This hardly sounds like the Dr Laura I used to listen to .She used to believe in very strict adherence to Biblical Standards and the Ten COMMANDMENTS . Emphasizing that were COMMANDMENTS and not SUGGESTIONS .
To blame the wife for the husband's ADULTERY is beyond the pale . I concur with the article in its suggestion that since she can make such a rediculous arguement with NO KNOWELEDGE of situation it can similarly suggest that her analysis is merely PROJECTION . That of course would me that she is either Commiting Adultery
or at the very least contemplating it both of which qualify as violations of the ten commandments .

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We have always heard the complaints and the laundry list of excuses from modern women: "I won't date guys who are losers, I won't date guys who are not going anywhere, I want a guy who has ambition, a good income, prospects, I want a guy who is fit, goodlooking and earns his keep, no more scrubs," yadda, yadda, yadda...

Yet, when a woman like Mrs Spitzer, gets the guy who is fit, smart, ambitious, does good works, has money, earns his keep, she can't find the energy to meet his sexual needs. And that's sad.

I think the reason so many relationships don't work these days has nothing to do with most of the excuses women give; it has to do with women who couldn't be bothered to hold their end up, so to speak.

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inflammatory statements are her last cry for attention for a flagging career as her credibility is gone.

laura, go home and clean up yer own glass house and leave others to their own cleaning. it's the christian thing to do.

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What do you tell an intelligent women with advanced degrees that just wants to stay home with the kids and be a housewife to her husband and family? Do you tell her, as modern feminism suggests, that something is wrong with her? Do you tell her she needs to get a corporate job and climb the ladder of meaningless empty success? When are we going to start letting women be whoever the hell they want to be in this country? Some women are just emotionally unhealthy and make bad decisions for themselves. Are we going to outlaw that so that women are never exploited by men again? You live and you learn and it applies to both genders. Don't get me wrong. The sexism needs to stop. So does the racism but do we really think the sickos that run the world are going to espouse anything that benefits humanity as a whole? Please. Let me know when we are ready to really address society's ills instead of projecting our own personal baggage on to everyone else.

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Will wonders never cease, hahahahaha...

jdfu!

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I believe that Dr. Laura herself ruptured the marriage of another couple when she conspired to steal her present husband. He had been married before and this Snow White broke up his marriage to get him. She is hardly the virtuous woman who ought teach the rest of the world how to stay married.

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I believe that Dr. Laura herself ruptured the marriage of another couple when she conspired to steal her present husband. He had been married before and this Snow White broke up his marriage to get him. She is hardly the virtuous woman who ought teach the rest of the world how to stay married.

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Schlessinger, when are you going to STFU. The whole nation is sick of you.

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Men are responsible for what they do.
Women are responsibile for what they do.
Nobody "makes" another grown-up do anything; they just make it so that certain choices are easier.

But adults know how to make the better choice, not the easier choice.

That's all.

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My first wife used to make me feel like I was the only man alive - the most dominating man she could imagine. I was very successful routinely making well over six figures per year (prior to 1975).

And I still had two bimbos that I romped with, sometimes (2 - 3 times a week) with both - a Ménage à trois

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has never had any credibility...is completely judgmental and I can't imagine why anyone wastes their time debating what she says. She's a moron!

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...is F YOU d[e]r laura. stop blaming women for the things that men do.

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this is not an issue of black and white morality...it sounds to me like Dr. Laura is simply pointing more or less to the practicalities of sex. She is making an assumption that he is an adult (which may be a foolish assumption i admit)and it seems that in the majority of adult males sex takes on the role of coping mechanism more and more as age progresses. Left beyond the wake of shocked amazement sorrounding earlier sexual forrays imagination can be allowed far more substantiated footing in the mature mind. In short wifes are useful, dependable and therefore valued when they make themselves available in recognition of a mans actual needs. Needs women have trouble relating to for the most part. Im young and i find myself getting resentful when constantly harrassed for a snog by my significant other. But sex is this magical can of worms that gets opened for pleasure but spews all other sorts like pandora's. Rejections, fears and worries surface and are reflected away without thought to rebounding consequence. While i seriously doubt that infidelity in this case spewed directly from anywhere other than the perversity brought by power, i do see Dr. Lauras point that this is not an isolated experience. All relationships involve power. It turns us on, changes our minds, and breaks our hearts. The question is what happens when the power struggles so common in everyday life become skewed to the point of non-recognition? Then there are just feelings and an emotional logic the head cant wrap itself around because its spent so long pretending they do not exist. We are not weak creatures, simply fearful and short sighted. It seems that those fault lines we lose track of become rifts we cant overlook. So in short i would agree that when a partnership fails chances are both sides of the table store piles of realizations and regrets behind their poker faces. Just like there are no black and white assumptions being made by the good doctor, I also contest the offhanded remarks made by this author implying that Dr. Laura is unqualified to throw her two cents into the fray. Morality is scary folks i agree. As humans, suspicion of demands and expectations of others is simply self preservation. Be wary but not closed minded i urge you. And men take your ages of thought and writting and exploration of your gendered psyches and shove them up your asses in place of your own skulls if you wouldnt mind. The discussion on and of the female sex is still relatively new. Dr. Laura scares people shitless because get this: shes a feminist and a traditionalist. She preaches the same thing to both genders: personal responsibility. It just so happens that world religions have been occupying this platform for years, albeit with such a medley of alibi's the integrity and purity of intent is far from beyond reproach. Personally the biggest insult i find as a voter in this whole fiasco is that here I wholeheartedly hand over tax money all year long with the direct intention of seeing atleast a portion of that sum directed towards alleviating need in Africa where the aids epidemic is a true autrocity and this asshole is spreading his fluids all over without any thought or visible consideration as to how his actions contribute to this growing global problem. Prostitution is a different deal than promiscuity. The prostitute becomes the equivalent of a petrey dish, a breeding ground for disease, as biological materials compile and react.

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primarily because both partners put the relationship on automatic pilot. They cease creating it. I'll bet dollars to dildos that a marriage where partners renewed their commitment on a yearly basis, with either partner having the option to leave scot free at the end of the year, would keep partners interested in keeping the marriage created. There's no way you could simply coast along assuming he or she would be there "until death do us part." That's a relationship that would thrive and continue to grow because both people were interested in it on a daily basis. They'd have to be. There was an old manager of the Brooklyn/Los Angeles Dodgers named Walter Alston who managed the club for 24 years. He never had more than a one year contract and was the most successful Dodger manager in club history. He said he did the same thing with his wife. It's a concept worth looking at.

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