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Should Beyoncé Get to Be Called a Feminist?

'I've been taken aback by the sisters who seriously can't stand Beyoncé.'
 
 
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Since I woke up on Friday morning to the news that Beyoncé stealth dropped a new album – the self-titled “Beyoncé” — after the “Scandal” winter finale on Thursday night, I have been involved in endless debates about Bey’s right to self-identify as a feminist.

Black women’s emotional responses to Beyoncé’s latest declaration of feminism are akin to white feminists’ reactions to Sheryl Sandberg’s invocation of feminism in “Lean In” earlier this year.

Since I’m  all the way here for Bey identifying as a feminist, I must admit I’ve been taken aback by the sisters who seriously can’t stand Beyoncé. General lack of interest because her work doesn’t move you is one thing. But these sisters have been going hard in the paint about all the ways that Beyoncé’s pop star status, riches and husband with dubious politics (think: Barneys) make her a patron of the patriarchy.

As only black women can, we (yep, me included) have been throwing all manner of eloquently written, righteously indignant shade at each other (y’all should see my Facebook wall), asserting on the one hand that the Bey-haters are the stuffy denizens of respectability policing and declaring on the other that the Bey-hivers are uncritical embracers of a woman with deeply contradictory practices and politics.

I wish I could say that my initial inclination was to embrace this plethora of reactions to Beyoncé as good for black feminism. But actually I really wanted to stage a written takedown of all the haters. No Vaseline.

I know, I know. I don’t do well with the internecine kinds of vitriol and criticism that black women inflict on each other, in the name of critique and truth-telling. I’ve witnessed our vehement criticism of everyone from Oprah to Beyoncé, to the fictional Olivia Pope. So that’s the thing about this debate about Bey’s feminism. For all the intellectual posturing that frames it, our investment in whether Beyoncé gets to be a feminist or not is deeply personal and emotional.

The personal, we keep learning, is political.

To be clear, I don’t want to suggest that black women are overly emotional and therefore incapable of legitimate, critical and rigorous engagement with Beyoncé’s art and politics. We are absolutely capable of it, and frankly, I’m glad our forms of intellectual engagement are not dispassionate paeans to objectivity. We have some skin in this game and we own it.

That’s a good thing.

But we don’t just have skin in the game. We have scars in the game.

Whenever we would get scars as children, my grandmother would break off a stalk of the aloe vera plant she grew, squeeze out the gel, make us hold out our arms and legs and then gently, but firmly knead the healing gel into our broken, burned and bruised places.

It occurred to me after a sister friend staged a “DON’T Eat the Cake, Anna Mae” intervention for me as I talked over writing this piece with her that we are culturally ill-equipped to deal with black women’s broken, burned and bruised places.

To be clear, much of the vitriolic responses to Beyoncé (and Oprah and Olivia Pope) come from these places. Unhealed scars have us choreographing all manner of moves to make sure those places don’t get touched, that the injuries don’t get aggravated.

We don’t trust each other. But we need each other so much. That’s a scary place to be. And in comes Beyoncé, ripping off the band-aids to wounds that we have become conditioned to avoid rather than to confront and to heal. When she invites us to say FTW, “I woke up like this,” she invites black female vulnerability into the picture. It is an invitation to whip out our arms and legs and hearts, to flex, to stunt, to revel in our flawlessness. And to show our scars. It requires trust.

 
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