How to be a straight ally in post-DOMA America
On Wednesday morning, actress Kristen Bell proposed to Dax Shepard, the father of her 3-month-old daughter, via tweet. She wrote to him, "will you marry me? Xo #marriageequality #loveislove." You see, as the "Veronica Mars" star told Larry King last year, "The reason we're not rushing to get married is because I don't feel appropriate taking advantage of a right that's denied to my [gay and lesbian] friends.”
But then the Supreme Court ruled the Defense of Marriage Act unconstitutional and dismissed a Proposition 8 appeal, clearing the way for same-sex marriage in California.
Bell is far from the first straight person to boycott the institution in the name of marriage equality. Back in 2003, the Village Voice ran a piece about the trend of doing just that among progressive heterosexual couples. The National Marriage Boycott has gotten more than 15,000 signatures from gays and straights alike who have pledged to wait to marry until "full federal marriage equality" is achieved. Shortly after Bell's announcement, a straight couple that had "always said we wouldn't marry while our queer friends couldn't" took to MetaFilter to ask whether they should marry now, given the SCOTUS news.