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How Much Damage Has Eight Years of Conservative Rule Done to Americans' Psyches?

By Mark Klempner, AlterNet. Posted October 29, 2008.


The Bush administration used a politics of fear to diminish our ability to think critically and to erode our capacity to love.
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When I was a teen growing up in Schenectady, N.Y., during the early '70s, I had an alcoholic neighbor whose favorite saying was, "The trouble with people is that they are no damn good." I was friends with his son, and whenever I'd go over to hang out at his house, his father would sidle up to me as though we were in a cocktail lounge, put his hand on my shoulder, and mutter his cranky credo.

I didn't immediately make the connection between his soft-spoken, liquor-laced presentation and my own father's hard, locked-in mistrust of people and the world. But I realize now that if drink could have loosened my father's tongue, he probably would have said the same thing.

As a child, my father experienced the anti-Semitism of the Poles and then barely escaped the Holocaust, fleeing Warsaw with his family just one week before Hitler invaded. Still, that doesn't explain everything. Anne Frank, born five years after my father, got trapped in the same genocide he escaped. And yet, holed up in her hiding place with Nazis prowling the streets below, she wrote in her diary, "In spite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart."

I don't think she was naive. On the same page, she writes of feeling "the suffering of millions," of being able to hear the "ever approaching thunder, which will destroy us too." Yet she held onto her belief in the goodness of humanity.

Over the years I've come to realize how much our basic opinion about humanity has vast repercussions -- not only on our personal lives, but also on our politics. If you assume people are "no damn good," you will probably favor more police officers and prisons, and you may not see anything wrong with capital punishment. You will also favor fences, walls and barriers of all kinds, and believe that it is prudent and perhaps necessary to own a gun. It's likely you will have supported George W. Bush in his pre-emptive war against Iraq, maybe even after you learned that he depended on lies and deceptions to carry it out. After all, life is about choosing the lesser of two evils.

And what if you think that people are "really good at heart"? Though you may be a dove, you will not necessarily be a starry-eyed dreamer. Many of those making the most basic contributions to society fall into this category: nurses, teachers, social workers, counselors. These individuals typically believe that it's better to rehabilitate people than to lock them up, and that negotiation and diplomacy are better than the use of tactics of domination and the last resort of war. They see true peace and security arising from goodwill and generosity, and probably keep a good book rather than a gun by their pillow.

I don't mean to suggest that everyone falls solidly into one category or the other. We have all internalized both attitudes to some degree, and they vie for ascendancy, depending on what is happening in our lives, and in the larger world. In times of peace and harmony we find more people agreeing with Anne Frank. In times of suspicion and mistrust, such as we find ourselves facing now, my alcoholic neighbor's rant has the world's ear.

It's not because of the events of Sept. 11, 2001. Yes, 9/11 was a defining moment, but there were many ways we could have defined it. The way the Bush administration chose has made us more afraid and has given us more to fear. All the wonderful promise of a new millennium has been subsumed by alerts of yellow, orange and red.

There are many ways to make our country a safer and more secure place. As Samantha Collier, chief medical officer of HealthGrades, points out, far more people die each year from hospital errors than died when the Twin Towers fell. According to Collier, "The equivalent of 390 jumbo jets full of people are dying each year due to preventable, in-hospital medical errors, making this one of the leading killers in the United States."

But hospital errors, infant mortality, AIDS and a host of other threats have not been a priority for Bush. Nor does it seem they will be for McCain if he gets elected.

We are fighting the "War on Terror." Fixated on the "War on Terror." Spending our money on the "War on Terror." Not questioning what it actually means to fight a "War on Terror." Not noticing that the very expression "War on Terror" is an absurd Orwellian oxymoron.

Granted, 9/11 triggered a big "fight or flight" reaction, and when we are swept up in fear, our immediate and only concern is with security. Aggression is processed in the same part of the brain as fear, and it kicks in during the "fight" response, as was evident in the aftermath of 9/11. When an entire population feels threatened, group psychology comes into play, increasing the possibility that a strong leader will be able to exert undue influence upon the masses.

The Bush administration took advantage of all these psychological vulnerabilities. Knowing that much of our capacity for critical thinking would get washed away in the adrenaline, they methodically exploited our fears in order to push forward their radical corporatist agenda. But beyond the body count in Iraq and other physical casualties lies the deeper, invisible erosion of our capacity to love.

I don't think I need to make a case that love is as compelling a psychological factor as fear and aggression. Many others have already done this, including the man Bush places his faith in, the one who exhorted his followers to love their enemies.

However, in order to harness the power of love in a civic context, we have to be able to see the good in others: to recognize that those whom we perceive as a threat, i.e. "the terrorists," are human beings too and might even have their good sides.

Take the Palestinian terrorist group Hamas. Though their members have been implicated in suicide attacks and their charter calls for jihad, much of the everyday work they perform involves helping their people. No doubt some of the aid they provide allows them an opportunity to indoctrinate recipients into their ideology. But does that totally cancel out its value?

An official document by the Israel Foreign Ministry indicates that Hamas' non-terrorist activities include "an extensive education network, massive activity in institutions of higher learning, distribution of basic foodstuffs 'for the holidays,' youth camps, sports, care for the elderly, scholarships, sponsorship of light industry and religious services under Hamas' sponsorship."

Although I condemn Hamas' terrorist actions and abhor the kind of fundamentalist thinking that calls for the destruction of Israel, I'm also aware they are doing good work among their own people, and thus have some human decency. Is this such a terrible thing to acknowledge -- or are we no longer willing or able to handle such complexities?

When we read about gang members, whether in nonfiction such as Freakonomics or in the creative work of, say, Richard Price, they are presented as human beings, albeit human beings who often do terrible things. Yet the criminals Bush is obsessed with are people from another culture who speak another language. There's a lot we don't understand about them, and he and his staff have been able to fill that vacuum with pure fear. Thus it has been very easy for them to demonize certain people and organizations, and thereby create a vastly more polarized world.

I acknowledge that there have been individuals who are almost entirely evil. But a Hitler is as rare as a Mother Teresa. To snap everyone onto either side of the moral grid -- as if most of them don't belong somewhere in the middle -- is the modus operandi of fanatics, propagandists and warmongers.

People with some degree of wisdom understand that nearly everyone is an alloy of good and evil. They recognize, like Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, that "the line separating good and evil passes not through states, nor between classes, nor between political parties either, but right through every human heart, and through all human hearts." They also recognize that most people do not want to live in a world where "people are no damn good" and where fear, anger, hatred and war prevail.

Perhaps the hardest truth for progressives to face is how the profound political and moral disappointments of the last eight years have eroded our own sense of hope and our own belief that the electorate can become more informed and less divided. We, too, hate "the Other," but it is the guy in the grocery store with a hunting jacket and six-pack, or the woman behind us at the gas pump with a "Rush is Right" sticker on her Suburban. We, too, have swallowed the banefully binary worldview of the present administration that reduces everything to "us" and "them."

This touches on a confounding problem, one that helps to explain how things have gotten so tangled up: Those of us who have the gumption to push for social or political change encounter formidable obstacles that sometimes discourage us to the point of burnout.

On a personal and neighborly level, in seeking to love, or at least to have friendly relations, we inevitably encounter disappointment, hurt and pain. We want to trust, but we're afraid to trust. We want to lay down our arms, but we want the feared and despised other to lay down their arms first. We want to create a beautiful world, but we think that there are too many people who are going to mess it up, and we hate them for that, thereby marring our idealistic vision before we've even lifted a finger to materialize it.

This leads to a lot of disillusioned idealists. Many people who set out to change the world are changed by the world into cynics or worse. Yet it doesn't have to be that way. The most effective social reformers have been able to transform their idealism into something resilient and enduring.

I believe that an important prerequisite for this is to have, as Martin Luther King Jr. put it, "a deep and abiding faith in humanity." Indeed, the entire American experiment in democracy would have been unthinkable had the framers of our Constitution simply believed that "people are no damn good."

And yet it is difficult in these times to feel our own goodness. The validity of torture as a political tool is debated on the front pages of our newspapers, as our president smilingly strips away huge swaths of our constitutional rights. When our highest elected officials act shamefully and irresponsibly in our name, it has to take a toll on our psyches. And, indeed, in some ways our reputation with ourselves has fallen as low as our reputation with the rest of the world. This is what happens when one has a government in which corrupt people are on top while persons of integrity are subservient or shunted aside.

The fact remains, however, that there are some truly great people in the United States, and a multitude of people with high ideals and a willingness to sacrifice for the good of all. Our leadership simply doesn't reflect us.

When Bush got in, all the neocons came out of the closet, but if Barack Obama wins, their divisive strategies will be challenged. The White House will no longer welcome or be a home to born-again bigots, torture apologists, habeas corpus revokers and the rest of the industriofascist entourage. I also expect that censored truth commissions, muzzled scientists, harassed librarians, bought appointees and coerced generals will cease to be an issue under Obama's leadership. As he extricates us from Iraq, perhaps he could deliver us and the Iraqis from the Shock and Awe strategists, Blackwater barbarians and Halliburton robber barons.

But none of this can happen without our making a renewed commitment to once again throw ourselves into the struggle and subject our hearts to the dizzying roller-coaster whereby our dreams are brought within our grasp, but might just as suddenly be snatched away.

A crucial part of our work will be to resurrect our essential vision of human goodness, and specifically our own goodness as a nation. This is something Obama alluded to repeatedly in his speech at the Democratic National Convention, reminding us that "we are better than these last eight years. We are a better country than this."

But what if McCain wins, and we have, to quote Hillary Clinton, "four more years ... of the last eight years"? We will then have to ask ourselves if it is possible to continue to hold out hope for humanity -- for ourselves, our country and the world -- after our hopes have been dashed again and again and again.

The answer is yes; in fact, this was the attitude of the Holocaust rescuers whom I interviewed, including two who had been arrested by the Gestapo and ended up in concentration camps. They felt that the Nazis may have occupied their country and perhaps even captured their bodies, but couldn't break their spirits. By continuing to believe in the goodness of humanity, they implicitly rejected the Nazis' ghastly worldview and inhumane conception of what it is to be human.

Bush's reign of error has not been nearly as horrific -- for those living on U.S. soil, at least -- but he has done more harm than any U.S. president in my lifetime, and possibly in the history of our nation. It appears that McCain would continue Bush's policies, as well as the underlying attitudes behind them. For instance, at a recent religious forum, Obama and McCain were each asked how they would deal with "evil." Obama stated that evil must be confronted, while noting that a lot of evil has been done in the name of good, and that good intentions are not sufficient to ensure a good outcome. McCain gave a purely militaristic response, identifying evil specifically with "radical Islamic extremism" and vowing to "totally" defeat it. Included was his well-worn line to pursue Osama bin Laden "to the gates of hell."

Even in the event of a McCain victory, however, we must not sink to the level of our leadership. And if the outcome of this election causes us to adopt a cynical attitude toward humanity and succumb to the belief that our fellow citizens are hopelessly misguided, ignorant or "no damn good," or that our political process is hopelessly corrupt, we eliminate the possibility that things will ever change for the better. On a personal level, we sentence ourselves to never really trusting other human beings. Ultimately, we forfeit everything that makes life worth living.

My father never did find the key to unlock his heart. His body wracked with cancer and more emaciated than I'd ever imagined possible, he looked in death uncannily like the concentration camp victim he always feared he might become. My high school friend found me after more than 30 years (the Internet is good that way) and told me, among other things, that his father had died 20 years before. We are both fathers now ourselves: His children are about the same age as he and I were back in Schenectady, while I, having remarried in my mid-40s, am only just now for the first time raising a family.

I'm curious to find out what my old friend thinks about people, having grown up with a father whose mantra was that they are no damn good. As for me, I'm grateful that, unlike my father, I do not have any deeply rooted fears born of trauma, and that the life-affirming worldview I struggled to establish in my youth has stood the test of time. I recognize, though, that the challenge of calibrating my faith in humanity is more formidable than I'd once imagined. I wonder whether I'll be able to impart to my own children an attitude toward human nature that brings out the best in them and everyone whose lives they touch, while preparing them for their inevitable encounters with various forms of evil.

When I look into my baby girl's trusting eyes, or see the ecstatic smile of my 3-year-old son playing with his friends, I can't help but believe that people are really good at heart. When I read the history of civilization, I am reminded that they often are not, especially when they act en masse. And when I watch the news, I have to question what business I have inflicting a world like this onto my children.

I suppose I could cycle back and forth between these positions until my children are on their way to college and I'm on my way to the grave, but instead I'm going to recommit myself to what I think is the spiritual bottom line: that it is up to each of us to infuse life with meaning -- to choose life. Anne Frank, young as she was, understood this. The sentence that follows her quote about people really being good at heart reads, "I simply can't build up my hopes on a foundation of confusion, misery, and death." And neither can I, or you, or anyone.

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Mark Klempner is a social commentator, historian and author of The Heart Has Reasons: Holocaust Rescuers and Their Stories of Courage. He would like to thank James McConkey and others who commented on an early version of this piece: Amy Denham, Paul Glover, Gerry McCarthy, Alice McDowell, Nicole Sault and Richard Silverstein.

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Bush is responsible for the tree that just fell on my garage!
Posted by: Karl.Ben on Oct 29, 2008 5:09 AM   
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""The Bush administration used a politics of fear to diminish our ability to think critically and to erode our capacity to love. ""

Bush is responsible for our inability to love -and to think critically? what about natural disasters like the snow storm that just blew through my area - unannounced - it had to be Bush's fault!

I can agree with the think critically part..after all we are about to put a party in power that has literally destroyed our economy and promises to do more of the same!

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» True statement Posted by: truthlover
» Wake up? Posted by: Cathyc
» I don't agree Posted by: Col. Jackleg
» Penal colony? Posted by: truthlover
» The good the bad and the ugly! Posted by: Karl.Ben
» "Bush is responsible"? Posted by: Ignatz deFyre
» RE: "Bush is responsible"? Posted by: Karl.Ben
» RE: "Bush is responsible"? Posted by: leafsong1
A country that lies to itself
Posted by: weathered on Oct 30, 2008 2:13 AM   
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marginalizes itself.

As long as the FCC permits a MSM to continue to lower the bar, you'll see the cheap, shallow, unesteemable flourish at the expense of quality, responsible, disciplined examples of content.

As a country we're suffering from low self-esteem, little bush is just a sad symptom of this infection.

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Lilly
Posted by: Lilly on Oct 30, 2008 4:58 AM   
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VAGUELY RELATED THOUGHTS LOOKING FOR A MATRIX: 1) This article is about the conservative movement reducing empathy, social justice, and social conscience. 2) Another AlterNet article today discusses the conservative view of taxation as theft (vs taxation as a way of operationalizing social conscience). 3) The conservative website townhall.com, where long threads of comments follow every article, teaches us the conservative Zeitgeist. "Why should I pay for public transportation when I drive my own car" progresses to "public schools are bad and homeschooling is good" and then very soon to "laws restrict my freedom and anyway I protect myself with guns since I go armed at all times". 4) This morning George Will's Washington Post article is reprinted on townhall.com where it is criticized for being elitist, uppity, and snotty; one poster complained that he'd had to look up one of its words in the dictionary. 5) Sarah Palin: no need to say more. And her breathtaking lack of even general knowledge is one of the things her followers love best about her.

So: less empathy, more greed, less cooperation, more demand of individual rights, and a huge trashing of authority and education. Is this what is meant by conservatism? These attitudes don't benefit society---is the purpose of conservativism to diminish society?

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» RE: Lilly Posted by: QuestionAuthority
Imagine another four years of rightwing Republican rule...
Posted by: USAFVeteran1966 on Oct 30, 2008 5:25 AM   
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I don't believe America could survive it.

Vietnam vet/Obama supporter
Eight reasons to vote against John McCain

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Extremism not always bad but being a moderate is
Posted by: nfamous on Oct 30, 2008 6:10 AM   
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Eventually there is going to be a day of reckoning. I'm tired of how Americans have become brainwashed to believe that we should be governed from the center. I don't believe in religion but I do agree with parts of the Bible like where it speaks against being lukewarm. I also like the saying "A man who doesn't stand for something will fall for anything." People need to stand for their convictions and stop trying to please everyone. That's why I hate moderates. No one is really a moderate though because it depends on where the center is defined.

I am also deeply troubled at how extremism is demonized. Yes extremism is wrong when it's from the right because it results in a lower quality of life for everyone except the rich. Left extremism is good though. Everyone eats. Everyone has healthcare. People can smoke weed legally. Nonbelievers can get elected to public office. Gays, blacks and women are treated equally and protected under laws. I could go on so let's not pretend that being an extremist is a bad thing. It's only bad on the right. The moral correct thing to do is whatever benefits the majority, not the minority. If that's not true then we are no longer bound by any survival instincts whatsoever.

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x pat observer
Posted by: davy on Oct 30, 2008 6:25 AM   
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The other day in the highlands of Scotland I saw a T shirt that said, I AM NOT A YANK. Lost a HUGE amount of respect here. Katrina being the straw . . . I know of not one Scot who doesn't see right through Mccain and his twinkie, they can't believe the twinkie. Why is it so obvious to the rest of the world? Because the rest of the world knows war and suffering. The great Scot's poet Robbie Burns, "O a God the gifte ge up to see oursels as others see us." Take a good look and you will know. Here's hoping !!!!

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» 'show me who you walk Posted by: weathered
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Let's look at the data
Posted by: leemiller38 on Oct 30, 2008 6:52 AM   
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Humans are a mix of good and bad. "Humans are no damn good and don't you forget it", is the way I heard the tale. However, even the good we do can turn out to bite us. All of our humanism, cleverness, good intentions and innovations have brought about this disastrous increase in human numbers resulting in massive planetary strife and environmental degradation that threaten our future on earth. "The way to hell is paved with good intentions" also applies and it is hell on earth that is coming our way for our failure to control our numbers and our many greeds. Each day more people are squeesed off the earth due to overpopulation and our media and politicians hardly notice and appear clueless. What is the plan here relative to planetary carrying capacity? Nada!

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VOTE OBAMA
Posted by: xmvince on Oct 30, 2008 7:18 AM   
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The wiseman's greatest advantage is the distrust of his fellow man.

I would much rather have it that we can all trust each other, but people are way too ignorant and tend to value materialistic objects over their morality. It's pathetic, but that is where all our technology and government has brought us.

Can we evolve our consciousness? Or will humanity fail itself with ignorance and greed?

A very possible end is in sight if McCain is elected. Our last stance against this desire-filled government is for Obama to win this election.

"Rightful liberty is unobstructed action according to our will within limits drawn around us by the equal rights of others. I do not add 'within the limits of the law' because law is often but the tyrant's will, and always so when it violates the rights of the individual."
-Thomas Jefferson

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DRY DRUNK
Posted by: grindermonkey on Oct 30, 2008 7:18 AM   
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The two fathers described in this article remind me of my own alcoholic father-in-law who abused his family to no end. Despite reforming himself from drink he never completely cured himself by confronting the damage to his family. He is a DRY DRUNK, a self proclaimed miracle. His indifferent abuse persists to this day.

George W. Bush exhibits all the same symptoms. Political people call him "incurious" but he is a poorly dressed, horribly spoken, disconnected thinker - a poster boy for the distillery industry. The citizens and all three branches of government have suffered from his abuse and it is time to recognize it.

Never again.

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» Dry drunk, my ass Posted by: willymack
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The "conservatives" have ruled for 28, if not 40, years !
Posted by: maxpayne on Oct 30, 2008 7:33 AM   
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And there is nothing conservative about these faux "conservatives" to begin with. Hell, even some of the so-called "liberals" are not liberal either given their caving in to the cons on foreign policy issues such as trade and war and even allowing the definition of liberal to be FUDGED especially on issues such as guns, taxes, and "abortion".

Regardless of who wins the next 4 years, the bankrupt "conservative" ideology isn't going away quietly. You all need to start increasing local election turnouts for non "conservatives" for a change and quit relying only on presidential elections to do the magic.

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a bit of history
Posted by: Levon on Oct 30, 2008 7:46 AM   
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you must know that JFK was ready to pull out of Viet-Nam, this is documented in the series "the ten thousand day war" ,but the right wing went to him and warned him that if he left vietnam then the domino theory would take effect and he would be blamed for losing southeast asia to the commies, so he relented and the rest is history. let's hope obama doesn't make the same mistake.

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» RE: a bit of history Posted by: babs
War is Good for You
Posted by: ClassAct on Oct 30, 2008 7:48 AM   
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Everyone says war is bad, but war has done some good. The US would not be an independent country had there been no war for independence. While the nations of Central and South America managed to abrogate slavery without war, US slaveholding interests were so powerful that war was inevitable when faced with abolition. (The Constitution was itself designed to protect slaveholders from abolitionism through the mechanism of state’s rights, the appeal to which was then used to protect segregation.) Fascism was broken as a political power in Europe only by means of war. Unfortunately the spiteful slaveholders lingered on in the US and maintained a neo-slavery system called segregation. They were joined by fascism, which fled to the US and entered into the campaign machinery of the GOP, invited and welcomed by Nixon, G.H.W. Bush, and Reagan. It is not that people are no damn good, but that wealth and power are no damn good and those who have it or who are fascinated by it will do no damn good while presenting themselves as morally superior.
America has unfinished business with the neo-Confederacy and with the sons of the Nazis that no pieties can conclude and ultimately no elections can resolve.

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» RE: War is Good for You Posted by: Lilly
Fight or Flight
Posted by: LeeAnnG on Oct 30, 2008 8:10 AM   
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A few years ago, some women at Penn State University began to question the idea that "fight or flight" is the only reaction to stress or danger. They noticed that when a bad situation occurred in their departments, the men retreated to their offices, while the women got together in the coffee rooms, talked, and supported each other.

When they looked into the research on the issue, they found that almost all the subjects of previous studies had been men. So, as it turns out, most men actually do tend to "fight or flee." But women more often try to increase communication, attempt to find solutions, and negotiate.

One of the side benefits of this study was that women who became familiar with it used the information to better understand the nature of disagreements with their husbands or male significant others. When women want to talk things over, often men see this as a threat - the desire to "fight." If the men are not willing to fight, they are likely to retreat. In general (and this is not meant as an absolute), the idea of negotiating a compromise is not the first one men pick up on.

A good example of a negative male attitude toward compromise is contained in some lyrics from the song "I'm an Ordinary Man" from "My Fair Lady,":

"Let a woman in your life, and you're up against a wall,
make a plan and you will find,
that she has something else in mind,
and so rather than do either you do something else that neither likes at all."

That is, of course, the extreme reaction to compromise from an admittedly mysogynistic fictional character. However, there is some truth to the notion that certain men see negotiation as inferior to the use of force. Note Bush, McCain, and the rest of the rightwing "bomb 'em and show 'em shock and awe" and "Obama wants to negotiate with terrorists" crowd.

One of the most terrifying things imaginable for men like Bush, Cheney, and the whole rightwing cabal is to be seen as feminine. Caring about social issues, compromising with the "other side," working together to find solutions, and seeing the good in peace and serenity might just indicate the "pussification" of America to them.

Of course, I am not suggesting that the majority of men are enthralled by fake macho posturing. I'm just saying that there are certain types of men, mostly the regressive, right wing faction, who do conflate compassion, nurturing, and kindness with weakness and femininity.

Generating fear and stress has been a defining characteristic of the Bush presidency, along with equating peaceful solutions to problems with weakness and therefore more like women and therefore inferior.

Just ponder for a moment the words used for courage (positive): balls, cojones, stones, rocks, "a real man." Then think about the words and phrases used for weakness (negative): pussy, "like a girl," "like a little old lady," "sissy."

It's endemic in American culture to equate good with guys and bad with girlie. Even left-leaning (and supposedly enlightened) men like Jon Stewart and Bill Mahr use this kind of language all the time.

If Americans are going to find a way out of the culture of fear generated and constantly stirred up by the Right, it is imperative to find a different kind of national narrative, beginning with recognition of both the benefits of courage, assertiveness and aggression in certain situations and the those of nurturing, compassion, and peace when appropriate. And we also need to stop using "feminine" words as pejoratives.

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» RE: Fight or Flight Posted by: Lilly
Gullibility to new Heights
Posted by: xvictor on Oct 30, 2008 8:34 AM   
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Repugnicans had enjoyed hoodwinking the American public for a long time, starting with Ronnie Raygun's smooth-talking, con artist abilities. And Repugnants had exploited the gullibility factor of Americans successfully over the last several years.

There's that old adage, "fool me once, shame on you. fool me twice shame on me". Thanks to Repug propaganda, they were able to fool the public a multitude of times. And while the Repugs show no shame for their hypocritical, wanton character, Americans have much to be shameful about. Hopefully, lessons will be learned and not forgotten easily.

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Eight Years of Frustration and Marginalization
Posted by: Carol Burns on Oct 30, 2008 9:52 AM   
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...and all in the name of Jesus. What a complete and utter paradox. People are finally waking up from the nightmare, and Obama's message of hope is what we need. Obama has consistently said that he can't do it alone; he needs us. He needs our better selves, not the part that responds to hate and fear, but the part we want our children and grandchildren to see. He has put hope in the face of fear, and hope is winning. Thank God for Obama; our country now has a chance to return to the principles on which it was founded.

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Obama IS a "Conservative."
Posted by: MHolt on Oct 30, 2008 10:00 AM   
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He may be running under the "Democractic" ticket however, anyone who claims that Ronald Reagan was a great man, is sick in the head and most definately a "conservative." As one of those black males who is NOT voting for this guy, I wish everyone who is good luck. The hidden elite that controls the power centers of the world and most especially the U.S., pick whom they wish to "represent" the "public."

Both Democract and most definately the Republican party has shown themselves almost all without exception to be FASCISTS! I am sickened by them and long for the day that they are tried {every last one}, for WAR CRIMES and CRIMES AGAINST HUMANITY!

M. Holt

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Get real.
Posted by: Sojourner on Oct 30, 2008 10:14 AM   
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“…as Martin Luther King Jr. put it, ‘a deep and abiding faith in humanity.’"
“…our own goodness as a nation.”
“…it is up to each of us to infuse life with meaning.”

If those represent, and they may not be a fair representation of this long and complicated sermon, the alternatives to politically motivated greed and sociopathology, it is no wonder we repeat the same mistakes over again.

ML King changed my life. And hearing his soaring rhetoric was a joy. But “faith in humanity” is an incomplete thought. Faith that humanity will do what? The nihilists cited also have faith in humanity as “no damned good.”

And what kind of meaning is it that we are supposed to infuse life with? “Everyone is out to rob you” is a meaning we have all heard in the Old Testament stories of betrayal. We hunger for food and we get hot air.

The grossest gloss is “our own goodness as a nation.” That is such an obvious distortion that citing the examples from Native American experience to Hiroshima fills libraries with contrary conclusions.

Beware the one who believes himself the dispenser of goodness. Every monster in human history saw himself as doing good.

We elected Bush, and his father and Ronald Reagan before him. What we need now is ashes and sackcloth not pretty excuses and rose-colored glasses. Otherwise our struggle of the last 25 years will be uselessly lost in lullabies only to reappear as "think positively."

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» RE: Get real. Posted by: willymack
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It takes a villiage.......
Posted by: Spiritgirl on Oct 30, 2008 10:55 AM   
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As much as we might like to blast the current Mis-Administration, the current crisis of humanity that we find ourselves in is our own making! Over the last 30 years, we as a society have allowed ourselves to be dumbed down - it is reflected in our news media, our t.v shows, movies, our food choices, where we choose to live, shop, etc.! As a result our politics reflect that dumbing down! Where else in the world would a grade-B actor become President, or an Incompetent governor Bush become an Imperial President! As a nation we have to take responsibility for allowing ourselves to check out (so to speak) on life, and our involvement with it! Our responsibility is not just to our families, it is to each other as "community"!

If nothing else the last 9 months should be a wake up clarion call to action! Not just about those "cultural" wedge issues that divide us as people, but about those life affirming issues that we all can and should coalesce around: quality education for all, quality health-care for all, access to clean water, affordable housing, equal pay for equal work, quality daycare, truly affordable public transportation, reducing our fuel consumption, renewable energy, and to stop behaving as though we are the police of the world!

But in order to do this we need to clean our own houses! We need to ensure that intelligent people are put into office, and ensure that our international policies, treaties, and dealings with other countries are fair on both sides to all! We need to stop supporting dictators simply because they are agreeable to letting the Exxon/Mobiles of the world rape their energy as this government looks the other way at the treatment of the people in those countries! Yes, we need to clean our own houses, but it starts with a good long and hard look at "the man/woman in the mirror"!

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» RE: It takes a villiage....... Posted by: TheNamelessCity
yes, but...
Posted by: northerner on Oct 30, 2008 12:12 PM   
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"But a Hitler is as rare as a Mother Teresa."

It could be that Hitlers, Maos, Stalins, Pol Pots, Napoleons, GWBs, etc. are rare. Unfortunately, if this is true then we also have to allow that they are exceptionally talented at rising to the top of large groups of armed and ruthless followers.

And that all too many "good" people are able to put aside their human(e) feelings as easily as they put on a uniform.

Mother Teresa may have aided a few tens of thousands of destitute, dying Indians. The others killed tens of millions.

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» RE: yes, but... Posted by: crodo55
» RE: yes, but... Posted by: northerner
You brought tears to my eyes...
Posted by: crodo55 on Oct 30, 2008 12:29 PM   
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Thanks, I needed this. I have been feeling more and more helpless and depressed as I have watched the America I believed in being destroyed, and all the work I have done for 40 years, and all the work the previous generation did to help us all realize the promise of America, being trashed by this administration. You have lit a spark again, and I recommit myself to a better world for all.

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KDelphi
Posted by: KDelphi5950 on Oct 30, 2008 12:49 PM   
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I'll tell you what Bush did to MY psyche. I've always been "way too liberal" for the US, and have registered as a Socialist (so, if anyone wants to know If obama is a socialist--he IS NOT!), and, particularly detested Dubya . (I had family taht went to colege with him, so I knew what to expect--well, not completely).

The day I first saw Hurrican Katrina/New Orleans on the tv--I cried over it for days. For the loss of life. For the loss of our humanity. For the psychopathy of Dubya.For the world seeing this. But, even more, I cried because, I had to admit to myself, that , yes, my govt would do ANYTHING for its own financial interest. And that the govt does not, never will, give a damn about the poor.

You know, you think, "well, at least they would never do "THAT"--well, they did. And they will. And it has changed me forever.

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» RE: KDelphi Posted by: VZEQICVA
» RE: KDelphi Posted by: Lilly
» RE: KDelphi Posted by: caseyf5
John McCain, typical little Caeasar mentality.
Posted by: tiker128 on Oct 30, 2008 1:24 PM   
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John McCain is probably the sorriest so called G.O.P, representative that this country has ever offered for president. McCain is a runt with a serious short man complex. We should have learned our lesson's from history and that is, never allow a little mongrel, shrimp mentality like him to hold high office, ever. The worst tyrant leaders throughout history have all been runts and have been responsible for sending millions of human beings to there deaths, in senseless wars. John war dog McCain, has all the traits of being just that exact type of leader, to a tee, no question about it, all bad. I just can't believe any one would show up for his campaign rallies, what a joke. Winston Scott, Donna, Huntington Beach Ca. John McCain, War mongering dog, Lap puppy mutt for the super rich, international money mongers!

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MENTAL HEALTH IS SET IN UTERO TO AGE 5
Posted by: drricklippin on Oct 30, 2008 1:50 PM   
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That is where we need to focus

Early healthy infant and childhood education is the KEY to our survival as a species

see David Boulton's remarkable work

Dr. Rick Lippin
Southampton,Pa

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IT'S BEEN A LONG EIGHT YEARS
Posted by: VZEQICVA on Oct 30, 2008 2:23 PM   
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The day George Bush was named the new President of the U.S. will be etched on my brain forever. I knew nothing would ever be the same, or at least for a long time. I was struck by the fact that not many peole seemed to mind. They were getting impatient with the time wasted on counting votes. Seems they haven't changed much. Despite eight long years of continuous lies, unecessary war, death and destruction, a surprising number of people still think things are OK. Or do they? A dread fear of something new even if it's an improvement paralyzes these people. Who in his/her right mind believes that John McCain is
fit to run our country. Sarah Palin is down right dangerous. But they stand firm. About the mental illnesses resulting from the last eight years, isn't it just possible that THEY are the sickos? Not us. I admit to having been pretty darned scared from time. Tired of the lies, but I don't think I'm any crazier now than I was eight years ago. At least I know that alot of things are wrong and need serious attention. But for the people who really believe that things are A-OK, now that it crazy. I so much want Obama to win, but I hope I can adjust to liking our president and wanting to hear him talk to us. Understanding him when he does. If he loses, then I'll be in big trouble. Here's hoping. ANNA

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I don't know if my pshche is damaged or not
Posted by: willymack on Oct 30, 2008 3:48 PM   
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But I DO know I'm mad as hell at the bushie rat bastards for being the evildoers that they were and are. The very thought that they'll probably get away with their manifold crimes and the money they stole from us makes me crazy.

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Rajun, if you got to 250,000, you wouldn't give a shit.
Posted by: jreal on Oct 30, 2008 4:20 PM   
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You would have probably gotten their because of all the tax breaks you recieved so that you could save more and buy that comapany you always wanted so that now you will be able to make over 250,000 dollars.

Many people will be thanking Obama's tax break when they are finally able to get into the upper class because they were able to save more.

For all you millionaires out there crying foul. Support your country you assholes. Pay give back to the country that supported your businesses. If you don't like this country then get the fuck out.

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The goodness of Humanity...
Posted by: Cathyc on Oct 30, 2008 4:30 PM   
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"I don't think she was naive. On the same page, she writes of feeling "the suffering of millions," of being able to hear the "ever approaching thunder, which will destroy us too." Yet she held onto her belief in the goodness of humanity."

we humans are born neither good nor bad. BUT, if we are born into a dehumanized cultural environment, such as Materialistic America (starting with our own family) then we cannot thrive, i.e., develop normally.

Our genes, like the DNA of any animal or plant, cannot survive and thrive in an abnormal, hostile environment. Seeds don't grow on stone...

Americans are only now beginning to wake up to the fact that America is not the healthy cultural environment that humans need in order to thrive: that its not the Utopian Paradise they were taught, from birth, to believe it was. It is the modern face of the dying Roman Empire - seeds thrown on stony ground...

If Money is your only god and saviour, then you are fucked!

I'm reminded of the "Divine Right of Kings" philosophy (the doctrine that a ruling monarchy or dynasty believe their right to control the masses is the "Will of God") - a Belief System that is so medieval, its primitive / prehistoric.

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our inability to think,
Posted by: sirios on Oct 30, 2008 6:01 PM   
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critically and our eroded capacity to love has given rise to and allowed the continuation of abuse of the bush administration.

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Politicians are like diapers, change them often and for the same reason.
Posted by: blogoffanddie on Oct 31, 2008 3:50 AM   
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After years of bombardment from mainstream media, the American populace has been dumbed-down and programmed to ignore the substance, realities and the issues that affect their lives and the world around them, and instead focus on the peripheral, pointless and more often than not, irrelevant sideshows created by a news media, government and economic system full of hucksters, political toadies and greedy corporations.

The Orwellian nightmare has arrived. We have become a circus and a nation of voyeurs and peeping Toms. We have become that mindless freak show that millions of simpletons watch every night on their TV's. As a result, we as a people are too distracted, confused or lazy to look up from our TV sets to see or do anything about the destruction that is taking place.

http://blogoffanddie.wordpress.com

The Democratic Party is a lot like a box of chocolates; you’re never sure where the nuts are - whereas the Republican Party is a lot like a chocolate fudge sundae, they tend to put the biggest nuts on top

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jtholmes
Posted by: jtholmes on Oct 31, 2008 9:19 AM   
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Thanks for putting into words what I have always been sure of. The concept of original sin is the most destructive force in our modern society. Bush, McCain, Palin, the christian church and others confirm that destructive concept continuously.

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AS SINCALIR LEWIS SAID FACISM WILL COME WRAPPED IN AN AMERICAN FLAG HOLDING A CROSS
Posted by: cori on Nov 3, 2008 6:20 PM   
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Here we are on the doorstep of another US Presidential Election. If John McCain is declared the winner, everyone who voted should hit the streets and protest. It's that simple. The vote will have been manipulated because all polling up to now suggests Obama will win. And evidence exists already of vote flipping by the electronic machines. Vote flipping, voter intimidation, excessive challenges, voter purging, insufficient equipment (foreshadowed by the MSM TODAY!), secret certifications, inaccurate polling site location information. All these violations have been documented in the past 4 years and there's no reason to believe they won't be an issue this very week. STAND UP FOR YOUR VOTE, PEOPLE. And may God help us. OUR VOTE IS ALL WE HAVE LEFT

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if we don't have the power to vote, we're as good as slaves.
Posted by: cori on Nov 3, 2008 6:28 PM   
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Well, the other is what we call election fraud. This means using the computerized voting systems which we now have in place in at least 80% of the country. Precisely because it is so technical and it's so opaque and it's all run by private companies, private companies that have close ties to the Republican Party, the use of this kind of voting apparatus is extremely worrisome and something that we should be watching very carefully.

We're talking here about a fundamental right, no, about the fundamental right. This is the right on which all our other rights depend, as Tom Paine said. Nothing is more important than this right. This is the right for which millions of our forebears have shed their blood, have died. This is what keeps us free. Only this. If we lose the right to pick our representatives and to get rid of the government when we don't like it anymore, if we don't have that right, if we don't have that power, we're as good as slaves.
MARK CRISPIN MILLER: is a Professor of Media, Culture and Communication at New York University.

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Bush is a sociopath. He has no conscience
Posted by: cori on Nov 3, 2008 6:47 PM   
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In the book A ROAD LESS TRAVELED evil is described
as lacking conscience. These last 4 years have been horrible. Watching our nation go down, millions losing their jobs, Katrina, almost a million Iraqis dead, our soldiers dying for a lie, all the horrible corruption and leaving us in an economic ash heap, taking away all our protections ,torturing people, it's been a constant nightmare. And now the possibility that it won't end. We want to leave this country.

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Mark, thank you.
Posted by: sallyride on Nov 3, 2008 9:51 PM   
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You hit on many topics that are being discussed in professional psychiatric circles today. In fact, I printed this out and intend to more fully explore it, but I did fax it to a number of people.

One of the serious aspects of "now" that you touched on is the easy fragmenting of the "them" and "us" that is growing in our society--a danger at best. We must not permit that to continue. It is not a coincidence, by an far stretch of the imagination, and to let it grow is not serving one another well - we are each only as strong and as well as our sisters and brothers in humanity.

It appears that some feel defensive about "Bush" when indeed, you refer to the "Bush Administration," which is where the emphasis belongs. Americans are loath to accept the fact that betrayal, lies, cheating, abuse, manipulation of our Constitutional rights has caused serious anguish among us, but also an almost intolerable question, what if . . . it happens to me? This also occurs in marriages that have been destroyed by adultery, or chemical abuses - the "non-offending" spouse clings to quite the same responses, "well, he didn't cause the tree to fall on me, " etc.

Thereupon begins depression, and actual chemical changes leading to all number of psychological challenges - turning in on oneself to avoid "casting blame."

Thus, fragmenting the social order, if you will, only further serves to intimidate, and redefine that which has been known, trusted, and relied upon for security for most of our lives. When we talk to the survivors of Nazism not only in Eastern Europe but Switzerland as well they frequently reflect on just this as an early symptom of an all-too accepting populace that gradually fell into mistrusting one another (manipulated by the forces of the time), then intolerance, to the point where they lost sight of the rights and needs of their peers.

It is extremely difficult for humans to face the reality that a choice they made was not beneficial, indeed think it was "wrong." What we must keep in mind is that there is no wrongness to it, there are so many variables in life at any given moment, no one person can ever control control another, and may not believe they can, if they are sane; therein lies the difference.

Oh there is more, much more, and this did not start with GW #43, no, but it did dawn on the populace with a big bang, didn't it. Just look who signed the PNAC - that's a perfect example.

Nothing starts in a vacuum, hence, we could not accept the same "theory" about much since 9/11 - only when we begin to respect, and help one another will be move out of this sphere.

Thank you, again.

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