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I Love Porn -- And So Do Lots of Other Women

An ex told Sara Wong that she was "weird" for watching porn, and that it's only for guys. But she and plenty of other women beg to differ.

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Do not make the mistake of assuming that women do not watch porn. Many  studies show that one in three porn viewers are women. So why the silence? For women, there is too much shame, stigma, and guilt attached to the subject of porn. While society encourages women to exploit our sexuality, it also shames us into silence, forcing us to deny our sexuality in many ways. 

I am not ashamed that I watch porn. But I am ashamed, remembering the guilt I felt when I admitted that I watch porn. And we need to remember that porn is not the only issue women are forced to be silent about. How often do we talk openly about female masturbation? How often do we feel the need to feign innocence and lie about the number of sexual partners we have had?   

To all the men out there: So what if I like James Deen? So what if I too can list my favorite porn stars? Oh and yes, I do masturbate, just like most men. And no, it is not “weird” that I masturbate or watch porn or watch porn and masturbate at the same time. Stop asking me to be silent. I don’t make you deny your sexuality, so stop making me deny mine. To be fair, I am not putting the blame solely on men; it is society that needs to make a change.

So the next time a woman “confesses” she watches porn, try applauding her willingness to be open and let her know that it really should not be a confession, but something to own.

Sara Wong grew up in Malaysia but is now studying at Pomona College, California. She plans to major in English and spends most of her time dancing, reading and writing.

 
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