally, the inside of your urethra isn't stimulated because it isn't able to be touched directly. Perhaps you could also think of it in terms of having more skin exposed and thus more surface area with which one can derive sexual pleasure.” But surgery always comes with risk and recuperation. Most men who undergo the surgery have to learn how to urinate again, as the incision causes a disruption in the stream.

Carrie Weisman is an AlterNet staff writer who focuses on sex, relationships and culture. Got tips, ideas or a first-person story? Email her

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