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The No. 1 Secret to the Female Orgasm

Practice (and comfort) makes perfect.

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Believe to Achieve

Women can struggle to reach orgasm if they aren’t feeling confident about their bodies or the relationship. In fact, women who are  confident that they’ll orgasm are more likely to try a change of tactics if something isn’t working for them. A less confident woman may simply give up without getting her prize.

Feeling good in your skin is also essential. A  study by Femfresh in the U.K. found that half of the 3,000 women they surveyed preferred having sex under the influence of alcohol because it helped them lose their inhibitions, while one in six admitted they didn't even have the confidence to sleep with someone when they were sober. Ladies, if body insecurity is impacting your ability to get down and dirty between the sheets, it's definitely affecting your ability to top it all off with a great orgasm. Addressing those feelings might be the key to better sex. You know, the kind you can actually remember in the morning. 

Women should also take some time getting to know their bodies and how they work. In a 2011 survey by Debra Herbenick, an associate director at Indiana University’s Center for Sexual Health Promotion, women who felt positively about  vibrators and had used one recently reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction - and higher levels of orgasm. If a woman knows what to do down there, chances are she'll be able to help her partner learn the lay of the land too. And when it comes to having great sex, that's a good thing. (Looking for a vibrator. Check out our  sex toy reviews.)
The Key to Better Sex. OK. So maybe female orgasm doesn't have one big secret. But while movies and Internet pornography often make sex look easy, the reality is that it takes some practice to really get it right. Fortunately, that's half the fun.

The Big, Fun, Sexy Sex Book, is a big book full of practical advice for couples. Check it out! And if you have any tips of your own to add,  we’d love to hear them!

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