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Hey Guys, Don't Want Kids? A Vasectomy Is Probably the Way to Go

Historically, the burden of family planning has almost always fallen on women. Isn't it about time for that to change?
November 20, 2009  |  
 
 
 
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You will lose your sex drive. Your genitals will swell. You will suffer excruciating pain. You won’t be able to get an erection or ejaculate. You won’t be a man anymore. While it is a routine operation—nearly 500,000 are performed in the United States every year—the myths about vasectomies fester. In fact, the outpatient procedure is a simple form of birth control for men, intended to be permanent, in which the health care provider closes or blocks the tubes that carry sperm. This prevents sperm from leaving the body or causing pregnancy; the body instead absorbs it. Used as birth control, vasectomies are nearly 100 percent effective.
Of course, vasectomies are not for everyone. Particularly, they must be weighed against a person or couple’s desire to have children in the future —considering such dire circumstances that may intervene in one’s life, such as death or divorce. While vasectomies can sometimes be reversed, the procedure is intended to be permanent; reversals do not always work. Doctors warn against depending upon it for any future change of heart.

Jason, a 38-year-old man from Turlock, California who had a vasectomy and asked that his last name not be used, said that vasectomies seem to be shrouded in mystery for most men.

“They don't understand that it is virtually painless,” Jason said. “It is extremely safe. Also, most men are extremely protective and shy about male organs, outside of being in a sexual situation. To think that some doctor will be cutting them open and doing stuff turns off a lot of men to the idea.”

Julius, a 49-year-old from Winston-Salem, North Carolina, noticed a similar sort of thinking.

“Men always seem to cringe when vasectomies are discussed, like it would really hurt,” Julius said. “I was in so little pain that I did have intercourse the evening of the procedure, and there was no pain involved. I had the procedure on a Friday, and was easily back to my desk job on Monday.”

Still, the mystery about vasectomies persists—and it is most prevalent outside the United States. About 43 million men around the world have undergone voluntary sterilization—compared to 180 women who have chosen sterilization, despite the fact that vasectomies are far simpler, safer, and more affordable than tubal litigation. A vasectomy costs anywhere from $350 to $1,000; female sterilization costs nearly six times as much. (Medicaid covers sterilization for both men and women.)

“Vasectomy is extremely rare in all but a few industrialized countries and China,” according to “In Their Own Right,” a 2003 report from the Guttmacher Institute on the reproductive and sexual health of men. It further reports that most men in their forties and early fifties do not want more children. Vasectomies are most prevalent in North America, parts of Western Europe, and China; it is nearly nonexistent in much of Africa, Latin America and Eastern Europe.

And yet, cued by a tight economic outlook around the world, many people are considering permanent birth control. Besides wanting to prevent against unexpected pregnancies, men in precarious jobs often want to have the procedure while they still have health insurance that covers it.

Doctors have seen a sharp increase in the number of people inquiring about the procedure, according to U.S. News and World Report. An article from last March cites Dr. Marc Goldstein of Cornell Institute for Reproductive Medicine in New York City, who estimates that he has provided about 48 percent more vasectomy consultations than he had one year ago. CNN reports that the Cleveland Clinic in Ohio has seen a 50 percent jump in the number of vasectomies that it is performing since the nadir of the recession in Fall 2008.


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I did a veasectomie
Posted by: richholland on Nov 20, 2009 12:09 AM   
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at age 45 my wife 44got a baby unwanted.
As a socialdemocrate I took vasectomie.
Now I learn AL GORE the greeniest american ever has 4 kids.
At 51 I divorced my new wife wants a baby so I am advicing men dont do it untill your 66.

Why it is OK for Islamic papa s to have 7 to 10 kids.

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Sorry but no...
Posted by: cordas on Nov 20, 2009 1:11 AM   
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A vasectomy isn't realistically a viable form of birth control for us blokes, because it isn't reliably reversible. Its sterilisation not contraception.

Yes I can see how for many men it is acceptable (my brother had one last year because he and his wife feel 3 kids is enough), but for many other men the idea of never being able to be a father (again) is simply unpalatable.

Just out of interest would women be any more likely to trust a bloke saying he has had the snip than they would be of a bloke saying he was on the pill (assuming a male pill was available)?

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No regrets
Posted by: paulinmaine on Nov 20, 2009 2:45 AM   
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I had a vasectomy in my mid 20's and have no regrets about doing it. I'm currently 40. I was married at the time and my wife already had a child from a previous relationship. The choice between her having the surgery and me having it was an easy one. The procedure was much easier and safer for me. Since that time I have been in several long term relationships(we divorced), and having had the procedure has allowed the women I have been with to forgo the hormones and such. You do, of course, want to be sure that a change in relationship status or circumstances might not lead to a change of heart. Or as sure as you can be. For me, it was a simple, relatively pain free procedure, that I have been very happy I made.

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Best money I ever spent!
Posted by: Farasien on Nov 20, 2009 4:36 AM   
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My wife and I decided a month or two before we got married not to do the kids thing (kids, in general, suck in my opinion). I went to the doctor, went to the hospital a week later and got the procedure done for about $500. A little tender for a few days, but after that I was back in the game with no residual problems or any of the bullshit issues those rumors like to scare you about. Been married happily for just over 5 years now, and not a single regret since.

Guys, if you're serious about not going broke raising a family, this really is the only way to go.

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I don't see young girls going for it
Posted by: Bitter_Boy on Nov 20, 2009 5:13 AM   
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I'm in my 20's and I've considered a vascetomy, but I'm afraid it will be a turnoff for any women I meet in the future. I really don't want to limit myself to the 10% or so of available women who don't want kids. At least now I can lie to the woman on the first date and say that kids are a possibility. It would be hard to say that with a straight face when I'm obviously shooting blanks.

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Puttin their Balls on the Table!!
Posted by: Purple Girl on Nov 20, 2009 5:15 AM   
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This 'whistling past the Graveyard' by both males of the Pro Life movement and pro choice has gone on long enough.
Lets be honest keeping abortion legal is advantageous to men as well. They get to keep their shooter loaded, if not for future procreation, then helping sustain their machismo image.
"Yeah Baby you can have an abortion if your Pill (ETC!!!) fails". Yes women have more options in birth cotnrol methods, but most are hazardous to our health. A condom, nor a vestectomy are.
If legislation is passed to force woman to undergo the numerous medical procedures require before and during child birth (for starters), then that same legislation had better address what medical procedures the state has the right to inflict on Male citizens as well.If The courts (churchs)can make decisions about my uterus, then I get to make the calls on their balls.
3rd time and you are sterilized. And I'd concede the same for the number of abortions as well. If after three pregnancies you haven't figured out how to avoid it- let US help you.
This religious 'Johnny Appleseed' mentality has been infused in mens minds and has done absolutely nothing for the children.If they talked as much about mens responsibilties to their partners and their kids as they do about Baby 'killers' we might actually begin to see a drop in Unwanted pregnancies and thus abortions.
But hell these asholes don't even want condoms given out in Africa. Apparently they enjoy seeing straving, dying children. They drop big cash a Kinkos getting a blow up Protest sign of an aborted Fetus-Then perhaps we should counter with one of a Hundred Starving children. These are the Eyes of their Religious Doctrine.
These are not Pro Lifers- If they were they would be pushing for single payer Healthcare. They would be demanding more Stim money. they would abhor 'Trickle Down'.They'd be against torture and Capital punsihment. They would be on the front line of the Enviromentalist movement. They would be against the Wars from the Beginning. They would working their asses off to finally bring Peace to the Middle East, not conquer it.
These are Pro Birthers, blinded by a passages in ancient scripture, and thus blind to what is around them. Prime Pickin's for the Corp machine to manipulate. Who really profits from an exploding population? Certainly not the children. Supply and demand. Not much demand for a commodity in surplus- down goes the cost. Corps realize that hopscotching around from the Cheapest most easily disposable labor market to the next is costly,So...why not just drive down labor costs world wide instead. Stay home and push US labor costs to 3rd world economy levels is really all they needed to do.What they have been working on in unison with this "Pro life" movement for decades. Corps don't just fund Army's Teabaggers, They are also the benefactors and Beneficiary of the 'building an Army for God' group.
Don't tell me you give a shit about my uterus, or my tits for that matter, when you've proven you don't give a shit about my country or my kid.

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I can tell you one thing for a fact, it is easier to get laid
Posted by: bitsfick on Nov 20, 2009 5:43 AM   
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when she knows you are shooting blanks. Unless you run across the occasional gold digger, in that case you don't tell her. And she will screw your brains out thinking she is one paternity suit away from the easy life.

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The question is not If but When
Posted by: SBean on Nov 20, 2009 5:54 AM   
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Married at 28. Child born at 30. Vasectomy at 34. I only wanted one, even if child died prematurely. Divorced at 45. New relationship the past 6 months and great, worry-free sex. It was the right decision for me and I could have made it a few years earlier and spared my ex-wife the worry.

Don't do it if you're not ready, but when you are, do it. Start thinking about it and discussing it now.

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Vasectomy is the best
Posted by: CaptainZen on Nov 20, 2009 6:16 AM   
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I done my vasectomy in 1990 and I am very happy with it. I happened to be in Venezuela at the time and there I stayed in the hospital bed for one night, costing a mere $100. It did not hurt at all and I never has pain. I shoot my load as before, maybe even better. I explain to my buddies that I have a gun but I shoot blanks only. Never had any regrets and have left untold unborn souls wherever they are now still. Yes some of my sex partners were angry at first that I could not make them pregnant, but then realizing the financial and emotional trouble kids bring they thank me for it now. I advice all men to do vasectomy in order to prevent future suffering and deny future war masters and evil world leaders their cannon fodder.

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Another happy snipper.
Posted by: peterjkraus on Nov 20, 2009 6:24 AM   
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Yup. After two great kids I had the sperm highways snipped at age 28. I have never rued the decision, and I'm now 68, still married to the same mother of my two sons, and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

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A vasectomy is the way to go!
Posted by: DrGeneNelson on Nov 20, 2009 6:35 AM   
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I had my vasectomy in 1987 after my second child was born. It was a quick and painless outpatient procedure. I was back at work the next day with only minor discomfort. A few years later, I divorced the mother of my daughters. I have not had relationship problems that are related to my vasectomy 22 years ago. I highly recommend the procedure - particularly for men that don't want children - and the increased probability of divorce that accompanies the attendant financial costs of raising a family. I also recognize that vasectomy is a way to fight back against the greedy economic elite that advocate for overpopulation (because it is so profitable for them.) Employee gluts depress wages, independent of the nature of the work. Population excesses bid up the prices of the necessaries of life.

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"men" in the west
Posted by: drinkycro on Nov 20, 2009 6:36 AM   
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Pussies without [working] balls.

Why bother getting a vasectomy when you're already culturally neutered?

But what do I know; I'm just a crow...with big balls.

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Easy and relatively painless
Posted by: soulrebeljc on Nov 20, 2009 6:42 AM   
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My wife and I decided after our second that we weren't going to have any more. So here were the factors:

Safety - as a surgical procedure, getting the V is way way safer than anything surgical a woman would have to do.

Reversible - some poster above says not reliably reversible. Well then, what's your definition of reliable? 100%? It's reversible in most cases, and I've known a couple of people who have had them reversed successfully (and don't know anyone who hasn't.) Procedures on women, of course, are typically not reversible.

Libido - this was a practical unknown to heavily consider. Turns out it was a non-issue. In fact, when compared with various methods of practiced birth control, all of which in some way mar a complete 'experience', the V actually had the effect of increasing sex drive. Nothing's getting in the way, no worries, don't have to put mental energy into "timing" anything.

Pain - the worst thing was the anaesthetic. Like being zapped in the nuts with electricity. But I don't know if it was pain. Ever had PRK eye surgery? I did that too. THAT is pain. And I'm sure it's nothing compared to labor and childbirth. Once the anaesthetic kicks in, I was awake and watching the whole thing. Couple of tugs, very non-invasive, a little smell of burnt flesh (cauterization, and get a doc with a sense of humor - "we're having a weenie roast, glad you could drop by") and an icepack on the scrote for a day. They say give it a week before you get back in the saddle. Be safe, give it two.

Effectiveness of procedure - I think the stats are only 1 in 3000 procedures naturally reverses itself. So you play it safe for a couple of months, provide a couple of samples, and then you are cleared after about two months.

So if you are in a committed relationship and you've come to the decision that more kids (or any kids) are not wanted, this is really the ONLY way to go. Don't put your other half through a dangerous procedure that has the potential to negatively disrupt a much more complex reproductive system than the ones we own. I look at it as a "man up" issue (or "sack up", more appropriately.)

And if you are a Republican, I recommend this procedure prior to coitus of any kind. Can't be too safe with our country's future.

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LOL! Been doing that in Europe for years - taken you a long time to catch up, hun.
Posted by: harryf200 on Nov 20, 2009 7:20 AM   
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Hello!!! as usual, safe sex is not top on the agenda
Posted by: Little Thunder on Nov 20, 2009 7:44 AM   
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Vasectomies prevent conception but they do nothing to help prevent the transmission of HIV, HPV, both are potentially life threatening diseases. ONLY CONDOMS will do that. 1 in 3 women over the age of 40 are getting HIV from their supposedly monogamous husbands. Search Killer Sex and More Magazine for more info on this statistic.

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bandz
Posted by: bandz on Nov 20, 2009 8:01 AM   
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My 1st wife and I began our marriage in 1956 with the understanding that we would neither try to have kids or try NOT to. As it turned out, we found that if we kept to this plan we would soon end up with more children than we wanted or could support. After our 4th child was born we decided that we should limit out family to that number. A vasectomy seemed to be the surest and simplest way to avoid more pregnancies. I had a vasectomy - done in the office of our family doctor - in 1963. I experienced only mild discomfort for a few days and no discomfort or problems related to the surgery since then. I was 33 years old at the time, and have never for a single second regretted that decision. If anything, it enhanced my sex-life, as there were no more concerns or worries about unwanted pregnancies. Years later my wife and I separated and finally divorced. I remarried at age 58 to my present wife who is 30 years younger than I am. Before we decided to get married, I told her that I'd had a vasectomy and that she and I would not be able to have children. She accepted that fact and assures me that she has never had any regrets on that score. I'm now approaching my 80th birthday and am happy to say that the decision to get a vasectomy was one of the best and smartest decisions I've ever made. I agree fully with the comments of the writer of the foregoing article.

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You can always freeze sperm...
Posted by: dhp1029 on Nov 20, 2009 8:16 AM   
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My husband had a vasectomy and it's the best thing EVER. We have two kids and are happy with them. Quantity/quality. Hormonal birth control for women causes all kinds of physical issues and has serious, potentially fatal risks which increase with age. Female sterilization is invasive, can affect health and hormones depending on what is removed/snipped, dangerous (as it is major surgery w/ general anesthesia) and expensive.

For all you guys worried about a change of heart, a vasectomy has a high rate of reversal success. And you can freeze your sperm easily and for less money than you'd spend raising a 'whoops' child. The slight discomfort is worth it. Women go through a heck of a lot more pain & discomfort on a regular basis just being women. Vasectomy is easy, quick, cheap (compared to ongoing birth control, female sterilization, child rearing or abortion), has virtually no negative effect on health or function, and makes spontaneous sex fantastic! You do know women tend to get more interested during ovulation? Hormones you know...

If you're not in a committed relationship, then a condom is still a good idea anyway (disease anyone?) and how many men trust that a woman is on birth control without knowing for sure. It's called communication, intuition and maybe some good judgment thrown in there. The human species would do well to make vasectomies culturally positive instead of the 'baby daddy' culture we currently have. Maybe it could slow our slide into idiocracy. I envision mobile vasectomy clinics similar to the low cost mobile spay/neuter clinics. I guarantee that if they could come up with a form of female sterilization that is as quick, easy, and inexpensive as vasectomy there would be no problem with cultural acceptance.

So man up! Most women respect a guy who is man enough to take the responsibility for his own procreation seriously. And respect is a huge part of attraction, at least if the woman has the slightest bit of intelligence.

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dlsoops
Posted by: dlsoops on Nov 20, 2009 8:27 AM   
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At age 26 i had a vasectomy. My wife (at the time) had hemmoraged with the birth of both of our boys and i didn't want to risk that again through her sterilizaton. Two kids were enough for us and i have never had a regret. It wasn't just a 'noble gesture' on my part. It was a logical one.

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Arrogance!
Posted by: John Freeman on Nov 20, 2009 9:02 AM   
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That any of us needs to procreate....what part of 7-billion people on a planet that can sustain about 200 million don't we understand! And yes....I managed to avoid the kid trap with the procedure under discussion here.

Veteran '66-68

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There are some risks
Posted by: MonkeyDaddy on Nov 20, 2009 9:11 AM   
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I agree with the post and will probably be getting a "vas" myself in the very near future, but when I consulted a physician I was informed hat there are some risks and the article should have at least mentioned those. Possible increase in incidence of prostate cancer, possible failure of the procedure, chronic pain, etc. Men should make an informed decision about this surgical procedure. Do a search for "risks of vasectomy" and you will get plenty of detailed information and you should talk to your physician about any questions you have.

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kids
Posted by: dennismurphy on Nov 20, 2009 9:33 AM   
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I made a decision in highschool that I didn't want children- and nothing changed my mind all the way through college... I told my fiance at age 25 I didn't want kids... she was "on the pill" - yeah right- child #1 (we shortly after broke up).

Fiance then current wife and I discussed it and I even said I would get a vasectomy and she hit the ROOF! said it was supposed to be "our" decision.. problems in marriage- then- child #2.

After the second child I did go get the vasectomy.
Both boys are now 20 &25- good kids, decent young men. I love them both but just because you know what you know now doesn't negate the fact that one's decisions were removed from you.

If you don't want kids- do the operation- they are reversable if you ever REALLY change your mind

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My son wishes he'd had a vasectomy last spring,
Posted by: harpy on Nov 20, 2009 11:07 AM   
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and for that matter, way before that. I told him to have one, but he was putting it off. His girlfriend (on the pill)got pregnant, and they had a baby last April. Big drain, emotionally and financially, but they love her. She had to have a caesarian, and the doctor was supposed to have tied her tubes when the baby was born. Oops!! He forgot to do the tubal! Now she's pregnant again with a 6 month old, and they just can't afford another child.
Guys!!! Get a vasectomy! Women,even if your guy had a vasectomy, get your tubes tied! Way better than a lifetime of responsibility.

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MUTHA F'ER!...NEVER EVER LET A WOMAN DICTATE YOU REPRO RIGHTS!!!
Posted by: rastaman on Nov 20, 2009 12:44 PM   
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MUTHA F'ER!...NEVER EVER LET A WOMAN DICTATE YOU REPRO RIGHTS MEN!!!

JUST MORE OF THE MANIACAL SADISTIC MISANDRY THAT SOOOOOO PERVADES THIS WEBSITE


YOU SHOULD BE FLOGGED AND SUED (IN THAT ORDER)

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Think before you act
Posted by: eldorso on Nov 20, 2009 1:36 PM   
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Like all serious decisions in life, one must think before acting. This is one of those instances where that rings very true.

If you've had children and dont want anymore or you hate children, then this is for you. If you later regret your decision, too bad....that's life. Think with your "head" instead of your "head" and you'll be ok.

This is a very simple procedure...nothing mystical about it. Men should stop bitching and whinning about how it makes you less of a man, shooting blanks, blah, blah...grow the hell up and educate yourself.

I had mine done over ten years ago...no pain at all and no regrets. If I ever have a regret in the future, well too bad for me...man up to it.
Just saying!

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Depends on what you want from life
Posted by: be marc on Nov 20, 2009 2:50 PM   
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In my case the last thing I wanted was rug rats underfoot. I wanted time to myself, nice vacations, a free-spirited lifestyle. Let those who feel compelled to have children have them.

My tubes were tied at 28. The women I've been long-term intimate with have been most grateful to not have to fret over birth control.

Today is my 60th birthday. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

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simple solution
Posted by: jdhatl on Nov 20, 2009 3:27 PM   
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just go to the sperm bank first, you can still have kids in vitro if you want later (this idea comes from a "sexual revolution"-era book I found at a thrift store called something like "Your Sexual Future")

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I want one desperately, but they say I'm too young (24)
Posted by: moyshekapoyre on Nov 20, 2009 4:23 PM   
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I've been wanting a vas since age 16 or before, never ever ever have wanted to father a child. I already have a kid from my wife's previous marriage. That's more than enough for me.

But no doctor in the U.S. will do it because they are afraid I'll change my mind later and sue them. They say I need to be 30 or have 4 kids to get a vasectomy. I have health insurance and really want to find some way of getting this done on the insurance without shelling out $500, but honestly I would shell out the money if that were the only way (to whom? would Planned Parenthood do it?)

paulinmaine says he got it done in his twenties with no kids, like my situation... if you are listening, please tell me how you did it... anyone please help. send me an email at moyshekapoyre@gmail.com

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Bad advice
Posted by: codejack on Nov 21, 2009 8:23 AM   
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I had a vasectomy 3 years ago, after my 3rd child was born, and this article is just awful. Here are some things to bear in mind:

1. Vasectomies have a much higher failure rate than tubal ligations. My brother-in-law has had to have 3 surgeries because it failed twice.
2. The recovery time is much longer than tubal ligation. I could hardly get out of bed for a week.
3. The pain is EXCRUCIATING; DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE, AND MAKE SURE YOU GET A PRESCRIPTION FOR PAINKILLERS.
4. If it doesn't fail, it is quite likely irreversible. In my case, this is fine, but some other may not like it.
5. The rate of complications is unknown because the doctors do not track it; 3 years later I still have severe pain, but the doctor will not even set me an appointment, and I have not been diagnosed with any complication.


I am all for men taking care of birth control, but do your research first; like this article, there is quite a bit of misinformation floating around.

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Piece of cake
Posted by: MrJack on Nov 21, 2009 10:30 AM   
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Finding myself single again in my late 40's, with college-age children, I didn't want to start raising children at that point in my life. I had heard a few horror stories of men who had trusted their new partners to take responsibility for birth control, only to wind up being daddies-to-be. I did not want that to happen to me, so I decided to get a vasectomy. I was very apprehensive about the procedure, recovery and, most of all, the possible effects on my sex life. The urologist did his best to calm my fears, and I wound up having the procedure. I took all his advice afterwards (24 hours of ice @ 2-hour intervals, rest for 48 hours and no sex for a week). I am happy to report I had zero ill effects and was back to work on Monday (procedure was on Friday). Pain was minimal and I had no problems or loss of sexual function. When I'm asked how it was to go through a vasectomy, I tell people it was way less painful/uncomfortable than a root-canal. It was one of the best things I ever did for myself, and strongly recommend it to any man who is sure he doesn't want any more children, under any circumstances.

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I had one
Posted by: Philip Newton on Nov 21, 2009 9:04 PM   
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At 28, my second child was born. A few months later I had a vasectomy. Painless. Only took one dose of painkiller afterwards, and didn't really need it.

I have a boy and a girl. Couldn't be more pleased. My wife and I divorced. She had another child, and also couldn't be more pleased.

It's far easier for men to nip it than it is for women. They give their all to bring these babies into the world...can't we do our "bit" to prevent unwanted pregnancies?

Eh?

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Not all of the "myths" are "myths"-My Vasectomy experience
Posted by: rickiey on Nov 23, 2009 8:15 AM   
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I had a vasectomy. The reason's are simple, it is quicker, easier and less stressful for the male to be sterilized than the female. Every study says so. The pamphlets say "Quick, easy, painless outpatient procedure". As a relatively liberal male, it was a no-brainer decision.

I went to a highly regarded specialist for the procedure. They told me that if I had it done on friday, I'd be back at work on monday, no problem.

I'll admit it, I was back at work the next monday, but only because I had a non-physical job (college teacher).

In truth, it was an excruciating experience. Friday I had the procedure, and then took some serious narcotics (prescribed). Saturday, although it took an hour (and plenty of percoset), I made it from my bedroom upstairs to the couch downstairs. The concept of climbig those stairs again, was simply too painful to be considered (and I have a comfortable couch), so there I remained until monday morning, when, properly drugged up, I made it to my class.

This was my life for the two weeks following the procedure: Constantly on percoset, and at work I climbed on a stool in front of the class, and lectured for six hours without climbing off.

Yes, the pain was THAT bad. I had a quadruple root canal that was less painful.

For the record, I'm TOLD that my results "aren't typical". And if I had to make the decision again, I would still make the same decision.

But in the interest of accuracy, one should go into the procedure expecting more pain than is advertised.

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Uninformed and lacking understanding
Posted by: cdmsr on Nov 23, 2009 12:30 PM   
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Often, the desire to avoid impregnating a woman isn't synonymous with not wanting to have cildren. It's about not wanting to have children NOW or not having children with YOU. (You being a generic female, not the author.) It is about sex without consequence -- a long and oft-stated goal of feminism.

Also, for those seeking a permanent solution, there is a new procedure available for women desiring sterilization. It can be performed in an OB/GYN's office, much like a D&C and consists of the insertion of an instrument into the fallopian openings and the release of a mildly caustic material. This results in an irritation that causes scarring that blocks the tubes.

This procedure is less painful, risky and expensive than vasectomy or tubal ligation. Being performed in the office, most insurance covers it as a standard procedure requiring a standard office-visit copay.

Of course, none of these options address STD's. Condoms remain the safest method of contraception combined with infection prevention.

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If there was a male birth control pill or patch available, I would definitely opt for that
Posted by: charles000 on Dec 6, 2009 2:09 PM   
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Realistically, I'm more than a bit squeamish when it comes to any sort of surgery, especially when it involves operations in that region of the body.

Also, I believe it is a permanent alteration.

I would gladly take a pill, apply a patch, or even get a shot if such was available for male birth control.

I completely agree and empathize with the disparity between the genders when it comes to family planning issues.

It's a bit odd, actually, that the big biotech / pharma companies have yet to invent such a product. I would think this would be a "big ticket" marketshare item - and yet, current science cannot provide such an obvious remedy / product?

Anyway, in principal, I do agree with the context of the article.

Just wish us "guys" had more options to work with

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I did a veasectomie
Posted by: richholland on Nov 20, 2009 12:09 AM   
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at age 45 my wife 44got a baby unwanted.
As a socialdemocrate I took vasectomie.
Now I learn AL GORE the greeniest american ever has 4 kids.
At 51 I divorced my new wife wants a baby so I am advicing men dont do it untill your 66.

Why it is OK for Islamic papa s to have 7 to 10 kids.

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Sorry but no...
Posted by: cordas on Nov 20, 2009 1:11 AM   
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A vasectomy isn't realistically a viable form of birth control for us blokes, because it isn't reliably reversible. Its sterilisation not contraception.

Yes I can see how for many men it is acceptable (my brother had one last year because he and his wife feel 3 kids is enough), but for many other men the idea of never being able to be a father (again) is simply unpalatable.

Just out of interest would women be any more likely to trust a bloke saying he has had the snip than they would be of a bloke saying he was on the pill (assuming a male pill was available)?

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No regrets
Posted by: paulinmaine on Nov 20, 2009 2:45 AM   
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I had a vasectomy in my mid 20's and have no regrets about doing it. I'm currently 40. I was married at the time and my wife already had a child from a previous relationship. The choice between her having the surgery and me having it was an easy one. The procedure was much easier and safer for me. Since that time I have been in several long term relationships(we divorced), and having had the procedure has allowed the women I have been with to forgo the hormones and such. You do, of course, want to be sure that a change in relationship status or circumstances might not lead to a change of heart. Or as sure as you can be. For me, it was a simple, relatively pain free procedure, that I have been very happy I made.

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Best money I ever spent!
Posted by: Farasien on Nov 20, 2009 4:36 AM   
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My wife and I decided a month or two before we got married not to do the kids thing (kids, in general, suck in my opinion). I went to the doctor, went to the hospital a week later and got the procedure done for about $500. A little tender for a few days, but after that I was back in the game with no residual problems or any of the bullshit issues those rumors like to scare you about. Been married happily for just over 5 years now, and not a single regret since.

Guys, if you're serious about not going broke raising a family, this really is the only way to go.

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I don't see young girls going for it
Posted by: Bitter_Boy on Nov 20, 2009 5:13 AM   
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I'm in my 20's and I've considered a vascetomy, but I'm afraid it will be a turnoff for any women I meet in the future. I really don't want to limit myself to the 10% or so of available women who don't want kids. At least now I can lie to the woman on the first date and say that kids are a possibility. It would be hard to say that with a straight face when I'm obviously shooting blanks.

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Puttin their Balls on the Table!!
Posted by: Purple Girl on Nov 20, 2009 5:15 AM   
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This 'whistling past the Graveyard' by both males of the Pro Life movement and pro choice has gone on long enough.
Lets be honest keeping abortion legal is advantageous to men as well. They get to keep their shooter loaded, if not for future procreation, then helping sustain their machismo image.
"Yeah Baby you can have an abortion if your Pill (ETC!!!) fails". Yes women have more options in birth cotnrol methods, but most are hazardous to our health. A condom, nor a vestectomy are.
If legislation is passed to force woman to undergo the numerous medical procedures require before and during child birth (for starters), then that same legislation had better address what medical procedures the state has the right to inflict on Male citizens as well.If The courts (churchs)can make decisions about my uterus, then I get to make the calls on their balls.
3rd time and you are sterilized. And I'd concede the same for the number of abortions as well. If after three pregnancies you haven't figured out how to avoid it- let US help you.
This religious 'Johnny Appleseed' mentality has been infused in mens minds and has done absolutely nothing for the children.If they talked as much about mens responsibilties to their partners and their kids as they do about Baby 'killers' we might actually begin to see a drop in Unwanted pregnancies and thus abortions.
But hell these asholes don't even want condoms given out in Africa. Apparently they enjoy seeing straving, dying children. They drop big cash a Kinkos getting a blow up Protest sign of an aborted Fetus-Then perhaps we should counter with one of a Hundred Starving children. These are the Eyes of their Religious Doctrine.
These are not Pro Lifers- If they were they would be pushing for single payer Healthcare. They would be demanding more Stim money. they would abhor 'Trickle Down'.They'd be against torture and Capital punsihment. They would be on the front line of the Enviromentalist movement. They would be against the Wars from the Beginning. They would working their asses off to finally bring Peace to the Middle East, not conquer it.
These are Pro Birthers, blinded by a passages in ancient scripture, and thus blind to what is around them. Prime Pickin's for the Corp machine to manipulate. Who really profits from an exploding population? Certainly not the children. Supply and demand. Not much demand for a commodity in surplus- down goes the cost. Corps realize that hopscotching around from the Cheapest most easily disposable labor market to the next is costly,So...why not just drive down labor costs world wide instead. Stay home and push US labor costs to 3rd world economy levels is really all they needed to do.What they have been working on in unison with this "Pro life" movement for decades. Corps don't just fund Army's Teabaggers, They are also the benefactors and Beneficiary of the 'building an Army for God' group.
Don't tell me you give a shit about my uterus, or my tits for that matter, when you've proven you don't give a shit about my country or my kid.

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I can tell you one thing for a fact, it is easier to get laid
Posted by: bitsfick on Nov 20, 2009 5:43 AM   
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when she knows you are shooting blanks. Unless you run across the occasional gold digger, in that case you don't tell her. And she will screw your brains out thinking she is one paternity suit away from the easy life.

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The question is not If but When
Posted by: SBean on Nov 20, 2009 5:54 AM   
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Married at 28. Child born at 30. Vasectomy at 34. I only wanted one, even if child died prematurely. Divorced at 45. New relationship the past 6 months and great, worry-free sex. It was the right decision for me and I could have made it a few years earlier and spared my ex-wife the worry.

Don't do it if you're not ready, but when you are, do it. Start thinking about it and discussing it now.

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Vasectomy is the best
Posted by: CaptainZen on Nov 20, 2009 6:16 AM   
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I done my vasectomy in 1990 and I am very happy with it. I happened to be in Venezuela at the time and there I stayed in the hospital bed for one night, costing a mere $100. It did not hurt at all and I never has pain. I shoot my load as before, maybe even better. I explain to my buddies that I have a gun but I shoot blanks only. Never had any regrets and have left untold unborn souls wherever they are now still. Yes some of my sex partners were angry at first that I could not make them pregnant, but then realizing the financial and emotional trouble kids bring they thank me for it now. I advice all men to do vasectomy in order to prevent future suffering and deny future war masters and evil world leaders their cannon fodder.

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Another happy snipper.
Posted by: peterjkraus on Nov 20, 2009 6:24 AM   
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Yup. After two great kids I had the sperm highways snipped at age 28. I have never rued the decision, and I'm now 68, still married to the same mother of my two sons, and I'd do it again in a heartbeat.

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A vasectomy is the way to go!
Posted by: DrGeneNelson on Nov 20, 2009 6:35 AM   
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I had my vasectomy in 1987 after my second child was born. It was a quick and painless outpatient procedure. I was back at work the next day with only minor discomfort. A few years later, I divorced the mother of my daughters. I have not had relationship problems that are related to my vasectomy 22 years ago. I highly recommend the procedure - particularly for men that don't want children - and the increased probability of divorce that accompanies the attendant financial costs of raising a family. I also recognize that vasectomy is a way to fight back against the greedy economic elite that advocate for overpopulation (because it is so profitable for them.) Employee gluts depress wages, independent of the nature of the work. Population excesses bid up the prices of the necessaries of life.

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"men" in the west
Posted by: drinkycro on Nov 20, 2009 6:36 AM   
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Pussies without [working] balls.

Why bother getting a vasectomy when you're already culturally neutered?

But what do I know; I'm just a crow...with big balls.

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Easy and relatively painless
Posted by: soulrebeljc on Nov 20, 2009 6:42 AM   
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My wife and I decided after our second that we weren't going to have any more. So here were the factors:

Safety - as a surgical procedure, getting the V is way way safer than anything surgical a woman would have to do.

Reversible - some poster above says not reliably reversible. Well then, what's your definition of reliable? 100%? It's reversible in most cases, and I've known a couple of people who have had them reversed successfully (and don't know anyone who hasn't.) Procedures on women, of course, are typically not reversible.

Libido - this was a practical unknown to heavily consider. Turns out it was a non-issue. In fact, when compared with various methods of practiced birth control, all of which in some way mar a complete 'experience', the V actually had the effect of increasing sex drive. Nothing's getting in the way, no worries, don't have to put mental energy into "timing" anything.

Pain - the worst thing was the anaesthetic. Like being zapped in the nuts with electricity. But I don't know if it was pain. Ever had PRK eye surgery? I did that too. THAT is pain. And I'm sure it's nothing compared to labor and childbirth. Once the anaesthetic kicks in, I was awake and watching the whole thing. Couple of tugs, very non-invasive, a little smell of burnt flesh (cauterization, and get a doc with a sense of humor - "we're having a weenie roast, glad you could drop by") and an icepack on the scrote for a day. They say give it a week before you get back in the saddle. Be safe, give it two.

Effectiveness of procedure - I think the stats are only 1 in 3000 procedures naturally reverses itself. So you play it safe for a couple of months, provide a couple of samples, and then you are cleared after about two months.

So if you are in a committed relationship and you've come to the decision that more kids (or any kids) are not wanted, this is really the ONLY way to go. Don't put your other half through a dangerous procedure that has the potential to negatively disrupt a much more complex reproductive system than the ones we own. I look at it as a "man up" issue (or "sack up", more appropriately.)

And if you are a Republican, I recommend this procedure prior to coitus of any kind. Can't be too safe with our country's future.

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LOL! Been doing that in Europe for years - taken you a long time to catch up, hun.
Posted by: harryf200 on Nov 20, 2009 7:20 AM   
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Hello!!! as usual, safe sex is not top on the agenda
Posted by: Little Thunder on Nov 20, 2009 7:44 AM   
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Vasectomies prevent conception but they do nothing to help prevent the transmission of HIV, HPV, both are potentially life threatening diseases. ONLY CONDOMS will do that. 1 in 3 women over the age of 40 are getting HIV from their supposedly monogamous husbands. Search Killer Sex and More Magazine for more info on this statistic.

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bandz
Posted by: bandz on Nov 20, 2009 8:01 AM   
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My 1st wife and I began our marriage in 1956 with the understanding that we would neither try to have kids or try NOT to. As it turned out, we found that if we kept to this plan we would soon end up with more children than we wanted or could support. After our 4th child was born we decided that we should limit out family to that number. A vasectomy seemed to be the surest and simplest way to avoid more pregnancies. I had a vasectomy - done in the office of our family doctor - in 1963. I experienced only mild discomfort for a few days and no discomfort or problems related to the surgery since then. I was 33 years old at the time, and have never for a single second regretted that decision. If anything, it enhanced my sex-life, as there were no more concerns or worries about unwanted pregnancies. Years later my wife and I separated and finally divorced. I remarried at age 58 to my present wife who is 30 years younger than I am. Before we decided to get married, I told her that I'd had a vasectomy and that she and I would not be able to have children. She accepted that fact and assures me that she has never had any regrets on that score. I'm now approaching my 80th birthday and am happy to say that the decision to get a vasectomy was one of the best and smartest decisions I've ever made. I agree fully with the comments of the writer of the foregoing article.

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You can always freeze sperm...
Posted by: dhp1029 on Nov 20, 2009 8:16 AM   
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My husband had a vasectomy and it's the best thing EVER. We have two kids and are happy with them. Quantity/quality. Hormonal birth control for women causes all kinds of physical issues and has serious, potentially fatal risks which increase with age. Female sterilization is invasive, can affect health and hormones depending on what is removed/snipped, dangerous (as it is major surgery w/ general anesthesia) and expensive.

For all you guys worried about a change of heart, a vasectomy has a high rate of reversal success. And you can freeze your sperm easily and for less money than you'd spend raising a 'whoops' child. The slight discomfort is worth it. Women go through a heck of a lot more pain & discomfort on a regular basis just being women. Vasectomy is easy, quick, cheap (compared to ongoing birth control, female sterilization, child rearing or abortion), has virtually no negative effect on health or function, and makes spontaneous sex fantastic! You do know women tend to get more interested during ovulation? Hormones you know...

If you're not in a committed relationship, then a condom is still a good idea anyway (disease anyone?) and how many men trust that a woman is on birth control without knowing for sure. It's called communication, intuition and maybe some good judgment thrown in there. The human species would do well to make vasectomies culturally positive instead of the 'baby daddy' culture we currently have. Maybe it could slow our slide into idiocracy. I envision mobile vasectomy clinics similar to the low cost mobile spay/neuter clinics. I guarantee that if they could come up with a form of female sterilization that is as quick, easy, and inexpensive as vasectomy there would be no problem with cultural acceptance.

So man up! Most women respect a guy who is man enough to take the responsibility for his own procreation seriously. And respect is a huge part of attraction, at least if the woman has the slightest bit of intelligence.

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Posted by: dlsoops on Nov 20, 2009 8:27 AM   
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At age 26 i had a vasectomy. My wife (at the time) had hemmoraged with the birth of both of our boys and i didn't want to risk that again through her sterilizaton. Two kids were enough for us and i have never had a regret. It wasn't just a 'noble gesture' on my part. It was a logical one.

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Arrogance!
Posted by: John Freeman on Nov 20, 2009 9:02 AM   
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That any of us needs to procreate....what part of 7-billion people on a planet that can sustain about 200 million don't we understand! And yes....I managed to avoid the kid trap with the procedure under discussion here.

Veteran '66-68

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There are some risks
Posted by: MonkeyDaddy on Nov 20, 2009 9:11 AM   
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I agree with the post and will probably be getting a "vas" myself in the very near future, but when I consulted a physician I was informed hat there are some risks and the article should have at least mentioned those. Possible increase in incidence of prostate cancer, possible failure of the procedure, chronic pain, etc. Men should make an informed decision about this surgical procedure. Do a search for "risks of vasectomy" and you will get plenty of detailed information and you should talk to your physician about any questions you have.

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kids
Posted by: dennismurphy on Nov 20, 2009 9:33 AM   
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I made a decision in highschool that I didn't want children- and nothing changed my mind all the way through college... I told my fiance at age 25 I didn't want kids... she was "on the pill" - yeah right- child #1 (we shortly after broke up).

Fiance then current wife and I discussed it and I even said I would get a vasectomy and she hit the ROOF! said it was supposed to be "our" decision.. problems in marriage- then- child #2.

After the second child I did go get the vasectomy.
Both boys are now 20 &25- good kids, decent young men. I love them both but just because you know what you know now doesn't negate the fact that one's decisions were removed from you.

If you don't want kids- do the operation- they are reversable if you ever REALLY change your mind

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My son wishes he'd had a vasectomy last spring,
Posted by: harpy on Nov 20, 2009 11:07 AM   
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and for that matter, way before that. I told him to have one, but he was putting it off. His girlfriend (on the pill)got pregnant, and they had a baby last April. Big drain, emotionally and financially, but they love her. She had to have a caesarian, and the doctor was supposed to have tied her tubes when the baby was born. Oops!! He forgot to do the tubal! Now she's pregnant again with a 6 month old, and they just can't afford another child.
Guys!!! Get a vasectomy! Women,even if your guy had a vasectomy, get your tubes tied! Way better than a lifetime of responsibility.

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MUTHA F'ER!...NEVER EVER LET A WOMAN DICTATE YOU REPRO RIGHTS!!!
Posted by: rastaman on Nov 20, 2009 12:44 PM   
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MUTHA F'ER!...NEVER EVER LET A WOMAN DICTATE YOU REPRO RIGHTS MEN!!!

JUST MORE OF THE MANIACAL SADISTIC MISANDRY THAT SOOOOOO PERVADES THIS WEBSITE


YOU SHOULD BE FLOGGED AND SUED (IN THAT ORDER)

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Think before you act
Posted by: eldorso on Nov 20, 2009 1:36 PM   
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Like all serious decisions in life, one must think before acting. This is one of those instances where that rings very true.

If you've had children and dont want anymore or you hate children, then this is for you. If you later regret your decision, too bad....that's life. Think with your "head" instead of your "head" and you'll be ok.

This is a very simple procedure...nothing mystical about it. Men should stop bitching and whinning about how it makes you less of a man, shooting blanks, blah, blah...grow the hell up and educate yourself.

I had mine done over ten years ago...no pain at all and no regrets. If I ever have a regret in the future, well too bad for me...man up to it.
Just saying!

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Depends on what you want from life
Posted by: be marc on Nov 20, 2009 2:50 PM   
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In my case the last thing I wanted was rug rats underfoot. I wanted time to myself, nice vacations, a free-spirited lifestyle. Let those who feel compelled to have children have them.

My tubes were tied at 28. The women I've been long-term intimate with have been most grateful to not have to fret over birth control.

Today is my 60th birthday. It was one of the best decisions I have ever made.

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simple solution
Posted by: jdhatl on Nov 20, 2009 3:27 PM   
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just go to the sperm bank first, you can still have kids in vitro if you want later (this idea comes from a "sexual revolution"-era book I found at a thrift store called something like "Your Sexual Future")

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I want one desperately, but they say I'm too young (24)
Posted by: moyshekapoyre on Nov 20, 2009 4:23 PM   
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I've been wanting a vas since age 16 or before, never ever ever have wanted to father a child. I already have a kid from my wife's previous marriage. That's more than enough for me.

But no doctor in the U.S. will do it because they are afraid I'll change my mind later and sue them. They say I need to be 30 or have 4 kids to get a vasectomy. I have health insurance and really want to find some way of getting this done on the insurance without shelling out $500, but honestly I would shell out the money if that were the only way (to whom? would Planned Parenthood do it?)

paulinmaine says he got it done in his twenties with no kids, like my situation... if you are listening, please tell me how you did it... anyone please help. send me an email at moyshekapoyre@gmail.com

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Bad advice
Posted by: codejack on Nov 21, 2009 8:23 AM   
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I had a vasectomy 3 years ago, after my 3rd child was born, and this article is just awful. Here are some things to bear in mind:

1. Vasectomies have a much higher failure rate than tubal ligations. My brother-in-law has had to have 3 surgeries because it failed twice.
2. The recovery time is much longer than tubal ligation. I could hardly get out of bed for a week.
3. The pain is EXCRUCIATING; DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE, AND MAKE SURE YOU GET A PRESCRIPTION FOR PAINKILLERS.
4. If it doesn't fail, it is quite likely irreversible. In my case, this is fine, but some other may not like it.
5. The rate of complications is unknown because the doctors do not track it; 3 years later I still have severe pain, but the doctor will not even set me an appointment, and I have not been diagnosed with any complication.


I am all for men taking care of birth control, but do your research first; like this article, there is quite a bit of misinformation floating around.

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Piece of cake
Posted by: MrJack on Nov 21, 2009 10:30 AM   
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Finding myself single again in my late 40's, with college-age children, I didn't want to start raising children at that point in my life. I had heard a few horror stories of men who had trusted their new partners to take responsibility for birth control, only to wind up being daddies-to-be. I did not want that to happen to me, so I decided to get a vasectomy. I was very apprehensive about the procedure, recovery and, most of all, the possible effects on my sex life. The urologist did his best to calm my fears, and I wound up having the procedure. I took all his advice afterwards (24 hours of ice @ 2-hour intervals, rest for 48 hours and no sex for a week). I am happy to report I had zero ill effects and was back to work on Monday (procedure was on Friday). Pain was minimal and I had no problems or loss of sexual function. When I'm asked how it was to go through a vasectomy, I tell people it was way less painful/uncomfortable than a root-canal. It was one of the best things I ever did for myself, and strongly recommend it to any man who is sure he doesn't want any more children, under any circumstances.

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I had one
Posted by: Philip Newton on Nov 21, 2009 9:04 PM   
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At 28, my second child was born. A few months later I had a vasectomy. Painless. Only took one dose of painkiller afterwards, and didn't really need it.

I have a boy and a girl. Couldn't be more pleased. My wife and I divorced. She had another child, and also couldn't be more pleased.

It's far easier for men to nip it than it is for women. They give their all to bring these babies into the world...can't we do our "bit" to prevent unwanted pregnancies?

Eh?

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Not all of the "myths" are "myths"-My Vasectomy experience
Posted by: rickiey on Nov 23, 2009 8:15 AM   
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I had a vasectomy. The reason's are simple, it is quicker, easier and less stressful for the male to be sterilized than the female. Every study says so. The pamphlets say "Quick, easy, painless outpatient procedure". As a relatively liberal male, it was a no-brainer decision.

I went to a highly regarded specialist for the procedure. They told me that if I had it done on friday, I'd be back at work on monday, no problem.

I'll admit it, I was back at work the next monday, but only because I had a non-physical job (college teacher).

In truth, it was an excruciating experience. Friday I had the procedure, and then took some serious narcotics (prescribed). Saturday, although it took an hour (and plenty of percoset), I made it from my bedroom upstairs to the couch downstairs. The concept of climbig those stairs again, was simply too painful to be considered (and I have a comfortable couch), so there I remained until monday morning, when, properly drugged up, I made it to my class.

This was my life for the two weeks following the procedure: Constantly on percoset, and at work I climbed on a stool in front of the class, and lectured for six hours without climbing off.

Yes, the pain was THAT bad. I had a quadruple root canal that was less painful.

For the record, I'm TOLD that my results "aren't typical". And if I had to make the decision again, I would still make the same decision.

But in the interest of accuracy, one should go into the procedure expecting more pain than is advertised.

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Uninformed and lacking understanding
Posted by: cdmsr on Nov 23, 2009 12:30 PM   
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Often, the desire to avoid impregnating a woman isn't synonymous with not wanting to have cildren. It's about not wanting to have children NOW or not having children with YOU. (You being a generic female, not the author.) It is about sex without consequence -- a long and oft-stated goal of feminism.

Also, for those seeking a permanent solution, there is a new procedure available for women desiring sterilization. It can be performed in an OB/GYN's office, much like a D&C and consists of the insertion of an instrument into the fallopian openings and the release of a mildly caustic material. This results in an irritation that causes scarring that blocks the tubes.

This procedure is less painful, risky and expensive than vasectomy or tubal ligation. Being performed in the office, most insurance covers it as a standard procedure requiring a standard office-visit copay.

Of course, none of these options address STD's. Condoms remain the safest method of contraception combined with infection prevention.

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If there was a male birth control pill or patch available, I would definitely opt for that
Posted by: charles000 on Dec 6, 2009 2:09 PM   
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Realistically, I'm more than a bit squeamish when it comes to any sort of surgery, especially when it involves operations in that region of the body.

Also, I believe it is a permanent alteration.

I would gladly take a pill, apply a patch, or even get a shot if such was available for male birth control.

I completely agree and empathize with the disparity between the genders when it comes to family planning issues.

It's a bit odd, actually, that the big biotech / pharma companies have yet to invent such a product. I would think this would be a "big ticket" marketshare item - and yet, current science cannot provide such an obvious remedy / product?

Anyway, in principal, I do agree with the context of the article.

Just wish us "guys" had more options to work with

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